It looks like you're right. It's an old book. I read it like 8 years ago. What other books would be better?
This doesn't sound anything like BPD. If I were you I'd get a second opinion and also look into some alternatives that could be causing it. Other medical conditions like gut issues or blood sugar issues can lead to things like this.
You usually don't get diagnosed with a severe condition like this unless you have been doing a lot of shitty things. BPD isn't like ADHD. BPD is a medley of other disorders that can even include things like ADHD. In a lot of BPD people, for example, treating their ADHD can help their other symptoms.
"Medicalizing shitty behavior"? What exactly would be the alternative? If we don't categorize it then how else would we find a community of people to get help. These kind of thought process disorders not only destroy the lives of those who have it but also the ones around them. It's more of a start so people can move forward with figuring things out. "Brain Energy" actually helped me out the most with understanding these "shitty behaviors". These people are fucked in my opinion because they don't think they need help. Unless they are low functioning. The best thing to do is keep your distance or get away completely.
This sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder. My ex did the same exact stuff. There are a lot of books about it. "I hate you, don't leave me" is a really great book to read. Helped me out a lot with my ex.
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