EsheLynn @ EsheLynn @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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As a minneapolite, I would have to recommend Minneapolis! I've seen very little in the way of transphobia, I love my doctors, my kids like their doctors, they like their schools, all in all, moving to Minnesota was the best decision I've made!

Unfortunately, it's quite hard to expat from the US. I've looked into it myself, and, basically, if you aren't some kind of skilled labor, good luck.

Honey, this is your depression acting up again. Talk to your therapist, please. We can't give you the help you need. You are beautiful and loved, and please, take some time for self care. It does wonders for ones mental health.

Why? Shit floats.

While I consider dude a gender neutral term, if someone asked me to stop calling them dude, I would, as it is respectful to them.

What do you mean "excuses to permit yourself to date?" Have you just... not have had therapy for your abusive nature? How do you deal with your "idea of having dominance" in public/at work? You wanted to be dominant over girls when you were, like, 4?

In short, what?

I have recently discovered an invention. It covers blemishes, wrinkles, and has been known to at least one person to help with self-confidence. I call it "makeup."

Joking aside, I'm starting to find that incorporating makeup into my morning routine helps with my self-image and confidence. And a little goes a long way! A bit of foundation or concealer, some eyeshadow, some blush, a touch of lipstick, and in 20 or so minutes, you'll look fabulous! I've only applied it to myself a few times, but getting some help from my kids and some new friends has helped me a lot!

If you aren't comfortable with makeup yet, I suggest finding a few trusted friends to paint you up and give you some pointers, if you haven't already!

Well, some suggestions, to maybe help you feel more in-line with yourself, without being "suspicious:"

Before I even started questioning, some of my favorite socks were some really long, masculine styled socks, but went above my knee. Could give you the feeling of wearing stockings without turning heads.

Maybe you could incorporate jewelry? A simple necklace or bracelet might help.

Shaving my body hair really helped me start to find myself, and was one of my first big hits of euphoria. But, if you are especially hairy, people may take notice, and your partner definitely will.

Maybe talk that one out with your partner first, so it doesn't come off as a surprise and shock them?

Look, I wasn't trying to be inflammatory or anything, just giving you my perspective on things.

Making a blanket statement against any group of individuals is bigotry. I'm sorry you have had bad experiences with some people, and I'm sure some racism can be stemmed from bad personal experiences as well.

I, too, have been told I am abusing my kids by the mere act of coming out as trans. I've been told to kill myself. I reported those messages on my profile to steam, and their accounts are still active.

I've been called a liar for telling my story, telling only the truth, because trans people are terrible, manipulative rapists in their eyes.

So, yes, I feel your pain. But don't perpetuate the stereotypes about anyone, please.

Some on both sides of that coin take it very seriously. Some think, "Yeah, all cishet men are shit!" And the others, who have seen that type of shit in person are like "Yo, wtf."

Maybe I'm just a stick in the mud, but "jokes" like that are as funny as those who spout nazi bullshit or "kill removeds" or racist bullshit as "jokes" to me.

Why, though? Isn't that discriminatory?

A fellow woman of culture, I see!

I want to help, but I feel like you are more venting than asking for help? I'm trying to pick up on that more, trying to be a better listener.

Previous point aside, I feel you. The confusion, fear of losing your family... You can look at my history and feel vindicated in your worries... But I suggest you don't.

This is your story. Tell it how you want. If you think being in the closet for a while longer is better for you, we support you

If you decide to come out, we support that too.

And if, at some point, you may think you are cisgendered, well, we support that too

I'd like to think the trans community is mostly about learning who you are, and being true to yourself, regardless of where it leads, or at least that's how I approach it.

Just, remember to try to teach those around you how to love, regardless of what you decide. The only way we can make the world a better place is to try to teach people that everyone deserves love, compassion, and respect.

I had a really weird realization yesterday that my two sons are my "trans elders."

They have been out for years, and the oldest is taking puberty blockers, while I've been out for just a few months and trying to deal with and understand things about myself that are completely new to me. They have been really good guides when they can, and super supportive.

I'm so thankful for them.

It isn't even that complex if you are doing basic forms. Literally plug in numbers from a document that gets mailed to you January 15.

These are just private companies that typically fleece you out of a percentage of your income tax return.

My ex made us file taxes using "experts" for 17 years, even though I proved to her I could do it myself, and came up with the same numbers the "experts" did, because "they insure you if something goes wrong"

It's a scam. TurboTax, Jackson Hewitt, it's a scam

You're right, that title would have been much less wordy if "United State of America's Internal Revenue Service, the government department responsible for collecting taxes" was added.

I don't understand? Are you threatening me?

Trust me, I never claimed to be a photographer, just an idiot with a phone lol. But ya, I'll take those tips in mind. I really do want to take better pics of myself. Thank you for trying to help!

Oh, I took no offense at all! I get the cool older aunt vibes. I pick up the same thing lol. Ya, I wish I could go all Cali girl, short shorts, crop top, but, it wouldn't be very flattering on my body.

And ya, I just try to make do with what I have.

Okay.

I noticed I do have older auntie vibes on my good days. Not a bad thing, just wish I had a chance to be a hot valley girl, but, not in the cards I guess.