I'm 40 now by Kplx
I'm 40 now by Kplx
Source: Kplx on Mastodon
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I'm not sure how a midlife crisis would look for me because I've basically kept the same weird interests I had as a teen.
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similar, i went from not having transportation besides my feet to having an ebike. we joke that it's my midlife crisis, but really it's just my transportation.
my midlife crisis will involve so many saxophones. when i can afford a midlife crisis.
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I have a very mild case of that in that I bought a weird traditional flute from Japan a couple of months ago. It looked cool and a game character I like has one. A bit hard to play, but I'm getting there.
It'll certainly be a lot more expensive, but I wish you a future crisis full of epic sax all the same.
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Yeah, my midlife crisis was basically, I just got extra bored at work and spent more time doing all the usual non-work activities. Finally resolved when I decided I didn't need to work any more, which gave me a lot more time for all of teenage-me's favorite things. Wasn't even tempted to buy a Corvette.
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I have really enjoyed my midlife crisis (which looks a little different as a woman): lost 30 lbs, began dressing like a scary executive, got rid of the imposter syndrome, and give very few fucks. It has been delightful.
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Please explain the scary executive getup. I am taking notes for my own impending midlife crisis.
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Yeah is this well fitted suit scary, or turtleneck scary. I personally leaned the other way and wear literal rose tinted Lenon glasses now. Fuck it, I tried everything else to see this world as anything other than a shithole filled with idiots, may as well take a metaphor out for a spin
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This has some good stuff: https://www.caspermagazine.com/feature/the-art-of-tailoring-with-an-edge
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🤣 good on you!
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God forbid people pick up new hobbies as they grow older, we should all make as much money as humanly possible and then die i guess.
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Some even try to stay healthy! What a bunch of losers!
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fuck yeah i love money
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The problem with hobbies is they tend to contribute to clutter and as you get older you want less of that.
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I want less clutter so I've got more space for my hobbies
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I've been finally realizing my dream of having a home studio filled with all sorts of synthesizers, samplers, drum machines, effects, mixers, etc. Pretty frustrating since now that electronic music has been incorporated into mostly every genre and there are also a lot of collectors all the now vintage pieces that my favorite artists used back in the day are priced insanely out of reach. Upside is there is a ton of cool new stuff coming out, too much cool new stuff.
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Isn't it all software now?
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Sure you can do everything in software, there's some great sounding virtual synths nowadays. I prefer the tactility of hardware and just plugging this into that and seeing what happens, away from a computer which has taken over virtually every other aspect of life. Plus blinky lights pretty lol. I don't use a computer for anything except to record a stereo mix. It's mostly just to unwind and space out anyways. If I wanted to put together a song with a traditional structure I would probably use a computer. Anyways, I guess a lot of people also feel that way because the market for new hardware synthesizers has been expanding for years now, seems like there's more new stuff coming out all the time, there's a lot of boutique makers in the analogue and modular spaces, guitar pedals as well.
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Retro anything has jumped in value tremendously; for me its been game hardware.
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Damn it. So it seems like I am prototypical 40-something.
- I do own a gravelbike (they are just really fun and also very practical for commuting)
- I love our portafilter. Nicely combines my tendency to ritualistic beverage-preparing (long-time green-tea-drinker) with my wifes coffee-habits.
- I don't do thriathlon but probably would if I could swim decently. Learning juggling and guitar-playing instead, falls in the same category.
Life can be fun, so trying to make the best of it.
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What is a gravelbike?
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Basically a road bike, but kitted out for touring instead of road racing. It's really used to be just bigger wheels and tires but these days road cyclists are running thicker tires as well.
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Hybrid between roadbike and mountainbike.
Someone posted a pic of one in another comment.I have an older one (ok, actually two...) of those:
https://www.salsacycles.com/collections/fargoIt is more on the mountainbike-y side, others are typically slightly less rugged.
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I would be great at the triathlon if the three sports it combines were running, bicycling and drowning.
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I mean, the reason many people fit this in their forties, is because they finally have the time and money to do so.
I was too poor in my twenties to have a nice espresso setup. I make decent money now, but I have young kids now, so no time. In ten years time when I'm in my forties, I'll finally have the time and money simultaneously.
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When I was a young man in the '80s and '90s, I used to dream of owning fancy bicycles. Now I'm old enough and rich enough to afford ... fancy bicycles from the '80s and '90s.
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@ExcessShiv@lemmy.dbzer0.com Myebe we can be perfectly content without a lot of money. I'm 24, just over a year into my first job.
Sure, money's tight, but it feels good to finally have my own income. I bought the camera(nikon zfc) I’d wanted since high school, and fixed up the old mountain bike my dad gave me years ago.Then I realized—whether it’s camera lenses or bike parts—there’s a whole rabbit hole of upgrades. Even with ten times my current income, I still couldn’t afford the top-tier stuff.
