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Who here is incognito?

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"Bazinga"
- audience laugh track

I've often been told I'm too nOrMaL to be autistic but never that I don't look autistic. Have you all been told the latter? I see so many memes about that.
- I'm autistic enough to fuck me over but not autistic enough to get any real benefit.
- Normie here. Those two phrases can mean the same thing. There's a lot of body language processing and behavior processing that all gets lumped into someones "look", if they say "you're too normal" it means the same thing as "you don't look autistic".
  You could probably get nitty gritty and find that someone who is more familiar with you might be more likely to say "you're too normal" because they are basing it off of more than just appearances, but in the long run it's all just based on observations anyway and certain cultures might lean toward one phrase over the other.
- na, thankfully i look normal. you seem the be a rare kombination.

When your 'thing' is technology (computers/coding/hosting/fixing electronics) they tend not to label you as much as ask you for help with their tech.
- Yeah I was trying to figure out what exactly to say here but I really wanted to reply…..
  My first thought was something like I’m not autistic but posts like this make me wonder if I’m just not diagnosed.
  However I’ll stick with your response. I’m clearly neurotypical because my thing is technology
  
  I'm not diagnosed either, But I've got all the flavors of socially awkward and wild unbridled obsession that make me a reasonably decent fit. It took me decades to work out social anxiety sufficiently to hang out with people in public. I'm still not particularly good at it, but if I try really hard, I can tell if others are uncomfortable or bored, and on rare occasion I can even shut the fuck up after they ask me something that touches on one of my obsessions.
  The way I look at it, I've known people who are rather normal and tech obsessed. They know the features of the latest cell phone, They build beautiful gaming rigs from scratch and build themselves a website, maybe even stand up a Plex server.
  But they don't know what all the pins on the ATX power connector do, or know why there's so much trouble getting Linux to access the cellular modems in the phones, or the minutia of h264 versus h265, or if ever tried it to hand code a QR code.
  I could probably be doing a lot more social or environmentally positive with my life. But I like what I like, and I've managed to raise a family. It's just not a train garden in my basement It's a 42U rack.

Me I guess? I mean even I didnt know I was on the spectrum until I was 36.
- Beat 48 😉
  (it's not a competition though, just having fun.)
  
  60! Just now talking the time to figure out what it all means.
- I somehow managed to avoid it my entire miserable life. But then I caught the autism from my daughter at age 41.

I don't know how well received 'Love on the Spectrum' is in the community but I have to say it was mesmerizing when the one lady was on a date with the DJ guy and they we listing off song after song and the key it was in.
- I couldnt watch it because i recognised my own mannerisms so much from that one blonde girl. I couldnt get through it realizing that i'm probably more visually neurodivergent than i thought and it cringed me out LOL (nothing against it, just felt too much like watching myself on tape haha)
  
  I'd say that most people don't mask as well as they think they do, it's just that people also don't pay attention to others very much.
- I typically abhor dating shows, but I really enjoy that one. I felt like that DJ guy was a bit aggressive, but I guess she was happy... 🤷‍♂️
- I couldn't finish that one, chunks of it were infantilising as hell

I'm not necessarily autistic, but when I tell people I'm neurodivergent, they're like "yup" 😓
- I’m not autistic, but if there’s an odd number of steps I have to go up them twice to make them even
  
  Can't you just repeat the last one?
  
  But doesn't going down them also count? Now you've done an uneven
  
  For me it's that I always want to walk on an even number of tiles, planks, or other pieces of flooring with clear and repeating edges.

They specifically say train not model of train so I can only assume it is literally every individual train.

I! AM! A SURGEON!

I mask a lot better when I'm not depressed. (I'm horribly depressed.)
That said I still mask as second nature pretty well as I consistently get the "I wouldn't have guessed you were autistic." response from people a lot. I generally love socializing and I'm pretty good at it from experience and the topic of "people" being an on and off special interest.
- I hope you’re doing better, pal.
  
  Thank you.
  
  I hope they're doing whatever makes the world more interesting, regardless of how it makes them feel.

I hate the train meme for its accuracy... I dispise trains but I ended up working on the railway anyway.
- Who hates trains!? Before you worked on the railway, I mean.
  
  Car and oil companies?
- lol my grandfather has model trains xD
  
  I’m still pissed off that my older brother got my Dad’s model trains even decades later. Now that I’ve been spending a lot of time on home automation, and considering 3d printing, model trains are what could connect them
- I hate ads but I work in advertising.

Growing up in the 80s made me ridiculously good at masking.
Which is to my detriment now that more resources are available. Unmasking in front of neurotypicals is quite difficult for me.

My favourite response to this when is:
"Oh yeah? So what does autism look like? Go on, do your best impression. I want to see."
- I have a neuromild friend who, when I am on a rant because the world works the wrong way, or explaining something in detail that the milds probably don't care about, very politely holds up a little sign for me.
  It's like, "Hey friend, this is a 'tism."
  They've never stopped me, never cut me off, never sighed in exasperation that the autistic guy is at it again. Just a little note that whatever I'm on about is neurospicier than the milds generally like.

