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If you suddenly get abducted when you're outside (with zero witnesses), how long would it take before someone realize it and reports you missing?

Basically a roundabout way of asking: How much do people really care about you?

I know I could vanish for like 48 hours and my parents and older brother probably wouldn't even want to look for me (I'm around 18-25, not a minor so they have no legal responsibilities). Nobody in the world cares about me. I mean they already told me that in my face that if I went missing, they won't care.

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About fifteen seconds, since that's how often my kids ask me for stuff.
- As a parent of two young kids, there's definitely times where getting kidnapped sounds good.

Sadly, they would miss me at work before anything else

My wife would notice in a few hours, and be panicked in less than 12. Work would notice in <12-16 hours weekdays, <60 hours weekend.

Unironically might be a month or two for me

Nice try, ICE.
- talks into the radio
  "the jig is up, TAKE THEM! And also burn their citizenship papers"

Around 24h on a weekday.
Up to 72h on a weekend.

I have a job, a wife, and a kid, so I'd expect almost immediately. Especially if my phones go dark.

I message my wife when I get to work and when I'm leaving. So somewhere between an hour and 7 or 8 depending on exactly when in my day I get nabbed for her to notice.
My work colleagues would probably try to call me if I didn't turn up (I've fallen off my bike before so they might suspect that) but I don't think they would put out a police report immediately if I just didn't turn up one morning.
- My wife is very protective of me for some odd reason. She likes to joke about how I should watch out for nets (I'm a fish?). If I don't turn up somewhere she'll call me in less than an hour. We both work from home (when I'm employed that is) so we're always around each other. It's rare that I go anywhere unless I have to travel for work, and that has typically not been a lot.
  I also have a home automation platform where I do location tracking and plot us on a map. If I were to fall off, it'd be pretty noticeable.
  I'm guessing if anyone were to snatch me, they'd get an hour head start before wifey started chasing them down with a shotgun. Kinda nice to think that someone is looking out for me. I guess all that box chowing has paid off.
  
  The last sentence lmfao

Quite a lot of time if it's during my holidays or weekend, since I like to go MIA quite often and people are used to me not replying for some time. The first to know will be work, when I don't show up all day.

I guess it depends on the time of day. If it was morning, probably 6 hours because my kids would now be home alone, and as soon as my wife gets home in the afternoon, there's no way she doesn't freak out. Maybe even less since my one kid has a phone that can only call my wife. We have so many things we do every day that if any of us went missing, it would be a huge red flag pretty quickly. Thinking about it now, it feels kind of sad. I like freedom, and right now, I guess I have very little of that, lol.
- Lol I remember my dad having an argument with my mom in the morning so he just noped out of the house without anyone noticing he left the house, and didn't respond to phone calls until late afternoon. I think he was having a mini-vacation lol.

I think people would notice early (work would definitely be the first to know), but would take a while to actually report something.
I think it's pretty universal; people don't want to make a fuss or be a bother.. like it would be embarrassing or something to report someone missing for not showing up to work, or missing a gym session. Not to mention the not-so-missing will probably feel quite upset about getting reported missing because they took an unprompted nap or lost their phone.
It's not strange for adults to not answer their phone, and in NPF-circles it's even less strange for someone to go into social hibernation with very little warning.
Unfortunately this will lead to (single household) adults being missing for longer before people get worried enough to actually tell someone, and then they'll try to get in touch with other friends or family before the actual police.

I work from home and always tell my husband when I’m going out. He works from the office 1-2 days a week and is home other days. So depending on the day it’d take minutes or around dinner time. Although he’d probably text my phone and wait for hours before contacting others.

By the first evening by 9pm, when they didn't get dinner.
I would take that "we don't care" as an invitation to leave and start a new life with people who do care. Nobody should say that out loud, what assholes, but since they don't need you, you are free.

On a weekday would take 24-48 hours, work would probably start making calls if I just randomly stopped showing up. It would be odd enough if I didn't show up for one day without calling/emailing anyone, 2 days would become concerning.
Might take longer over a weekend, depends whether I have any family trying to text or call me.

My wife would be freaking out about two minutes after she realized I hadn't come back inside, I wasn't answering my phone, and I wasn't in any of the usual places around the house.
Everyone else? Weeks.

Depending on when this happens, my fiancée could notice in as little as an hour, and she would be in a panic until I am returned to her.

I need a deadman switch... maybe watch a log file for a program I use daily or something.
"If you're reading this, they got me."

At most, a week. Family would notice otherwise.
I'm sorry that your relationship with yours isn't good.

I don't think this shows how much people care about me. This would show how much people depend on me. I'm the breadwinner and major organizer of my family. They'd fall apart within hours.

I guess I'm nabbed when I'm watering the garden. Husband wakes up a few hours later. Goes to look for me. Can't find me. Freaks the fuck out, gets my twin up to look for me. Now they're both freaked out. Husband probably calls the cops. So a few hours at most.

Depends on the day. Between a few hours and a few days. If I've got something due at work later in the day, hours. If I have no hard deliverables for a few weeks then one of the bars where I'm a regular and play music would be the first to figure it out. All the bartenders and sound guys know how to get in touch with me.
Mom would figure it out in a month or so.
I drop off the earth pretty frequently but I always keep my gig and work commitments or call if I can't. So it depends on my next commitment, which happens pretty much weekly.

I'm a bachelor living alone with family in town, it could be anywhere from 2 hours to 2 weeks.

I have thought about this because I don't plan to have kids, and I might end up living alone in my later years. So, how long would it take for someone to find me after I have died?
Right now is it not about caring more for what is unusual. If my friends or family knew something was wrong, they would report it right away. This actually happened once with a friend. When I was very sick and didn’t answer her calls. She tried every number she could find. Eventually, she only found my sister's phone number, who then contacted me to check if I was okay. My friend was extremely worried, she thought I was in the hospital or something.

My Fiancee would notice very quickly. My family it would be weeks if not longer

I don't leave the secure area much, but I get the question.
I have an airtag on my keys and my wife probably has geofencing because I don't go far. She'll have the cops on the phone inside of 2 blocks. This area has a Lot of cameras so they'll have a leg up. And until they go through my pockets and ditch the air tag, she'll have a trace on them.

A few hours after night if I'm not answering my phone and only 2 family members would notice, nobody else would notice I'm gone or if I never come back.

In the evening. In the 7+ years since my first kid was born, I haven't missed a single evening at home, to wish them a good night. I even excuse myself from business trips.

1 day

If it was a weekend it would be a few days. A workday surely by noon if they hadn't heard from me. I've been sick and had coworkers stop by and check on me if I haven't replied to text or phone calls.

It would probably take a few weeks, or a lucky text from a family member for anyone to ever realize i went missing. I've thought about it a lot

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