EsheLynn @ EsheLynn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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I'm gonna give you a little tough love: I think you need therapy.

Like, every week you put a post about how you don't think you're passing and you're ugly, and every week we all try to affirm you. You have to start loving yourself, and we can't help with that. You need professional counseling to find the root of your self-hate.

I get feeling ugly and unwanted. My wife left me a month ago, and, recently, I've been trying to find companionship. But, either people want sugar parents, or I get no f'n matches.

I think someone reported me on bumble for catfishing, and one of my pics was moderated, and I was FORCED to do a verification pic. And now, since my full face is on there, I've went from 150 matches to..... 0. Yes, it's a slap to the face. But girl, beauty comes from within, not without. If you keep not wanting to put in an effort and looking like shit because you DON'T put in effort, well, we can't help you. All these pretty faces get up, look in the mirror, tell themselves they are badass removed who don't take shit from no one, put their makeup on, and face the day with a grimace and a smile. Cuz the world IS going to try to tell us we aren't real or we aren't good enough, but, goddammit, they're wrong!

No, not at all. Just sad cuz nostalgia is all. Cool he wants to travel and meet fans of him and the franchise, it's just.... Again, kinda feels like a bit of a travelling sideshow attraction is all. Maybe it would be better if he retired is my point of view. It would bother me to be reduced to what feels like a circus act or county fair attraction. "Come see the Bearded Lady, after that, get Charles Martinet's autograph!" Ya know?

Edit to add: at the same time, I do get that this is apparently Martinet and Nintendo wanting to continue to work together. Hell, maybe I should take my nostalgia glasses off. He gets to travel the world on Nintendo's dime, and get paid to do it. Probably not too bad of a retirement I guess.

It's just a shame he's been downgraded to what appears to be a sideshow piece. I mean, if he's happy doing it, more power to him. He's been Mario for, like, 20 years? Good luck to the next Mario. Those are some big overalls to fill.

I am happy you enjoy your meal plan, but don't yuck my yum

I'll keep your warning in mind. I genuinely didn't know there was a difference, but it does explicitly say swingers event, sooo...

Everyone there seemed respectful of people's space. There wasn't a large amount of groping or anything like that. Or they're easing me in lol. It's... fairly obvious I'm transgender if that's what some of your concerns are. Even in a darkly lit strip club. I would know, the walls were lined with mirrors I tried to avoid looking at. Unless you were worried about me being drugged, and only I handled my things, in my hands constantly really.

But, ya, I'll try to be on my guard a bit and not get too loosened up.

Did she think she spontaneously grew a uterus and ovaries, or did she not have sex ed when she was younger? I would assume it would be more common knowledge how menstrual cycles work.

If you are going to chess tournaments, you are past the point of getting your ass kicked in chess club. I said it on another thread, but if people are being demeaning and unsportsmanlike, they can get kicked out just as you would any other game. They do it for MTG, YGO and Pokemon TCG tournaments. Bullshittery about trans people aside, this is more of a systemic issue than anything else.

Also, you saying you are on the taller side for cis women is a non-issue. You are a beautiful Amazonian babe, I'm sure.

Cool. Give it time, then. You remember the first time you went thru puberty? Rome wasn't built in a day, friend.

I'm going to a club/party/thing and I'm super excited! The kids are super supportive too. I bought a women's ticket to the event (5$ vs 40$), and then had anxiety, cuz while I dress the part, my face leaves a bit to be desired. It's too angular, and my facial hair grows back so fast. It's so dark, too, I hope my kid can help me cover it when he helps me do foundation and lipstick this evening. But, I emailed the organizer, and they basically said grats for coming out, we look forward to seeing you there, so that's super awesome!

I managed to find me the cutest kinda Gothic outfit at a thrift store that the cashier helped me put together, but the shoes are a bit hard to walk in. I need to practice walking and driving in fancier women's shoes! I've tried posting pictures here, b/c I think I look really good in it, but connect keeps saying posting pics isn't working?

Tonight is either going to be amazing, or I'm going to royally fuck it up by being too much of a wallflower. Let's hope I don't do the latter.

