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gross either way, but do friends actually talk like this or would this be from people who are dating or something?

it probably doesn’t really matter, but i was added to a group chat with someone who was harassing me and they were talking to another girl in the gc like this. do friends really talk like this nowadays or are they likely doing it/dating or something? still gross, and especially on a gc.

like, i’ve seen friends flirt but they don’t act like that.

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People do all kinds of strange things on the internet.
- off the internet, too.
  but, uhm, this isn't normal behavior for friends, no.

This is how guys pretending to be women roleplay with each other on horny chatrooms.

People who aren't fucking or interested in fucking don't talk to each other that way. Anyone who tells you otherwise is in denial.
- Not always true; sometimes teens do it to get a rise out of some third party or because they want to but aren’t.
  For girls, this is pretty much the same as guys sharing porn pics.
- People who tell you they don't sleep with their mother are in denial.

That's weird as fuck in a group chat

that is the weirdest fucking group chat I have ever seen
- It appears to be trolls (or one troll) who added OP a to the group chat. OP in previous screenshots told them to stop and they did not because they presumably wanted to mess with him

It seems like they enjoy this and would like to include you. You should tell them you're not interested and leave.
- One of them told OP that he was too disgusting to join in
  
  Oh shit.
- ... or just leave.
  
  That's also possible, but I think it's worth it to leave no doubt about your feelings.

No.
This is weird, horny roleplay.

Dating, I'd assume, since they're sexting

I don't know the app, but if they're literally harassing you, this might also just be someone with two accounts talking with themselves.
If they're different people... "Friends" is just a label. It means "people being friendly with each other, helping each other out in a mutually beneficial relationship, not sexually involved". The "not sexually involved" part is usually implied because if they were sexually involved, you'd call them something else, "partners" or "fuck buddy" or similar. But if someone is sexually open, not doing the standard "partnership/relationship" thing often or at all, then they might just drop the additional description of "friend" to have the property "not sexually involved". It is literally called "friend with benefits" often. So yes, "friends", however someone defines that label, may include talking like this.
What you're really asking is "in usual society, do friends usually talk like this?", to which the answer is no. But you're also implying that friends talking like this, or someone having a slightly different definition of "friend", is somehow a bad thing ("gross"). Which it is not, in a consensual relationship, anything goes. The bad thing is the "harassing you" part. There is no need for you to socially shame their sexual behavior by calling it publicly "gross", the "harassing you" part is already shameful enough. I would focus on your boundaries and enforcing them, you are fully in your right to do that, and not focus on their behavior with other people.
- Usually friends-with-benefits types don't necessarily involve involuntary 3rd parties in their role play, even if they're open with their friend groups about their shenanigans.
  there's a lot of 'might be' here, but none of it is particularly 'normal' behavior. I'm just gonna assume they're weird trolls (or just one weird troll.)
  
  I mean, they already said they're being harassed.
  In general and another situation, I can fully see how someone might add someone to group chat in a way of "hey guys I found another one to add to our chat, their kink is to act all indignant about noticing us sexting, have fun".
  I already said my most likely scenario is one person playing two sides.

Emma has attachment issues. She loves her friend Olivia, so they fuck because they’re friends with benefits and freaky

I did something of that nature in a group chat once -with consent (and encouragement) of the people in the group chat-. Without that consent it's just creepy to involve other people. That said, I played a MUD where it was quite common for casual acquaintances to engage in this sort of play in private. There's nothing inherently wrong with it other than the lack of consent.

You should have posted this: "Wow, that's so HOT! I'm going to come over with boxes of christmas decorations and make your house look so festive. I will burn peppermint candles and make hot spiced apple cider. We can sing heavy metal songs while wearing our favorite Halloween costumes. And then later, we can make Valentines day cards for everyone at the Supermarket."
And when they ask you what the hell you are talking about, you can reply: "Oh, I thought we were playing a game where we post super crazy made up shit. Is that not what we are doing??"

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