They even got their own island🤦

When I was a kid, in 7th grade science, I overheard a boy asking a girl out. She rejected him, he wasn't her type. He asked what her type was, she mentioned a guy she was seeing, and casually mentioned he was 22. At the time, I was thinking this poor kid was woefully outmatched and would never have a chance. A few years later, it dawned on me just how fucked up that whole situation was.
- I remember that sort of shit. The girl I knew got divorced so many times after that.
  
  Yeah in my high school, a girl I knew got into serious trouble for trying to bring her 25 year old boyfriend to junior prom, when she was 16. 😩 For some reason, the district allowed it. 😭😭
- I saw that kind of thing too. I figured those girls were probably dating the popular guys our age. A while later I found out that not even those guys were dating them. It was the 20 to 30 somethings.
- Hey, we're name siblings!

When I was 14 I got turned down by a friend who proceeded to date a 27 year old man.
- Gross.
  
  Be a little nicer to them, they got rejected for some old dude!
- My wife's sister dated a guy in his 30s when she was 19.
  So much trauma for a decade.
  
  I was groomed by a guy in his 40s when I was 16 to 18. He was also suspected to have sexually abused younger kids. I've been in a relationship with my current partner who's my age for over a decade now. The abuser knew very well how to take advantage of vulnerable girls. And yes. That trauma will stay with me. I still have nightmares. For the first year with my partner I would frequently wake up from these nightmares and be so relieved to be next to my partner to comfort me. I found out very recently that the asshole is still out and about, but got cancer, so there's some karma there.
  I'm sure that if I had better friends and wasn't so lonely and had a better situation at home I wouldn't have fallen for this. These abuser really know how to pick their victims.
- Well now , it’ll be like throwing a hotdog down the hallway
  
  Are you seriously slut shaming a 14-year-old who was groomed by a 27-year-old? Using a sexist misconception no less?
  That's fucked up
  
  15 years of marriage and four kids later, there's no noticeable difference in vagina clearance. Please stop saying this shit.
  
  ↑ mods pls ban
  
  FYI - real vaginas don't stretch like flesh lights.
  
  That’s not how it works.

being a girl is scary cuz the moment you turn 13, creepy men are ogling at you
- Oh honey, the creeps are sadly ogling you well before 13... Learn to stab.
  
  I learned a lot about women wearing ice pick-sized hair pins in their hats during the early 20th century for this very purpose.
  
  Can confirm, had my first sexual encounter when I was 5 and he was 18.
  
  https://youtu.be/Pz_XjQzs4v0
- For girls, it isn't the age, it is when they start developing breasts
  
  yea, i said 13 to mirror the post, but you’re right

Yeah but they've got the market cornered on Catholic priests, that's gotta count for something.
- We can't count it because they don't report it.

This is actually a destabilizing piece of society. Younger men become disaffected when older men, who are better partners, pick up much younger women (I am talking only about adults.). Younger women are then competing with older women for more established men, which can destroy families.
Largely, we have fetishized youth so much that this isn't something that will correct itself. I suppose the standards of beauty can change again, as they always do, but for now we are stuck with a real problem.
- This is what wars are for. Young men slaughter each other while old men bang the young women.
  
  I thought wars were for oil?
- You're not wrong, but I would call out a point of clarity, that youth is far more fetishized for women.
  I'm a dude, but as far as I can tell, guys need a bit of luck in the looks category (not the most important thing, but not looking disfigured generally helps), ambition, and success (mainly money). I had terrible luck with women. I'm not the best looking guy out there but I'm certainly not the worst either... And I could find relationships, but it always quickly fell apart. Once I decided to improve upon myself, and go to college in the pursuit of a well paying job, I found that my ambition was generally enough to keep people's attention, romantically.

I was hanging out with this girl my age in high school a lot, we were both 17, I thought it was going well, then some full grown adult said she was pretty at Walmart and I had to move on with my life.

