How was your valentines day weekend?

I spent valentines day cranking my hog (literally. I ground pork, and stuffed 25 pounds into casings to make bratwurst.)

Nice, pâtés galore for next winter. Me, I spent the evening jamming my log. And I don't own a fireplace....

I think the receptionist is interested but I'm not gonna hit on her at work like a skeevy fuck.

Seeing someone get hit on is like watching someone take their dick out in public.

A very mature take on the matter.
I wish i had a good solution for this.
Maybe write your number on the receipt?
Yeah but you can just ask them oot right?
- Her friends are wingmanning it. Setting up a group outing with some other work people.
  
  More than likely my asexual oddities. Always felt like it was gross and invasive when she's trying to do her job.
  
  We will see. 🤷‍♂️

I did butt stuff with my girlfriend.

Nice.
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Yours or hers?
- Yes
I got my wife some nice gem buttplugs that we were gonna use, but she caught a cold and our night was rather more subdued. Still fucked tho, so that’s cool.

honestly pretty good

Been seeing a woman for a month. On Friday I picked her up from the airport, we went to my house, cooked food together, had some really good sex. I wanted to make it slightly more romantic but the fancy vegan cheeses I ordered so we could have wine and cheese in front of a fireplace didn't arrive. So just homemade pizza and wine. The next day she had some errands but we went to her place in the evening. Sunday we stayed at her place, but went out to the gym together during the day, otherwise mostly lazy with movies and stuff.

We enjoy each other's company and it's been nice so far. We will see how it goes, but the valentine's weekend was really chill.

Dud. After years of having to remind, plan and remind the other half again and again, I gave up and said nothing last year. Nothing happened. Nothing happened again this year. Next up - Mother's Day, which I expect to be equally nothing, just like last year.

I can't wait for the complaints that I planned nothing for birthdays or Father's Day.

Have you talked to your SO about how that makes you feel?
- I have, many times, and nothing changes, always an excuse, they forgot or were distracted by something more important. Hence why I have completely given up trying to plan anything. Like talking to a brick wall. Things only happen when I take the initiative. Special days, house repairs, appointments...
- Wow I am open jaw surprised this top comment wasn't a "get divorced" comment and instead was actively constructive and empathetic.
  
  I agree that there could be something else going on. Especially the way OP is phrasing things. Could be ADD or other issues that make these days not priority even if they do love OP. could also be that OP is feeling some sort of way and their actions make the partner not feel confident enough to do things for them like it'll be a waste. Hopefully they can find the root cause. Maybe needs a shared calendar to help remind.
I'm sorry you're going through that. I'm currently reforming myself of those same tendencies.

My excuse was and is money but, it's only that, an excuse. So I started making construction paper cards and origami flowers. It's not the flowers and restaurants they used to be but, she seems to appreciate it.

P.s. the origami lily folds refuse to sink into my smooth brain. I gotta watch the same YT vid Everytime 😞
- Origami and handmade cards are very thoughtful. :)
  
  Keep trying with the folds, one day you'll forget to check the videoguide!
- P.s. the origami lily folds refuse to sink into my smooth brain. I gotta watch the same YT vid Everytime 😞
  
  I'm glad I'm not the only one. I would think it would stick eventually, but not so far.
Oof, I fear I become like your SO
Never take advice from internet strangers. But it nonetheless will be given, so here goes.

Tell your partner your relationship will not last without change, and that you want to have small, short conversations with takeaway actions more regularly. My guess is that's the truth, and communication, even a little, can help tremendously when both parties engage.

Saying your relationship will fail and end bluntly will make them scared of that actually happening, because they most likely currently feel secure enough in the relationship to ignore your needs. This is common unfortunately, often born of time and repetitiveness.

Make sure they ubderstand that conversation doesn't have to he daunting (that will scare then), but simple and easy single topics at a time. The first few may be longer, but they will get shorter, and tell them that you are open to talking to someone together if they feel it is warranted or have trouble having those conversations on their own (that alone may spur them to engage).

Peppering in positive commentary or actions, like what you enjoy from them (especially what they do for you) and positive actions (like planning a weekend away or a night out) can also help take the strain out of the conversations, too.

Sorry you are going through this, mental and/or emotional dissatisfaction in a relationship is rough, but assuming you really want to work through it, it is possible to get brick walls to move.
- No. I am in a relationship now and we both didn't really care that it was valentines. We played boardgames I think, I am not sure which day it was. Don't get idiotic over presents or which number in the roman calendar represents the current tilt of the planet. Live life instead.
  
  If it sucks to be with someone, it's because you don't fit. Don't blame. Don't try to change them. Don't sink into anger. Then you're the asshole. Leave. It should be fun and feel nice to live with someone. Don't let the assholes win.
Maybe recognize that your partner doesn't ascribe as much meaning to arbitrary dates and that silently expecting them to do something is a toxic mentality. I hope you realize you're not teaching them any sort of lesson, you are intentionally setting yourself up to be disappointed/upset at your partner for not following the rules of a game they didn't know you were playing.

Especially these days. Don't you think it's possible they have other things on their mind? I know I do. Between trying to figure out how to pay bills, figuring out how to save a little so we can retire some day, thinking about how stressful my job is, thinking about all the chores that need to be done, worrying about the health of myself and my family, worrying about car/home repairs, keeping insurance/registrations/enrollments/appointments/documents all up to date, and the endless struggle of what we're having for dinner tonight; there's just not a whole lot of mental space left for reading my partner's mind and fulfilling their unspoken expectations.

You say this has been happening for years. Ever think that it's just not something that's going to change? That you're expecting a fish to climb a tree unprompted and then getting upset with the fish when it doesn't?

Grow the fuck up. Be a partner to your partner. How hard is it to say "Hey, I'd like to feel special on Valentine's Day. It's important to me."?

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I just non chalantly opened a rule 34 link on the train. Just send me to horny jail.

I'm alone but have been playing Sekiro all weekend so that makes up for it

Hell yeah Sekiro is awesome
- Hesitation is defeat

I bought a new drill (cord, does both hammer drill and regular)

Pretty nice so far, especially with concrete bits

The girl got hammered and drilled too on that day.

Internal ultrasound scan for me.

It's exactly what it sounds like.

Did the probe buy you dinner first? I imagine it was awkward with the radiologist being a third wheel the whole time.
- No, but I did pay $400 for the privilege!
I don't know what it sounds like, I'm not a dog