Waldelfe @ Waldelfe @feddit.org

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Really not great. Can't motivate myself to keep studying, gotta find a new job because my contract won't be extended. My boss, who kept telling me everything was good and I did a good job, not only not extended my contract but also wrote me a rather bad recommendation letter. Just told me in a meeting all the "problems" he had with me that haven't been mentioned in any of the previous meetings. Just feel like shit and would rather never work again and spend my life watching TV shows...

Oh, and don't forget that the AfD is getting stronger and stronger and will fuck over my trans best friend and my husband, who wasn't born in Germany and has dual citizenship.

Ich schlage schon ziemlich viel nach :D ist ja auch schon länger her mit dem Lateinunterricht. Zum Glück sind die Sätze kurz. Und notfalls nutze ich Deepl.

Ich habe mir im Urlaub in Spanien Orbis Sensualium Pictus von Comenius gekauft - in der zweisprachigen Ausgabe Latein - Castellano :D Ich fand die Bilder hübsch und dachte mir, wofür hatte ich denn Latein in der Schule. Jetzt wurstel ich mich durch, finde auf jeden Fall die Geschichte vom Buch und von Comenius super faszinierend.

Even if the system isn't completely rigged by then, it's been proven time and time again that the average voter has the attention span of a toddler on sugar. I'm afraid what happens now, three and a half years away from the elections, will have no influence on the elections.

Yeah, that's my main reason for not going to the cinema. I like the atmosphere and I can afford it, but why would I spend so much money just to have the experience spoiled by a bunch of brats jumping around and being annoying.

As someone who loves colors I always find it so sad. I want to buy colorful options of products but often black, white and grey are the only ones available.

Fun fact because I've lived in that region for a while: Count Alexander zu Sayn-Wittgenstein-Sayn ist still alive and inherited the family's castle, which he successfully renovated. It had been a ruin after WW2. He also has a Harvard Business degree. The castle is an event location now and one of very few castles in Germany that are still owned by the original aristocratic family. There is also a butterfly house next to the castles.

My guess is a bit of both. As a woman who's spent some time working in IT, there are still more than enough men who are pissed at having to include women and would jump at the opportunity to get them out of the door or degrade them as soon as possible. Give them an opportunity like "Oh no, now we have to take those women-related things down. Just in case, gotta keep our funding. Too bad, so sad." and they'll jump on it.

Die Definitionen lassen sich aus der Bibel ableiten.

Also wenn wir z.B. Sprüche 31.10-31 nehmen, wird's doch super - die Mädchen werden alle erfolgreiche CEOs.

While I generally agree, there aren't enough hotels who cater to special needs. For example I have two life threatening food allergies. Most hotels will tell me they can't cater to my needs because everything is prepared in the same pots, pans and cutting boards. I can't even have breakfast at most hotels.

The two times when I went to hotels that specifically advertised themselves as being allergy-friendly, I still ended up with 1) hazelnuts as decoration on my steak because it was Christmas and the cook had forgotten about my anaphylaxis to nuts and 2) being told on arrival that contrary to the information via email they only have a breakfast buffet where everything is prepared on the same cutting boards and it's all contaminated with nuts.

And I'm sure I'm not the only one. People with severe gluten intolerance or other food-related restrictions are having a hard time. Hotels just don't give a fuck for people with special needs. AirBnB or camping is currently the only way I can stay in a different city.

That doesn't mean I think what is happening with AirBnB and the cities is great, I just wish more hotels would be accommodating to special needs so they can be an option for everyone. For me it would already suffice if I could use the fridge and just prepare my own breakfast in my room, but most hotels allow fridge-usage only for medicine.

I am sick, my throat hurts and I won't be able to go to the Lord of the Rings concert I've been looking forward to. :( On the bright side, I've finally had the time to install LineageOS on my old Google Pixel.

There was a student in my elementary school class in the early 90s, whose single mother worked as a cleaning lady at the school and supported both of them with that money. They had a small apartment, a car and while she was considered poor, she always had enough clothes, school supplies etc.

"Just do it" is helpful in some cases, but mostly not. E.g. you think that a hobby is cool but you don't feel like you could start it? Just do it, take a course, try it out. It becomes unhelpful quickly when the realities of your life are just different. Telling in unemployed person with debt who is fascinated with flying to "just get a pilot license" ignores their reality. But telling a business analyst who's interested in manga but feels like this hobby would destroy his image, to "just do it and buy some mangas" is totally valid.

I have been struggling financially for most of my life and have received way too often the unhelpful advice to "just do it. Live a little." Just book that 100€ flight to Italy and see Rome. Just get a smartphone, everyone has one now! (That was when smartphoneplans were very expensive here and I couldn't justify such a high monthly cost. Yes I'm older.)

There is way too much "just do it" advise by people that live in their nice little bubble of a well-off, supportive family system and never realize that the only reason they can "just do it" is because they never had to eat rice with tomato sauce for 3 days in a row because there were only 10€ on the bank account by the 26th.

On a similar note, "just get a job, just learn something more profitable/in an industry with high wages" is also an often unhelpful advice. Not everyone can be good at everything. And not everyone can just uproot their lives and go back to school for a few years. Yes, some people can do amazing things like get a masters degree while working full-time and having kids. But this advise, too, ignores the reality of many people. If you have no support system or if you simply aren't cut out for the currently profitable jobs, you can't just magically switch careers. And even if you do: things change so quickly and there is no guarantee, that the currently well-paid job will still be like that in 5-10 years.

That sounds to me like she doesn't even know you are infatuated with her, correct? You mention that you never told her you're in love. What you are doing is unfair both to yourself and to her: If she thinks you are friends, she has no reason to treat you any differently than her other friends. So it's understandable she might take some time to answer if she's busy. How would she know you are expecting more of her?

It is unfair to yourself, because you're keeping yourself in that limbo by obsessing over it. You are expecting her to magically behave in exactly the way you want - without ever having communicated your feelings and expectations. And then you get stressed because another person didn't behave the way you wanted them to. That's like getting depressed because the sky is blue and you got it into your head that it ought to be yellow. The only reasonable thing you can do is work on your own expectations and reactions to other people. You have no influence over other people's feelings, how they behave or whether they like you or not. If you allow things you have no influence over to take control of you so much, you will never be happy in life.

Even if she told you today "I love you" and you get together - how would a relationship work if you can't even communicate a simple need such as "I noticed you take a long time to answer - is something up? I'd appreciate if you could at least write a short 'I'm busy, let's text later'."

And yes, the people who tell you to work on yourself DO get it. One person not reciprocating your feelings should not throw you into such a deep depression and if it does, you need to work on yourself and not date.

Ich bin neu hier. Hallo :) Wir waren gestern wandern. Heute ist überhaupt nichts zu tun auf der Arbeit, mein Kollege ignoriert mich und ich schau mich auf feddit um.