Depression self-help

Ironically you need therapy in order to go to therapy. If someone has issues with overthinking, anxiety about interacting with people, stress/anger issues, depression that makes them unmotivated of course it's going to be hard to go to a stranger they're expected to be their most vulnerable with.

Seriously. I looked into it awhile back for something. My insurance's page was complete garbage. Their provider network is completely useless. Every therapist on there either isn't actually taking new patients, doesn't accept the insurance, or links to a dead site.

You should be able to sue your insurance company $100 for every ghost listing they have in their provider networks.

I met my partner 18 years ago. She started therapy regularly after our first five years together. She started to see some patterns in her behaviour, especially toward me, that she wanted to work on. Since then, she has decided she wants to become a therapist.

On the other hand, my journey started when I tried to access counselling 25 years ago. My GP tried to put me on an antidepressant immediately. I said no. Since meeting my partner and her starting her therapeutic journey, she has tried for a long time to get me into seeing a therapist. It took almost 15 years, but I started about a month ago.

Now, this first therapist has not been mind-blowing in any way. No breakthroughs, no revelations. Really, I don't think we're vibing. But, still, being able to say aloud some of the things that I hide from everyone else is, in and of itself, therapeutic.

The list, above, were my stumbling blocks, too. They still are. Add to the list that I'm an underemployed, visible minority, a father-of-two in a high-stress career, and that I refuse to "adjust [blithely] to a profoundly sick society." I'd rather continue to feel my isolation and my detachment than walk into Walmart whistling and smiling at my good fortune.

All this to say (TL;DR) therapy comes from your own commitment to honest self-examination. Guided, surely, but at least attempted. It won't be found in a pill, potion, or portent. I hope to find a therapist who can challenge me to do better.

I have a completely unrelated question but is the US the only developed country where without health insurance you get no medical care at all?

Now I can't speak for a availability or how you can get insurance to pay for it in the US. I mean you don't even have to have insurance in the US?

But most of your other points are BS my guy...

1. Not that important and a doctor might have suggestions here already
2. The only required stuff should be the same you need to provide any doctor
3. In Europe insurance or doctors will help with that as well
4. You might need to try a few different therapists but they are professionals. They can deal with you
5. Therapy doesn't necessarily require a regular appointment schedule
6. 🙄
7. Same as 5.
8. Again, sucks if you are in the US. In Europe you can take sick leave and go to a facility for multiple weeks at a time if you have severe issues.

If you financially or through some other means cannot do it, sure. But most of the western world has decent access. So go to therapy. Women manage somehow.

Me: "Can I get a referral to a therapist?"

GP: "Uh huh... so, I'm going to need you to take a drug test."

Not to mention it's (usually) expensive

Theraptrees? In this climate?

Quicksilver is the same as mercury though

Well it's definitely gonna work, kill the depression with pure insanity from all the mercury.

Not sure if it's very different in the US, but at least in Europe a lot more women use to opportunity to go to therapy compared to men. I.e. there is space if you look for it.

And for your second point, psychology is a science. Not without flaw, just like any other science. But it certainly works, especially if the patient puts in the work.

You can alchemy your way into making Molotov cocktails, that would help

i bet alchemy could though. let's recreate paracelsus

A key component of dialectal behavior therapy is focusing your sense of injustice in ways that allow you to enact the most change while coming to peace with the things you can't. I started working on a sub about skills building but did get discouraged for a bit by low engagement. The wiki is pretty fully fleshed out though: !DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com

do you think china would better off if sun yat-sen lived longer?

Please sir, source of this?

Ooh, that game that I recognise so well and wanted to play but can't remember the name of!

That's okay, don't feel too bad about it... but if you do I hear there's a potion for that.

I have a job and it's a struggle to find reasons to give any fucks anymore. I used to be paid "enough" and according to inflation calculators, I'm making nearly the exact same amount (in terms of buying power) as I did in 2013; but my expenses are definitely higher.

This isn't a competition but if I can't progress in my career at a pace that even rivals inflation, then what the fuck am I even supposed to do?

My responsibilities have increased, but my buying power is ludicrously the same. It's infuriating.

You're not alone.

Therapy never fixes you problems. It's there to provide you with the tools to handle and navigate those problems and teach you how to use them.

You can't control the world or society or how other people will feel or react. All you can do is controle your actions and reactions. That's a simple fact of life for everyone. I'm not saying your situation isn't different from most other peoples but that won't angry that the world isn't better won't help you in any way. Figuring out ways to navigate that shitty world on the other hand will.

Right? One of the first things anyone will tell you, therapist or no, is to have a fun hobby. I doubt the guy on the channel is merely doing it for the views/money.

Therapists as pentesters is an interesting concept. Maybe if we thought about it like that there would be more interdisciplinary methods.

That's why Isaac Newton is still alive

that's modern nonsense, alchemy was literal

i needed both. i needed someone to talk to about the fucked up shit i needed to talk about, and i also needed the pills. now i don't need the pills anymore (or at least, I'm tricking myself and my doctor into thinking i don't need them anymore) and probably don't need to talk about the shit anymore too.

There are multiple different kinds of therapy. CBT didn't work for me. Reflective listening did. Please don't write off all therapy because one kind did nothing for you.

While undeniably psychology as a field is got some gigantic lingering issues, like one of the worse reproducibility crisis for published papers and the fact they somehow accept outdated ideas (like Freudian psychoanalysis) as just a valid "parallel approach" which does indeed make patients at risk of just throwing money away, there are evidence based therapy options and, for several disorders, therapy is actually the gold standard for treatment.

Some have no pharmacological option, and some have drugs that seem to only work reliably when accompanied by therapy. This doesn't change the valid criticism the field deserves, but we can't write off therapy as a whole.

Personally, people is too crunchy and salty.