One thing I HATE about military bases. All the E1 soldiers wandering the local high schools looking for girls. Was really sickening
- Bro it was such a shit show when I was growing up.
  Just military bros spending their entire military paycheck on a mustang and picking up high school girls.
  Still remember my friend crying/begging for help because military bro didn't get sex and wanted to beat her up. And this dirtbag was going to get shipped with a rifle to some brown country.

competing with grown men
competing with grown conservatives. the list is almost to 1500 examples.
- Question: Oh, you think conservatives are pedophiles? Give me 1,500 examples.
  Answer: (your comment)

Don't hang around so many republicans and the competition would thin out.
- It's hard for 13 year olds to emigrate.
  
  But they can get deported easily
- While rape culture is huge among Republicans and dating young women is more popular among them, this issue is far more vast and definitely involves men across the political spectrum.
  Until this obsession with youth=beauty and women under 130lbs being the beauty standard changes, this will still be a problem.
  
  I'm not giving democrats or anyone a pass on this. I just really hate republicans.

Members of Congress, clergymen, the fucking PRESIDENT. What's a boy to do!?

In school, when I was 13, one of my friends was "dating" a 19 year old. I vividly remember how cool we all thought this was. Reflecting on it makes me feel sick.
- Back when I was 13 I was jealous because the "worldly" older guys got the girls ...but the time I was that worldly age, I couldn't believe how gross the guys looking at young teens were.
  Now I'm old and everyone under 30 looks way too young.....as it should.

My husband kicked me out once he realized flashing his money at 19 year olds worked. The teenagers didn’t ask him to stop playing FIFA and walk his dogs.
- What an idiot.
  Has he put himself on the poor house yet by spending all of his money to appease the young women he wanted a booty call from?
  Because that kind of behavior seems to be rather expensive.
  
  Could be a gay couple and it's young men
  
  No idea. He gave 5k to one before he kicked me out. What was our house is for sale now though.

I remember how creepy it was to see that once the girls in my class got boobs (around 8th grade, 13-14 yo) full on adults would start hitting on them. I recall seeing a few class mates in a local park, all 3 were 13 I think, they still looked like little girls, it's just that now they had boobs and wore bras. So I see these 3 girls, each sitting in the lap of an 18-20 yo dude, and making out...
As a kid I recall seeing it and thinking "wtf is wrong with those guys?"
- As an adult I wonder wtf the fuck is wrong with those guys.
- If "he's got a car and he's dead mature, like" is your main selling point, you need a better selling point. And to not be a fucking nonce.
  In the 90s we didn't even know what a paedophile was. I don't recall even seeing that word before Sarah Payne was murdered.
  It took a while for UK residents to get used to this new exciting word.
  Hopefully today's kids are a bit more aware...
  
  Oh wow that article's a blast from the past
- jfc what's wrong with people
- I live in a country where the age of consent is 14, and this shit is still pretty common. I voted Fidesz because I thought they'd fix the situation, by rising it. They added a close-in-age exception, so if you're 17, you can prey on 12 year olds.
  
  I hope that's the last time you vote Fidesz

- I don't know about you, but I always thought the 21 year old hanging around my high school dating a 16 year old was a fucking loser.
  
  Yeah. That was my experience as well. An adult dating a highschooler was a skeezy loser who peaked in middle school.
  
  Agreed
  
  Was a loser, was fucking.
- We
  You mean “they,” right?
  
  they not like us
  
  ousted himself lol yikes

At college, there were 16 and 17 year old girls with boyfriends in their twenties. Even at the time, I thought that was weird.
At least I never heard about anything younger than that.
- Some girl when I was in middle school, 14ish, used to get picked up by some tatted up 20 something, pretty sure he was at least 25 but no idea. We thought he was like an uncle or something. Nope, turns out he was her boyfriend. Pretty sure that guy went to prison for meth related activities.
  