What? I said the opposite. If you're taller, your BMI should be lower. Look, idk what demons you're dealing with, but, ultimately, the decision to transition is up to you. Don't look to any of us weather you should be on hormones. It'll work. Again, dosage is probably ithe issue, and if you are at max dose? Talk to the doc about different meds.

If you think hormones aren't for you, that's fine too. But I am not qualified, and will not tell you positively or negatively weather you should be on hormones

I'm gonna parrot others and say that we aren't licensed professionals.

However...

Unless you are on the shorter side, 180ish should be fine, I think? It's about where I am currently, and I'm not flabby by any means. What do you mean you should have been denied HRT? Are you having health side effects? If the hormone treatment isn't being effective, talk to your doctor to increase your dose. I'm sure it's like other medications: BMI can affect dosage and absorption levels, and every body is different.

If you are concerned about your body image, the only thing any of us can really suggest is diet and exercise. Anecdotally, keto did wonders for a while, but at the end of it all, it all boils down to CICO, calories in vs calories out. Consume less sugars and breads, and try to use more calories than you are putting in.

At the end of it all, talk to your doctor. Maybe it's the delivery method? Perhaps see about changing to a different medication. Injections or patches might do better than pills.

My apologies. I still don't understand. Are you suggesting that women are too fragile to deal with men's posturing, or what? It's fucking chess. Unless someone is arguing there are blatant skill discrepancies between men an women, it still doesn't makes sense why there are divided tournaments. Is the argument women are less strategically minded, or what?

Well, my first senses of euphoria was shaving, removing that dysphoria. And wearing women's clothes. Not being wolfman any more and just being a normal person was exhilarating.

Recent euphoria? I paid for a women's ticket to an event. Felt anxiety, and messaged the event coordinator about the whole "I've been out for like a month and not very passing, and social anxiety cuz familial rejection."

They said, ya, women's ticket was right and 'grats on coming out. So that felt really nice, and I have an actual adult party/event to go to for the first time that isn't work related?! Not some kids birthday party?! I'm excited, scared, and scared I'm gonna fuck this up by being too introverted. I know you get out what you put into these kinda things. The first hurdle is out of the way, and I'm in the door, at least.

I mean, same? If I hadn't moved out of the bible belt ten ears ago... If my kids hadn't came out to me years ago... Well, I'd still be more miserable than I am now.

I can recognize the dysphoria and try to fight it instead of thinking I'm an ugly guy. I'm starting to recognize why I hate my body, and am slowly fighting back to find who I am, one shaved hair, one shirt, one necklace, one technique at at time.

Let's face it, we grew up in a time when trans people were ridiculed at best. Mrs Doubtfire, Ace Ventura. Thank god for the information age, that we can talk like this with complete strangers, and share ideas and positivity and support and love.

I'm quite ignorant on the matter, but what little I've been able to find online about vaginoplasty, don't you have to dilate like, twice a week, at least? I'm no doctor, but sounds like you may have pulled/tore something?

Might be good to just go to urgent care for them to take a look? Wouldn't they at least shrug, go "IDK, pulled muscle?" and give you muscle relaxants if that's what it is? Or to a gynecologist? Someone should probably take a look up in there or something.

I hope you find a medical professional that's actually professional, soon. Good luck.

My first name came from an indie game. In Sundered, an Eldritch metroidvania, the protagonist's name is Eshe. I liked it. Funny part is, I did some googling after the fact. Eshe has Swahili origins, meaning life. Lynn has French origins, meaning "living near a river, waterfall, or stream," or something. Or, as I'm choosing to mean, "wellspring of life."

No point to my story, either. Just letting you know, you can pick your name for any reason you want. Live your life. Kinda the whole point of coming out as trans, ya? Being yourself?

Why is that the metric you use, and not the policies they have? Just because plack people are too smart to live in the frigid north doesn't mean the South is a great place to live

I wish you the best of luck. I hope you find the ways to express yourself without being ostricized by your family and community. If you need support, we are here

I'm sorry it went as you expected.

My son came to me last night, saying he thinks he hates both my mother, and his. I told him, if he doesn't want to hate them, he should talk to them, and tell them what they are doing to hurt him.

If they want to work with him, great.

If they don't, well... Cancers get cut out of the body, ya?

We probably both know what talking is going to accomplish, though. Good luck. I hope, other than that, things are going at least okay for you?