People have private conversations on speaker phone but if I join in then I'm the crazy one
People have private conversations on speaker phone but if I join in then I'm the crazy one
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I think some people just don't realize it's rude to have a speaker phone call in a public setting. I once had a complete stranger at a restaurant ask my friends and me to be quiet because the person on the other end of the phone kept hearing us.
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This is the main character syndrom. People consider themselves the main character in this world and the others just npcs (non player characters, bystanders). Best way to tech them is a bucket of cold water (literally or figuratively).
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Same with people who blast music in public. There's a bike/pedestrian trail near me I use a lot and people are constantly riding or running while blasting the worst music imaginable to everyone nearby. Maybe someday I'll build up the courage to tell them to shut the fuck up... or at least teach them what headphones are. Maybe I could buy a bunch of cheap ones and just chuck them at the heads of anyone who apparently needs them.
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Get the cheap corded earbuds and wrap em around a rock for aerodynamics.
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Headphones on a bike are illegal in my province. So I once bought a bluetooth speaker for my bike. I don't really like imposing my music to anyone and tried to keep it at a minimum level but stills didn't like it. So now I use bone conduction headphones. Unfortunately they are also in a grey area where they could also be illegal.
In short, if you want to listen to music on a bike here, your only legal option is a speaker. Anything else is unsafe and could traumatize a poor car driver that hits a cyclist that didn't hear them coming (according to the police here).
Otherwise get a car and blast the music with the windows open like a normal safe person. or close the windows and don't hear anything around, but this is much safer than having headphones while cycling, obviously.
Same with walking or jogging with headphones. Are you out of your mind? Some poor car driver could hit reckless runners jumping in front of their car because they couldn't hear it coming.
No, society wants everyone not in a car to keep quiet and don't ruin their silence, with all the soothing car noises, so it's safer this way. No headphones on a bike, it's not safe! You need to hear that car blasting music that's coming at you.
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There’s some shithead in my area that lugs around one of those large JBL party-size looking Bluetooth speakers and has a habit of sitting at the bus stop across the street from my apartment and blasting his shitty rap music for the whole fucking neighborhood to suffer. Always super awesome to finish a long night shift, crawl into bed, and be woken up to that shit a few hours later.
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My favourite is people blasting shitty music from the speakers on their Harley's, fucking double trouble
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Had someone in a restaurant ask the manager if they could turn down the music playing, they were in a business zoom meeting.
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Hey Adam, are you sure you weren't just eating ass at the time? ..... I'm just joking about your username.
I would have said hi to the person in the speakerphone and told them about my meal and introduced them to my friends and told them that everyone could hear their conversation in the restaurant.
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I'm one of those people ... I always thought, if it's reasonable to have a conversation with someone physically there, at a reasonable talking volume, why does it matter if I'm doing the same on my phone?
Obviously if it's obnoxiously loud that's a different story
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Oh hell no. If I'm stuck somewhere and they are having a speaker phone conversation I comment. I did this at the doctors office and the lady told me it was a private conversation and I told here she should have it in private.
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I like the cut of your jib!
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Had a lady scream at me because I passed her while jogging and she was "having a private conversation"... On speakerphone... On the street...
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People using speakerphone in public be like:
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Today I was annoyed by a man in his 30-40s that was talking on his phone like he was a reality soap star with speaker on full blast in a doctor's waiting room.
Then I remembered the most absurd moment on the tram some time ago when a two teen girls were talking to a third and the one holding the phone told her friend to go sit somewhere else because they wanted to talk in private. The second girl moves and the first one proceeds to have their private talk on speaker. In a tram full of people and her friend sitting a few seats away.
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Damn, sometimes (because I'm a miscreant) I like to jump into convos or make a comment on them if someone is being really loud about it especially if they're on the phone with another person.
I mean, I rarely do it because people are crazy but sometimes I can't stop myself.
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This is a pet peeve of mine. If you aren’t disabled use the damn phone as a phone and use FaceTime in private.
I don’t want to hear about the latest drama your ex is involved in and who’s doing who to god knows what. I also don’t want to be in the background while you are standing in line FaceTiming someone and they comment on the person behind them on camera.
And then the people who actually use the phone as a phone but have the most obnoxiously loud one-sided conversation.
I may be slightly biased, I use public transportation and have to listen to this shit every day. I wear hearing aids so I hear everything at one which makes it even more fun.
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It took a few years, but now unless it's really important or she thinks I'm probably not on the bus, my wife now texts to ask if I'm able to talk. I hate people who do these things and I feel incredibly uncomfortable speaking on the phone when I'm on public transit.
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I'm convinced people forgot that our huge handheld devices are supposed to still be mobile phones that you are supposed to put against your ear when you call someone.
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I blame facetime for making speakerphone use more common
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I don't get it, my girlfriend only uses video calls with her family... If you want to do a video call with me you better warn me, meanwhile it's like any other phone call to them except that when they're driving they panic and find somewhere to pullover to take their call instead of using the car's phone functions!
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But, I don't want to smudge my screen. /s
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Honestly this has crossed my mind several times as another reason why people don't put the phone on their ear. You might be on to something!
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You should have told her it’s a mobile phone and she should mobilize to a quiet area
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The other day a dude was using his phone on speaker in the gym. Just sat there on the machine casually having a conversation on the phone and not doing a whole lot of working out.