  Pretty sure that guy went to prison for math related activities.
  I need to sleep
- I know a guy who ended up in bed with a twelve year old. She didn't look twelve and didn't act twelve. He ended up going in to the military to flee. He didn't have to worry because of course this same girl ended up pregnant in less than a year.
  Her story was all too common. She had been abused and trafficked from a very young age and had associated approval through sex. When this all came out her mom and step dad faced no consequences. They went out of their way to try to punish her. She ended up getting court ordered counseling which despite the parents continuing to try to interfere she got better.
  She eventually ended up married to a pretty decent guy and they left for parts unknown a few years later. I don't think she was quite eighteen when they left.
  The scumbag parents are still around. They are considered fine christians in the community. After all they asked god for forgiveness. Not their victim mind you but god, so its all okay.
- That's legal in most states, but not weird in none of them.
  
  Yeah, it's legal here.

thought i needed a car to get a date. married a date with a car.
- How'd you'd get the fruit to talk back to you?
  
  Revved the engine, duh

One of the dudes in my gay group tonight:
"My momma cleaned hunter's cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean."
He was talking about a time when he was early teens.
So it's not just girls who get this treatment! If that makes you feel any more egalitarian.
- “My momma cleaned hunter’s cabins and those hunters were real nice men if you know what I mean.”
  I'm a bit dense. They were "nice" to each other, or "nice" to him, or they were actually nice looking, or...?
  
  They would have sex with him.

Gross. Accurate. Took me way too long to understand why my friend’s dad was acting the way he was around 13-17. Decades later and it still sickens me.

Still remember my middle school girlfriend brag about cheating on me and fucking guys that were buying her beer. Would have been nice to get authorities involved if I had anyone to talk to and wasn't being neglected and abused at home. Kind of wild to lose hope in people at the age of 12.
Bad times.

When i was in grade 9 a girl in my class started dating a guy that just graduated. His family was Hella poor but this dude had the nicest of everything cars, clothes etc. He was very obviously a 19 y/o drug dealer dating a 14 y/o tgat couldn't even qualify for a learning permit.
And everyone was just cool with it. This was in tulsa Oklahoma circa 1999/2000

I accidentally ended up with a very young lady. I know how this will sound, and all I can do is assure everyone that, at least for my part, everything I say is the absolute truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
I went to college late, I was 23 by the time I applied to college, and turned 24 shortly after starting classes. My birthday is in the first quarter, or so, of the year.
Anyways. I think I was in my second year of college when I met this girl, I don't even remember how I met her honestly; it wasn't a dating app, those things barely existed at the time and I haven't ever used one; I just haven't seen the need... Anyways, everything seems cool, she's telling me she's 17 and has a bday coming up. At this point I'm 24/25, and I'm thinking that's a bit young, but since she's basically 18 at this point, I don't really see a problem with it.... Anyways, birthday happens, Yay, and life goes on. After a few months as things get more and more complicated, as happens in most relationships, I come to find out that her birthday, was her 17th birthday, she was 16 when we met. I'm suddenly very not ok with everything.
It didn't last super long after that. She was also preggo with her exes kid and never told me. The relationship was only like 5-6 months long. She lost the kid, I believe it was a miscarriage, and I'm sad for her that happened, but too much weird bullshit and deception was happening so I called it off.
She wasn't a good person. She's on a short list of exes I don't talk to anymore. Most of my exes I still consider good friends, even if I haven't seen them in a long time. I'm in a stable, long term relationship with a more age appropriate partner, for... Gosh, it has to be 10 years now? Time flies. There's.... 6? ish years between our ages, and we met when I was 30-something.... I'm much happier now. Heh.
- This just sounds like you were misled and it was awkward. I don't think you intended to chase young women.
  When I was in high school in the 80s it was not uncommon for high school girls in higher grades to have adult men as boyfriends. One of my teachers in fact did it, and got put on leave for a while LOL.
  
