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kingpepe8006 @sh.itjust.works

Have your parents ever said something so unhinged that you’re just left standing there like🧍‍♂️?

Mine hit me with the “We're spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.”

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  • The day my niece was born, my mom had asked me to wake her up so that she could be there after the birth.

    Apparently, me actually doing what she asked me to do turned out to be a grave insult.

    She ended up yelling and screaming at me, which triggered me, so I started yelling and screaming at her, and then she hit me with the only thing she could think of to actually hurt me.

    See, from before I get into that, I've got to explain that from the time I was 15 until I graduated high school at 17, my mom and my stepdad essentially locked me in my room and only let me out for punishment, which was digging up stumps in the backyard or picking up a rock from one pile and hauling it to another pile, picking up a different rock from that pile, hauling that one to the third pile, back and forth. for eight to ten hours a day, And for going to school, just enough to prevent CPS from being called on them.

    There was also a healthy dose of corporal punishment on top of that, being beaten for half an hour or longer for the smallest infraction.

    It really messed with my head because I honestly thought like at some point they would come to their senses and realize how absurd the entire thing was and apologize and they never fucking did.

    Anyway, now that we've got the groundwork in place, my mom decided she would say the thing that she could think of to hurt me, which was to tell me that her mother, my evil grandmother, had convinced her to do all of those things because otherwise no one would ever love me.

    And why is it that otherwise no one would ever love me?

    because I'm not white

    My mom had shamed the entire family by marrying a Native American and giving birth to his child, And my grandmother, who is evil for multiple reasons, and I'll be glad to go into those, cause may she rot in piss, was a terrible person, had decided that the only way to cleanse the family of the stain of my existence was to psychologically induce my own mother into tormenting me in every single possible way she could.

    And so every single time I think about all the opportunities I missed out on and all the times my mom wasn't there for me and all of the times that I was neglected and abused throughout my entire childhood, it all rolls back to my grandmother being a racist cunt, and my mother somehow not realizing that for what it was, and just being a good little flying monkey and doing whatever her mother told her to do with her own fucking child.

    So yeah, I was abused because my grandmother is racist, and I didn't find out about that until I was 23 years old.

  • "We shouldnt have accepted east germany. They just get out money." And that its their fault for getting a dictatorship

    "I hit and abused you because i was overwhealmed because of you" (i have adhd and autism)

    We dont talk. She doesnt understand why.

    • "I hit and abused you because i was overwhealmed because of you"

      She never outright said as much but I always assumed my mother did the same for similar reasons (considering me and all my siblings have anxiety and depression, I suspect poorly self-medicating, on her end, but I'm not one to armchair diagnose); there was just too much…vigor in the punishment for me to think it was proper formation that was at the forefront of her mind.

  • My relationship with them was already in very thin ice due to repeated trust issues over the years, but what finally sealed it was my coming out to my dad and his response being "it's all because of this woke generation". Coming from someone who I thought had a very left leaning stance, therapy over the following years made me realize just how shitty and homophobic they really were. Turns out I'm probably more bi than gay (also ace), but it still stands.

  • My mother telling me I should not think that she makes any money with me. (Backstory: Was living with her, dad paid alimony child support). I was baffled, because even when I lowkey suspected that, it was not even a relevant thing for our conversation at this time.

    A few years later, when I wanted to move out for studying it was suddendly a problem, because she could not make the full payments for her house without the alimony child supprt from my dad. So I stayed.

    Some more years down the line I finally wanted to move out, as I had a full time job in sight and wanted to live with my boyfriend. I was in my mid-twenties. Basically the conversation was the same as before, she could not pay for her house without me. She could not answer my question how she thought this would work out. Was she expecting me to live with her until she paid for the house? Because this would be up until my forties, maybe longer. The house is not big enough for two families, so it was never an option for me and my bf to move in. Of course I moved out.

    • What happened with your mom after you moved out?

      • She somehow managed to keep the house, but struggles to this day with payments. Does not want to move in a flat, because the house has more room for possibilities and a garden. Also says I should get the house someday but it is unclear when or how this should take place. She tried to make a deal with me and my boyfriend (now husband) a while ago, but the terms on her side werde very loosley written out and had too much room for malicious intent in the long run. Also the payments are very high, because she made a bad deal in regards of the interest rates, so me and my husband also would struggle financially and we do not want a house this bad.

    • Child support would happen if you lived with one parent and the other parent pays.

      Alimony (as far as I know) has nothing to do with having a kid there or not.

      So I’m not sure why her alimony would change if you move out. It would change if she got remarried.

      Alimony, also known as spousal support or spousal maintenance, is a court-ordered financial payment made from one spouse to another during or after a divorce. Its purpose is to help the recipient maintain a similar standard of living to what they had during the marriage. The amount and duration of alimony are determined by a judge based on various factors, including the length of the marriage, the financial circumstances of both spouses, and their ability to support themselves (this paragraph copied from Google).

  • "Dinner's only a couple of hours away. Why don't you wait?"

    Because I had finished a sponsored fast for charity and hadn't eaten for two days.

  • The monster that raised me was a real piece of work.

    Context: she adopted me and 3 others. The other 3 were adopted when she was a single parent.

    • “I didn’t want you.

      <ex husband>

      did.”
    • “Stick to your own kind.” (In front of my mixed-ethnicity siblings, when I introduced a girl I was seeing to her)
    • ”Ain’t no son of mine is going to be a

      <slur>

      ” (all 3 of my siblings had developmental disorders, I only asked to be tested)
    • “I don’t want that

      <homophobic slur>

      in my house no more, I don’t want AIDS”
    • “If you really hate me that much go back to your removed mother, she didn’t want you either”
    • ”Nobody wants you, I don’t even want you.” (She used this one a lot)
    • ”Where would you be if I didn’t take you in?” (Also used this one a lot)
    • ”Read. My. Lips.” (I had moderate to severe hearing loss back then, and she refused to learn sign language. She would also get right in my face when she did that)
    • ”You a

      <homophobic slur>

      now?” (When I pierced both of my ears)
    • ”If you move out don’t ever come back, don’t call me, don’t talk to me, don’t ask me for diggity shit”

    That last one was fun. I met my partner and snuck out in the middle of the night to fly across the world just to get away from her. She reported me as kidnapped multiple times even after I contacted the detectives AND her to let her know I was only following instructions. Then she denied she ever said that. That was the last time I spoke to her, over a decade ago.

    I’m in therapy twice a week for the past few years, was recently diagnosed with adhd and autism, and non-binary transfem. My partner is Indonesian. She can rot in piss.

  • My dad said various things about “dirty Mexicans”, eugenic stuff about black people or people with severe mental handicaps, and always had some offhand extreme solution for non-conformists who rocked the boat.

    He kept it mostly under wraps when I was younger, but as he got older and the Fox News worm ate into his and his social circle’s brains it started leaking out a lot more.

    Being sent off to “military school” was an occasional threat. Like that was going to magically fix things.

  • We’re spending all this money on you now so you can’t grow up and say we didn’t spend money on you when your were a kid.

    C'mon now, don't be ungrateful. I mean... you made the conscious decision to be born, right?

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