If you can't do something about a problem, worrying just gives you another problem. If you can do something about it, don't waste energy worrying about it, just do the thing
"The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore all progress depends on the unreasonable man." — George Bernard Shaw
Helps me push through when executive dysfunction hits. Getting outside for even just a little bit is a whole lot better than staying inside while telling myself I'm going to run 3 miles, for example
That’s a good one. A few others that help with my executive dysfunction are:
“Don’t let perfect be the enemy of good.” (It’s better to do something than to obsess over trying for the impossible goal of ‘perfection’.)
“Anything worth doing is worth doing poorly.” (This one helps especially with art and things I enjoy but struggle to do if I’m not instantly great at them.)
“Laziness does not exist.” (This was inspired by a Medium article I read years ago which explained there is always an underlying cause of procrastination. Mental or physical ill health issues, uncertainty about the task, fear of failure, etc. When I am struggling to move forward, I now look for that reason and can begin to remove the barrier.)
I love this. I always tell people trying to get into fitness and struggling something along these lines. Anything is better than nothing. Even just going to the gym and walking around the place and walking right out... Still better than doing nothing at all. Terry crews has an awesome quote kinda along these lines:
I tell people this a lot - go to the gym, and just sit there, and read a magazine, and then go home. And do this every day. Go to the gym, don’t even work out. Just GO. Because the habit of going to the gym is more important than the work out. Because it doesn’t matter what you do. You can have fun — but as long as you’re having fun, you continue to do it.
"Some is better than none." -My motto throughout college.
Usually I was stressed by the number of chapters I had to read, or pages I had to write. Instead of shutting down and not doing anything, I would tell myself to just read a single page or write a paragraph because any amount of work done is better than nothing.
“Well, I’ve come this far. Might as well keep going.”
It’s great, because you just lie to yourself about the starting point of any task, and it doesn’t seem so bad.
If I’ve survived from birth until now, then I guess I can survive doing the dishes.
I like this one, but looking at it from a different angle I say nice things about people behind their backs pretty regularly that I absolutely would not be prepared to say to their face cuz toxic masculinity. Anybody have tips on how I can keep working on the opposite of this problem? 😭
Be morally better than average. If you justify being bad by saying everyone else is doing it, you're not helping the downward spiral. Because bad people and people with no choice make things worse on average.
Brings to mind the bene gesserit litany against fear:
I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.
I often pair with:
It is by will alone I set my mind in motion. It is by the juice of Sapho that thoughts acquire speed, the lips acquire stains, stains become a warning. It is by will alone I set my mind in motion.
Which is a nice allegory for most any chemical stimulant (coffee).
To me that means to live in a way that if everyone else did too, the world would be a better place. It obviously doesn't gurantee that my moral compas always points to the right direction but it's the only indication I've got about what's right and what's wrong. This also means that I don't go out of my way doing some major charity work but just that I do my part no matter how insignificant it might feel because I believe that if everyone else did that too it would bring about a real change.
I used to always say that to myself in my native language. Seems to be a pretty common saying it seems. In this days I some times still say it. But I don't think I believe in it anymore.
Some say it's a quote by Oscar Wilde, some say its John Lennon others say it comes from brazilian Author Fernando Sabino and because Paulo Coelho is the only brazilian author people remember it's attributed to him too.
Try to be nice, never fail to be kind. It's important to support the people around you. Those people can be your safety net and metaphorical ladder to climb
It's a reminder that your preferences aren't the only acceptable way to feel. It's OK if some people like things you don't. On different scales, it's a lesson in tolerance.
It goes hand-in-hand with "Be excellent to each other." Kindness goes far!
Together I hope someday they lead to "Harmony and understanding, sympathy and trust abounding."
I don't care about other peoples sexuality, gender fetishes, whatever. Its not my buisness and I have no right to judge them for their decision. You do you. As long as people aren't assholes or annoying as hell I don't care.
To clarify, the motto I chose is for direct interaction. And choosing which people I socialise with. Defending our lgtbq folks is completely different and I already do this.
"There are idiots/assholes everywhere", no direct translation for the word I want in English.
I don't mean it in a mean way, just that idiots/assholes can be from any group of people. Two examples:
Don't assume a doctor knows everything just because they're a doctor. Some doctors are idiots/assholes, they might be wrong. Get a second opinion if something they said sound iffy.
When hearing people generalize from one individual's behavior (like racism): this one is an idiot/asshole, they are everywhere, including in this group and all other groups too.
That is one component of it, but I like mine better because it also can be interpreted as giving a bit more grace to people who are doing their best but their best isn't so good. It also helps me not assuming malicious intent where being an idiot would explain someone else's behavior.
Don't craft a well thought out response to someone John Brown would have shot [absolutely necessary for getting through the internet] and don't give two weeks notice to a job that makes you miserable [absolutely necessary for leaving a shitty work situation].
"Don't stop dreaming, because the world is full of people who've stopped dreaming."
Probably no one said that, it's just what reminds me on so many things at once. It's so full of hope, confidence, happiness, interest into new things, overcoming obstacles, the future, laying off the monotone, enjoyment, pushing yourself further.
I could interpret and fill so much into this.
It also has a little bit of superiority in it, but that's because I often suffer under the negative Nancys and people who have given up, who try their best to drag you down.
In other words while it's okay to help people you need to be careful and impose some limits here and there, as people are naturally greedy and will burden you for their own benefit.
In my experience people don't ask enough. What something is worth to one is not always the same for another. And I've found my friends struggle to ask for help for what feels like a lot to them, even if it's not to the person they (should be) asking
I know a few people like this, too. But by rule my experience is the opposite of yours: people asking me help once will likely do it again and again, unless I impose a limit.
Never be afraid of paramedics, they aren't there to rat you out. They just want to know what they need to do to make you better/not worse. They hate paperwork as much as anyone, and a dead patient is a ton of paperwork.
Reminds me of a line out of a book, don't remember which one, but it was along the lines of 'if you can't say yes, then answer anyway, because I'd rather die with the answer than live with the question'
Just to clarify, I am not a super healthy eater. I like to use this expression when the topic comes up to point out that there is no magic and is a miserable experience to lose weight and eat better, better to come to terms with it.
Depending on the situation, whatever "that guy" is will be different, but generally I try not to be "that guy". Very rarely "that guy" is a good guy, and then the whole philosophy breaks down, but most of the time that's not the case, and I am happy trying not to be "that guy".