The thing is, thinking that way actually impedes your ability to pass. Passing is not a product of any individual thing but many things, and how people perceive and respond to you depends on lots of factors many of them do not do with physiological gender signifiers. I spent years denying myself everything I ever wanted. I wore loose baggy clothes, I didn’t try with my skincare or haircare, I would obsess about the way people perceived me and tear myself apart in the mirror over every little detail. I was making myself miserable, and holding myself back and being so obviously insecure about these things actually made me less likely to pass. Fully embracing my style and showcasing my curves and my skin has made a massive difference in the likelihood of me passing. I rarely do not pass anymore.
look at you literally describing me!
It’s okay if you can’t today, or if you still want to wait.
is it? i feel two conflicting things:
- if i start now i have a higher chance of being happy
- if i wait i will be more secure and sure that this is right and have a higher chance of being happy
Dysphoria is not what makes someone transgender!
Yeah I know. I've already cut off ties with that friend mostly.
I find Linux to be MUCH easier to use. Granted, this is unusual, especially for an i3wm user, but hear me out: Although Linux has a very steep learning curve and using it seems very hard at first, this difficulty is short-lived. Getting anywhere is significantly faster and requires fewer steps, and the "simplicity" of windows quickly turns into complexity when you actually want to multitask and keep having to resize and click through dozens of windows.
Of course, I also really like the freedom of actually owning my system, and that of tinkering with all the software on it when I am annoyed at something not being how I'd like. Privacy is a nice bonus, but honestly the lesser concern since I already have none anyway by owning a phone and being too lazy to degoogle it.
Severe anxiety & coming out
cross-posted from: https://lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/13974203
Hey, so I [17 MTF] have now known I'm trans for a bit over 1.5 years. Still, I have only come out to precisely 2 friends and my parents, even though I am a member of several groups that are trans-supportive. I have extreme anxiety when it comes to that.
Some reasons that I believe are part of why: (CW transphobia included)
- My parents didn't take it super well and are kind of on the edge between transphobic and supportive. (They have a lot of transphobic views but are generally not malicious about it and try to use gender neutral terms for me most of the time.)
- One of the friends turned out to be quite transmed despite being trans herself, and has invalidated me on several occasions for not having enough dysphoria at the time.
- I'm scared other people won't take it super well and I have no functioning support network.
- I'm scared I'll be seen as some kind of abomination
- I don't really feel like I "de
Severe anxiety & coming out
Hey, so I [17 MTF] have now known I'm trans for a bit over 1.5 years. Still, I have only come out to precisely 2 friends and my parents, even though I am a member of several groups that are trans-supportive. I have extreme anxiety when it comes to that.
Some reasons that I believe are part of why: (CW transphobia included)
- My parents didn't take it super well and are kind of on the edge between transphobic and supportive. (They have a lot of transphobic views but are generally not malicious about it and try to use gender neutral terms for me most of the time.)
- One of the friends turned out to be quite transmed despite being trans herself, and has invalidated me on several occasions for not having enough dysphoria at the time.
- I'm scared other people won't take it super well and I have no functioning support network.
- I'm scared I'll be seen as some kind of abomination
- I don't really feel like I "deserve" to come out since I haven't started HRT yet (and my parents do not sup
Best of luck in the future, and may this community not tear itself apart!
In diesem Kommentar wurde das Deutsch vergessen.
Hier, ich werde das mal richtigstellen:
RegAus sind halt einfach ultra ätzend zu entkäfern.
Sehr schöne Lösung
Dieser regulärer Ausdruck ist inkorrekt. Er trifft nicht auf "Kollegen" zu, aber dafür auf Kollegeinnen, was meines Wissens nach nicht korrekt ist (korrigiert mich gerne).
Der korrekte reguläre Ausdruck wäre entweder für alle Endungen folgendes:
/^(Sehr geehrte|Liebe)( Kolleg[a-zäöü\*]+|s Kollegium)$/gim
Oder die Sternchenvariante:
/^(Sehr geehrte|Liebe)( Kolleg(en|innen|\*innen)|s Kollegium)$/gim
Der trifft zu auf:
- Sehr geehrte Kolleg*innen
- Sehr geehrte Kollegen
- Sehr geehrte Kolleginnen
- Sehr geehrtes Kollegium und das gleiche mit "Liebe" statt "Sehr geehrte".
Ich dachte erst, es wäre ein Bauhaufen.