I asked him if he could use the phone normally and made the "hand to face" gesture and he just mumbled a "yeah" and took it off speaker.
Now if he had considered my request outlandish, presumably there would have been a little friction in this exchange? But no....he knew exactly what he was doing, why it was annoying, and immediately how to remedy it.
Why the fuck are people using speakerphone instead of the God damn normal speaker to have their conversations? They know it's annoying.
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Because the shame part of their brain is not on. It must be triggered manually externally. In others it simply is missing all together.
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Are there any justifiable reasons that it's okay to be on speakerphone in public?
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Are there any justifiable reasons that it’s okay to be on speakerphone in public?
I once saw this question asked on the other site, and there was at least one good response. It was from someone who used a hearing aid, and said that for whatever reason, using the phone normally next to their ear resulted in the audio being garbled and difficult to understand, but using the speaker held a few inches away was fine, so that's how they preferred to use it.
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That does make sense, though I think modern hearing aids actually have Bluetooth capabilities so that the conversation is right through the hearing aid itself. Kinda wild.
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The only case I can think of is like you had to call 911 for an emergency and you want the people around you to also hear the dispatcher.
For day to day stuff, not really.
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Microphones and speakers die all the time. That's usually the only time I consider a good time to use the other microphone/speaker.
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No.
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Not really in public, but speakerphone is sometimes useful to be able to look something up on your phone in the middle of a call, e.g. checking your calendar when booking an appointment. And if someone called you then you're less in control of whether it's in public or not.
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I'm on a job that involves talking to people that also requires me to call HQ and have a conversation with them and the person I'm talking to
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Whenever I hear someone using speakerphone in public, it really annoys me. Often, I will join the conversation. When the party is subject, it’s an excellent time to remind them how fucking rude it is to use a speakerphone in public.
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Make random jungle and peacock noises close to them. Nothing makes them want a more private conversation than the person on the other end saying that it sounds like they were lying about where they are. Sex moaning and sloppy liquid pulching sound effects optional depending on others nearby.
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Pretend it's one of your homies talking to their mom and make loud, sexual moans.
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They are, by definition, not having a private conversation. It's just parrots looking in a mirror. They genuinely think we are impressed by what they have to say. Source: grew up with a narcissist. He was wearing a Bluetooth earpiece 100% of the time until like 2020.
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I don't think that's an okay word to say. Why don't you use a less loaded word?
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A Bluetooth headset then.
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I think you forgot the /s
Or, you're an insufferable twat I'm relieved not to know.
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I like to stand really close to them and then when they give you the “what?” Look or say anything, I tell them I’m just waiting to use the phone.
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Don’t join in, just make as much obnoxious noise as possible
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This is the perfect opportunity for the "Pocket Vuvuzela" (TM)
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Hell, yeah. I always start practicing bird calls.
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That's like those halfwits who talk into their phone and hold it like a slice of (not Neapolitan) pizza.
- This isn't a reality show
- You're dumb enough to be on one
- If it's not working well, shouting won't help. You're actively impairing its noise cancelling and you'll only be more noise to it.
Use your phone like a phone for best results.
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Has anyone tried blasting music from their phones in response?
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Same reaction as jumping into the convo.
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That’s why you start off by screaming “Getta load of THIS!” and when it’s done you shout “Anotha One!” like DJ Khaled.
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nice metaphore to how people use the social media nowdays... they spill their mind into a public discussion forum and then they are pissed at the "reply guy problem" and try to come up with ways to stop people from talking instead of adjusting their expectations... i get it - everyone wants to be treated nicely but come on!
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Ill never do it in public but by myself speaker phone calls are amazing. Being able to take notes or look up stuff with both hands is a game changer.
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Buy a BT headset and you're all set. My choice is the Poly Voyager Focus 2, now 3 years old and still going strong! I need it for work but use it for all the calls when I can. Look ma, no hands! And some privacy too.
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Yeah. When I'm working a problem with someone and need my hands free, okay. But that's a tech call and not a procto appointment.
I'd love to use a headset, but
- New phones are shit and have no jack
- Radio earbuds are shit with shit batteries sold by shit companies for shit phones
- End of list
So I'll talk in my private office on the speakerphone and get things done quickly. And curse fucking Samsung for copping out and ripping the jack out and making all the usual shit excuses because they can't say "you'll still buy it ya plebe".
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You are free to do whatever you want that makes you happy in private bud. Anything. Almost.
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Hey bud if you won't hold me close at night dont pretend like you want to join in on the call where Im scheduling my next proctoligy appointment.
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I like to know the health issues of people before holding them close at night. Reduces surprises.
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Oh well absolutely join into a conversation on speakerphone. The point is to piss them off so that they'll correct their behavior.
"I agree, it is annoying to have people being loud and obnoxious when you'd rather they leave you alone. But if you're going to keep doing it then I'm going to keep joining in."
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Fuck it. Be passive aggressive. Put music on your phone and sit next to them.
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People have private conversations in public but, if I join in, I'm the crazy one~
Like, – yes – those people will have to accept that people may overhear them while talking about their subject but this isn't a new phenomenon. People have always done this.
This is just the dynamic of public spaces.
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People have private conversation face to face in a crowd as well - sometimes some things need to be talked about right away and the anonymity of the crowd makes it feel private enough. If you don't know the people, then you know the convo is none of your business - so if you join in, yes, you're viewed as the crazy one, or at least the one with not enough social inteligence.
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