When you ask them out, they say no.
She puts out that restraining order on you.
Surely she’s just playing hard to get.
That’s what every 80s romcom taught me.
IDK. She seems to want to see you again in front of a judge, just like a civil union. Maybe she just wants a surprise marriage. Makes sense because you go to all the same places, use the same toothbrush, and sometimes share a bedroom.
Everytime I walk into the room she grabs the nearest stranger and starts making out with them. My buddy said it's because she can't even bear to have a conversation with me but I'm pretty sure it's just because the sight of me turns her on that much.
Time to top-up your EQ, mate.
"Every time I walk into a room she gets so turned on and grabs the nearest stranger and starts making out with them."
When you keep making efforts to talk to them and they don't pursue the conversation.
In my experience, if they say they aren't interested in you it usually means they aren't interested in you.
They want to spend $150 going out to eat when we could get 3 frozen pizzas and 30 beers for a bang date in the basement.
Man I used to love basement dates with strangers.
one is a keeper, other is not
What’s soccer have to do with any of this?
If they have a pulse it’s unlikely. Casually Explained: Is She Into You?
When they pass you in the hall at work, it's like you are invisible to them. Never any eye contact or acknowledgement that you exist, except for them not actually walking right into you.
I had a coworker who did this to me (and a fair amount of other people at work). She was young and pretty and had this approach to any guys a fair amount older than her. I wasn't trying to date her or even interact with her in any personal way...she just seemed to preemptively turn on her 'you are invisible' field to the many people she was not interested in. It was a bit odd, but effective.
I suspect that it was a defense mechanism due to her experience of many older men trying to hit on her. Better not to even open the door.
Short responses like "yeah" or "I'm good" with our any substance or depth, when it's over a extended period of time. Sometimes people do this because there overwhelmed or other things but when it's this all the time, then its a problem
The pepper spray and screaming usually are a good hint that they may not be interested.
It's is so hard to meet someone while backpacking on a Friday night.
Hey I say it is still not clear, maybe they were excited to see you but the pepper spray went off accidentally /s
Maybe she's just american and being impolite
I thought she might have mistaken me for a bear and got spooked by my grunting outside her tent. I was just trying to see through the ridge vents to see what book she was reading so I had something to talk about and break the ice.
Easiest way to figure this out is to analyze your own behavior when interacting with people you're not interested in.
When they keep making/having excuses why they are unavailable
The sneer thrown at you before you even speak
Do we need either type of sign? I mean this is lemmy we are all adults arent we? If you are interested in someone go up, greet them politely, ask how theyre doing, say "I was wondering if you'd want to grab lunch or something together, and get to know eachother?" after a bit of casual conversation. If they say no drop it. If they are interested even if busy theyll try to find time to do it. Nobody is that busy all the time. Or if they are they cant date anyway.
If they say yes go to lunch get to know eachother more, if you enjoy it and go out together again bring them a romantic gift of some kind to make sure you didnt miscommunicate about your intentions. Don't play games, and guess and wonder. Be direct, but polite, and respect their decisions. If you are afraid to get rejected you've got 2 options. Get over it, or die alone. Always trying to compute in your head what someone else is thinking is gonna drive you crazy. Just live life.
Also a lot of people dont seem to know how to complement someone. Complements are good, but only if you do them right. They are best done small, and casual at first. "Did you get a haircut? I like it." "That (Article of clothing) looks great on you." "You're always so stylish." Once youve got a few dates under your belt and the mutual interest is clear you can move on to things that are a bit more intimate. "Your eyes are beautiful." "I love hearing you laugh." "I always look forward to spending time with you."
Notice nowhere in there did i put "Wow your so hot." or anything like that. Thats boring. Meaningless. Stuff like that is fine if your having sex, and want something to say in the heat of the moment, but if you are trying to win someone over emotionally be more interesting. Just the simple fact you are interested in them makes it obvious you think they are physically attractive. You don't need to hammer that point home over, and over again. Its fine to complement appearance, but have an angle. Actually notice things about the person.
Everything is situational. Complements especially, and they have multiple purposes. First of course is to express interest, and to make that person feel good about themselves. Most people understand that. But 2nd is to make it clear you are paying attention. Notice changes. Notice what doesnt change. If you like someone it shouldn't be hard to do. Do they look a bit tired today? Sure would be nice if you'd been paying attention, and knew what type of coffee they like so you can buy it for them. Its not a hard thing to ask in casual conversation. "I prefer peppermint tea personally, what about you?" Then remember their answer. Then when you know what they like buy it, give it to them, and say "I was getting myself a drink, and figured I'd pick one up for you too."
Just FYI, it's compliment. Complement means that things go together well, like peanut butter and chocolate. E.g., "The cut of your suit complements your figure."
“Wow your so hot.”
If a woman said that to me I'd be on cloud 9 for weeks.
They're not gay, but they'll learn.