  I was hoping that's how it came across, since that's what happened. So thank you for the confirmation.
  I've never been much for dating significantly younger women, since they're usually a bit unpredictable. By the time my SO and I got together, we were established in our careers and just looking for someone that wouldn't constantly stir up drama. Our relationship has thankfully been extremely drama free. If there's a problem we talk about it like the adults we are.

Ah, yes... Pedos... Known for waiting until OP turns 13 so they can ethically swoop in and steal their girl.
- Cus 12 is waay too young… but not 13 /s

I met a guy when I was that age, adult but not old. Friends, hung out with other people. The minute I turned 16 he asked me out. I declined and it was no big deal but who does that?

🤮

😳😳😳

The thing about 13yo guys ia that you are on the beggining of your puberty process and most boys are ugly and awkward
- Edit: what does that have to do with competeing with pedos?
- I can earnestly say that, as a former 13-year-old boy myself, none of the other girls my age really compared me to George Clooney. All of us were ugly and awkward at that age, and if you think otherwise, I might grow a little leery of your intentions.
  
  Did I say otherwise? I ment exaxtly that, puberty is horrible to everyone. I also had 13yo and have a 12 and a 15 yo boys at home. The same.go for.girls of course
- How many 13 year old guys are you trying to date? You been to a private island in the last 10 years or so?
  
  What? What a stupid comment. I'll just aaaime.you are 14
- So, what, 13 year old girls (children) should be pursuing adult men? The fuck are you getting at here?
- 13 year old girls are also awkward as fuck lmao. Acne, stretch marks, figuring out wtf to do with a period.
  All that and having to navigate being coveted by adult men while not understanding why.
  
  For sure!!!

- Bruh wtf💀
- That was in impressively poor taste.
  
  I saw the joke on Sickipedia.net circa 2010, maybe it should have stayed there.
  
  why? it's obviously a dark humour joke that hints at the true problem, because it's an absurd statement
  kids obviously cannot be sexy. that you interpret it as anything other than an absurd statement reflects on yourself
  you do realize that you're in shitposts, right?
  
  Sometimes, there are downsides to being on an instance that disables downvotes.
- I've seen that joke in somebody's stand up somewhere. Can't recall where.
  Doesn't seem to have landed well with the audience here, lol!
  
  I think it was in a Jimmy Carr special?
  
  Lmao
- Oh what the fuck
- That thought could've stayed inside your head bud
- Lemmy moment
- Lefties, amirite?
- Charitably: This is the kind of joke that only lands if your audience knows you're 100% not a pedo.
  
  Reporting a shitpost on shitpost lol.
  
  jesus christ go back to reddit
- Children are responsible for the crimes comited by adults?
  Victims are responsible of the crimes?
  
  We are on lemmy shitpost, so I wouldn't take it seriously
  
  you guys are really proving that it's not any better around here than on reddit on something, still plenty of dumb people

Not really, because guys that age are 100% INVISIBLE to females. All you got is zits and a curfew, which you can't even violate because neither you, nor any of your friends have a driver's license.
- guys
  😎
  females
  🙄
- “Guys” and “females.”
  Zits and curfew aren’t why girls weren't into you then and it’s not why women aren’t interested in you now, incel boy.
  
  Is there any need for this, really?
- Wait it's only about what you can do for them and give to them, your material usefulness? What about youthful vigor? Doesn't that count for more, way more, than a driver's license, spending money and social status? What about love and shit?
  
  Love doesn't exist. Only greed and lust.
- Young girls were intentionally manipulated into thinking this behaviour from older men was acceptable. It's called grooming because these were naive young women who literally did not have the brain development or experience to know that when a man says "you're so mature for your age", he's fucking lying.
  Don't blame these young women for the grooming and trauma inflicted on them from a young age. Blame society for teaching men that they should be pursuing the youngest women possible.
- Being over 21 really did get me in good with a lot of girls who were 19-20.
  
  Graduating high school made me a hell of a lot more interesting to a couple of girls. I figured if they weren't interested before, they weren't interesting enough.