In the post about the new convert your colleagues to your faith in the breakroom memo by the Trump regime, I offered an example of what my spiritual workmates might encounter if they raised the topic of Jesus, several paragraphs about the cosmic horror of reality.
The main thrust is that all spirit, whether another subatomic factor, or a manifold like gravity, is transparent to to the standard model of particle physics. It's also transparent to relativity, but we expect that.
And that includes human souls, ghosts, afterlife.
My point was I've thought about and researched existential philosophy at length, possibly to suggest I'm ASD (disclosure: I'm diagnosed), and my evangelical rivals may as well be walking into the Total Perspective Vortex.
- ill read 'the bible' if you read 'blindsight'.

Only from a distance. Ok I wear a big floppy hat so even from a distance!

I compiled a list of 4000 color names and their rgb values.
- When 32-bit color depth came out, a magazine reported a request by a non-computer person to create a list of all the colors. Just all of them. The response was something like
  00 00 00 Black
  \ 00 00 01 Still black
  \ 00 00 02 Nope, still black
  \ 00 00 03 More black
  \ ...
  So a list of 4000 colors, named, might actually be useful at least to give someone a scope of color depth.
  
  That's just fantastic!

Ha. Joke’s on you, everything I do is an autism. Plus I’m a lady. Checkmate redpillers.

I have the kind of AuDHD which almost completely disappears with the right dose of alcohodderall. In fact I can be downright witty and gregarious when that equilibrium kicks in just right, so the true awkwardness is reserved for those who exist in those unfortunate, but necessary windows of sobriety.
- My wittiness just comes out as almost like a tic. Usually a sharp one-liner barb that presents itself in conversation. It's very circumstantial, and often mean. Alcohol basically takes the sharpness and meanness out, and spreads the humor out more evenly. So I'm not silent for 20 minutes and throw in a hardcore jab, I'm just far more sociable, and generally likeable.

I know it's a joke but this literally is my brother. Not always easy to deal with but he is super awesome in all his own ways

hopefully the fucking autism will be eradicated by gene editing and selecting the right embryo or something. it gave me null advantage in life.
- A large portion scientists, doctors, engineers, staticians and mathematicians are on the spectrum.
  Eradicate autism and you eradicate many of our more intelligent members of society.
  Autism is a side of the coin in human genetics, not a disease. It is a gift of our diversity that not all of us think the same way or conform. It gives us an evolutionary advantage even if it makes you seem at a disadvantage due to the rigid, cookie cutter expectations of the modern world. Autism has always been part of us, it just didn't become a "problem" until billionaires needed wage slaves that were efficient little drones who fell in line.
- Or maybe we can just improve society a little bit, rather than advocate for eugenics. For once.
  
  i want to improve my kid because i want it to have a better life than me. i think eugenics is something very nice, if it doesnt involve killing or hurting (living) people.
- Speak for yourself, I weaponize mine in the form of unstoppable Halo lore.
  "Sgt Johnson sex scene? Damn straight it's cannon, and I'd be happy to expand on that topic."
  
  I would like to subscribe to Halo sex lore
- You are not broken. The world around you is fundamentally broken for everyone except for the richest of people. You just have the disadvantage of being able to clearly see how broken it is.
  
  Look, some people have bad experience, some good. Let's listen to both. No reason to tell anyone their experience is not real/true/authentic.
- You were born however and have the right to take up space.
  
  i agree! that is also i think of it, just that its a disability and limits me somewhat, but quitting isnt the solution! :)
  
  See my direct response to the OP.
- Hey, I like being autistic.
- Notice how diversity is a positive in literally every other species?
  
  For a species? Definitely. For an individual? Not necessarily, in many cases not at all.
  
  No, but I do see how literally every other species has some pretty harshly enforced, if you know what I mean, ways that 'weak' members of said species doesn't pass on their genes.
  
  i dont mind diversity much if it doesnt pull down the average talents of a species, which it (always?) does.
  diversity in cowmilk output (lol) in cows for a farmer isnt something desirable, atleast one area i know something about.
  please write an example, why you thought of the comment? thx :). im sincerely interested
- you sound exactly like a rabidly ableist neurotypical when you hate yourself for being autistic
  
  i dont hate myself, that is too strong of a word, but you are probably even right, because im on the edge of being a asperger.
- Someone's still bitter over their trivia night trouncing
- I know you are getting down voted, but I get it and have had similar thoughts. Do I think there is actually anything wrong with me? No, I don't actually have any issue with myself as a person. Nor do I think there is anything wrong with "neurotypical" people. That doesn't mean I'm not fundamentally incompatible with society as a whole without having to constantly use a complex set of mental algorithms developed over decades that allows me to function within it well enough to fulfill my basic needs and wants.
  In an ideal world people would be understanding and accepting of me and anyone else that is "different". That's not the reality though. People are OK with different as long as it isn't too different. In order for me and people like me to function in the world with the same ease and understanding that everyone else does would require educating and acclimatizing them to be understanding of differences from the youngest ages. In a fucked up way I think using gene editing to make sure no one has to experience the pain of my past (and sometimes still present) is more feasible than seismically shifting the attitude of society as whole.
  As I said before, I don't have an issue with myself, I just don't think anyone should have to experience what I have experienced. I'm even one of the lucky ones that is high functioning and doing well for themselves in all aspects aside from socially. This shouldn't be the solution, but if it means people don't have to suffer I have a hard time being completely opposed.
- Pretty sure most of the biggest discoveries in history have been made by neurodivergent people.

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