Later, I came across some writings by Herbert Marcuse and it hit me: so many of the things I thought I wanted—whether the latest gadgets or other trendy stuff—were actually desires imposed on me. By ads, by what others flaunt. I’ve come to understand that I don’t really need any of that to feel happy. Life can be still full and meaningful without them.
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Brewing decent coffee however is fine (or tea, or caffeine pill it & hydrate) but dang nothing like having a bike that can get into some hills! Until the ski mountains open for winter but can be too far, too expensive
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Are we still on for historical wargaming at 40? Or has that moved to 50 now?
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What's that?
Some kind of LARPing or more the tabletop thing with historical setting? Is the latter even still a thing? Only know it from old movies...
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Can confirm. I did exactly this at 40. Now in my 50's I just traded in the gravel bike for an ebike and bought a milk frother for my espresso machine!
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I went straight to emtb with 41 😬 no espresso machine in the house yet. I‘m too lazy to clean it.
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Hey, gravel bikes are good fun.
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I had no idea what a gravel bike was so here's for the other folks who don't either:
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You're certainly not going to carry a lot of gravel with that bike. Maybe if you added a little carriage?
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Yeah, it’s basically a roadbike with thicker tires, or an older mountain bike with road bike handlebars ment for going over gravel or anything that isn’t asphalt.
I heard people converting mountain bikes from the early nineties to gravelbikes, because the frame is perfect for that!
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Basically a road bike with big tyres and a beefed up frame, sometimes with suspension.
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Everyone should learn new things as often as they can. Pick up a new hobby or skill, become very proficient at it, incorporate it into your life, repeat. This active mental engagement is the best way to prevent dementia and keep your mind sharp.
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This active mental engagement is the best way to prevent dementia and keep your mind sharp.
It's also... you know... fun
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Relevant to many of us on here, this approach also lets you lean in to your ADHD powers to better your life instead of resisting them and stressing out.
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My midlife crisis is degoogling, switching to Linux, eating less meat, reducing the footprint I leave on this world, spending more time with my wife and daughter, treating my recently diagnosed ADHD and not giving as many fucks regarding work. Oh, and I took up archery. Pretty ok I guess. I'm 42.
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This sounds less like a crisis and more like 'getting your shit together'.
You're setting things up to enjoy life more. All power to you!
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Have you considered getting a convertible?
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Constantly
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You're poor.
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90s mountain bikes make great gravel bikes and you can usually get one for dirt cheap. Hell find a steel frame road bike and put some grippy tires on it.
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44 here and zero of this applies to me lol. My hobbies are still video games and art; the same hobbies I’ve had since I was a kid.
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I'd love a bike but I can't afford it, have a place to store it out of the elements, or have a safe place to bike because horrible infrastructure. I'll dream though.
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Yes. I got an electric bike at 55 not 40 (late bloomer I guess) but only possible because work lets me park it inside, and there is room for it inside my house. I do park & lock it at the grocery or yoga or whatever but 95% of the time either I am on it or it's indoors.
With you on the lack of safe paths though. The best they do here is some paint on the road on some roads. The city is trying, it's fought by the county gov though.
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Bikes don't cost that much money, like 3 days worth of rent will get you a pretty basic cheap bike. 15 days of rent should be a really nice bike that will last years. You don't need carbon fiber.
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If you're renting a mansion maybe. I am currently building myself a drop bar steel tourer and have already crossed the "three months apartment rent" line, even without especially fancy components. Bicycles have become expensive over the past 10 years, with e-assisted ones establishing price levels that were previously considered obscene for the mainstream. Then non-electric bikes used their slipstream, so to speak.
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A bolt cutter is ~20€ I think
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Funny how successful mid life crisis is now fancy bike and coffee machine.
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No one can afford the sports car or second home anymore
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never really thought of second home as one but definately sports car. maybe cosmetic surgery
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30 something, regular MTB, Areopress. I’m on the right trajectory.
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Me who just went to see a friend this morning on my fixie "Neat... I totally fit the stereotype!"
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I guess I need to buy another bike...
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Well, as the optimal number of bikes is generally accepted to be n+1 ... 🤷♂️
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I can't find a single job to save my life because all the job postings are saturated, what's wrong with me?
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The only thing wrong, judging by that statement, is the hellscape you (and I) live in.
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Nothing is wrong with you, the job market is a hellscape. It's a job posting written by AI being applied to by AI. Most entry level jobs get thousands of applications when a few years ago it was only a few dozen. You literally can't compete in that. My suggestion is network. Goto job faires and meet people who are looking for or match people to jobs.
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Hmm I've been a coffee geek and bicycle nerd (hobby mechanic) since my teenage years, and ran a half-marathon in my mid 20ies ... guess I've been 40 for a long time now ...
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I think the person who drew this comic was born into the wrong generation. (They're a boomer at heart.)
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Nah, the interests are boomer, just different hobbies.
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If it was boomer coded, he'd have mentioned model trains
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no gravel bike at 40? A deeply disturbed individual
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I might take up the tumbak.
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Past the 40s and 50s have and exercise bike, don't drink coffee, and have always been too busy to ask why
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And this is how you get Tang ping movements.
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40s here. I only drink pour-over and French press (I make it myself at home). No triathalons, but I did about 40 minutes of Dance Dance Revolution today. No gravel bike either, but I have a BoS Blitz airbike and bought some adjustable kettlebells this year. And my Steam library and book collection are growing in size.
Eh, close enough.
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I have come to believe that any coffee machine for the home is not worth it. Pour overs at home, machinated coffee belongs in the cafés
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I had a cheap espresso machine for a few years and it was fun for a while and then it just became a pain to clean it regularly and even to do the whole process. Pour over or even fancy instant coffee is my go to for home these days
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DDR! My wife and I used to be pro and are looking at getting a home setup. What do you use?
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Currently just using a cheap Ostent soft mat with some silicone grip pads on the bottom. It’s not perfect, but works well enough for my exercise and I can do up to 8+ difficulty songs (honestly can’t handle most 8 currently anyway). It’s convenient to be able to fold the mat up to put away when not in use.
Years back I hard-modded a similar mat, stapling and taping it down to a sheet of 1/4” plyboard and that was fantastic.
If you’re looking for hard pads today, check out L-Tek, they’re about the only one still in business making them.
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Edit - oh, I forgot to mention software. There’s two good options today, Project Outfox (available on Steam) and ITGMania. Both are forks of Stepmania 5.1. Song packs are available online, including both new user stuff and DDR original. I use ITGMania with Project XX Starlight theme for DDR and get most of my songs from https://zenius-i-vanisher.com/v5.2/simfiles.php?category=simfiles
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Yeah, what's with the espresso machine trend? Seems like it's the topic of conversation nowadays. As a non-coffee-drinker I feel like a weirdo.
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No idea... I bought a coffee machine right as the pandemic started, as it forced me to work from home. It's nothing trendy but damn being able to pour 1 bag of coffee beans in, press the button and move on is so damn convenient and (I hope) quite more ecological than those damn pods.
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I liked lattes so I bought a Nespresso, I'd never been into coffee or caffeinated beverages period. I used it religiously for 6 months, got tired of paying for pods, started refilling my pods, then got tired of that. Now it sits on my counter and I bought a couple packs of Starbucks branded pods from Walmart that are strictly for company.
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I am deliberately not buying anything Nestlé, so nespresso is a no-go for me.
I also like lattes so I have a soluble 400g tin from the local supermarket (Carmel latte something, something, super sweet). If visitors want a normal coffee I have a few single serve packets from hotels and such, or they bring their own.
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Dude seems like he could use a hobby
Also bialetti coffee makers are really simple little cook top devices that give you some amazing espresso for the change you've got in your couch. Fantastic little appliance.
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Gotcha - thank you for the answer!
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40something, gravel bike, training for a half century, use a French press.
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Wow, someone real mad about a French press?
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Nothing. You just are unimpressed by comics made by people who are younger than you and think this has to be your personality and even when, who cares?
I'm in that age bracket and I've turned to spunking the little amount of disposable income on amateur radio kit and equipment.
I wish I'd picked up a debilitating cocaine habit instead. It'd be cheaper.
Oh hey that's something I've been vaguely interested in for a while!!! You enjoying it? What do you do?
Very little 😂
No I got into it to learn the theory of it more than anything. I've been faffing about with a VHF setup to see if I could establish a little station that could be heard anywhere in the town I'm in. That's inexpensive to do and you can probably knock together a basic station with decent range for £100 and the time and effort needed up a ladder.
The next step is to look further afield and build a station that operates in the 20m band, but I'm yet to be able to convince Chief Girlfriend that an end fed antenna dangling across the back garden, or a fiver metre whip mounted to the roof is a good idea. HF transceivers are exponentially more expensive, and require some support devices too.
Otherwise, I go "hilltopping" and head up elevated positions with a quarter-wave antenna and a cheap handheld radio to listen out on what's happening. It's good for the geek in me; it's good for the mind being at such pretty viewpoints; and it's good for the body walking or running up hillsides.
Alternatively, I'll sit in the garden while the kids play around with FlightRadar24 open on a device and a handheld radio tuned to the local airport approach frequency, and talk about what an aircraft is or may be doing while listening to the chatter.
So yeah, I don't do a lot really. I live quite close to the coast so getting into marine frequencies is something on my list to do; and speaking to folk worldwide would be a laugh!
A debilitating coke habit?
I've thought about that! seems fun! On the other hand I have choosen the worst, most stressful, expensive and frustrating 40s hobby because I'm like that. 3d printing. Should have gone for the radio. (still spend all my free time doing that )
3d printing is pretty challenging I take it? I've seen pictures of some setups, with all those spools of material. Pretty neat, but probably more difficult than I imagine.