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How do you work at a job where you fundamentally disagree with the company's ethics?

I mean working somewhere like Qualcomm or Microsoft when you care about FOSS, democracy, and the public commons, or a weapons manufacturer for a military that invades other countries and kills innocent people in their homes.

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  • You don't. Stand up for your ethics and morals and leave.

    One of the best paying jobs I ever had, directly asked me to perform work that would have have damaged a customers home. When I layed out exactly how and why this was wrong and why I wouldn't do it, they insisted I do as I was told or be fired.

    I walked off the site and never looked back.

    I ran into that old boss a while later and he told me he later realized I was right, but insisted I still should have done as I was told because he was above me and had given me direct instructions...

    Sometimes you just can't work with people and have to move on.

  • After college I worked a project management job for a while before going to grad school. I didn't find it morally questionable, but I definitely found myself feeling like I was just working to make some rich guy richer. It didn't help that the rich guy(s) (the owner and his son in law who was out CEO) worked in the same building. So I went back to school. Got my master's. Ended up doing some contract work for the same company afterwards. Never felt more stuck in my life. Hated it. Did more grad school and when the contract work dried up I got asked to come work for another company but I still hated the bs corporate vibe, so instead I went from billing $80/hr to making $15/hr as a 911 dispatcher. Graduated and stayed in that field. I'm an emergency management professional now and while it's not a lucrative field (thankfully I don't want kids) I get a lot of satisfaction out of the work and I feel like my job matters.

    Long story short, you choose what to prioritize in life. For some people making sure you/your family is well cared for will matter more than what you're doing or who you're doing it for. For others, you'll take a pay cut to feel like the work itself matters or that you're making a positive impact. Everyone has to balance what's important to them.

    OP, If morally aligning with your job matters to you, you'll ultimately land somewhere you can stomach at least, because you won't stop trying until you get there. Don't blame yourself for having to do other work along the way to keep yourself fed and able to enjoy the ride there.

  • Having a bash prompt with the $ replaced with a hammer and sickle sure feels weird in a Bank, but... I'm pretty much trapped. Either I somehow find anything else to survive, with an employer that's as understanding for my problems as my current one is, and then pay back study fees, or I have to keep up with it. At least it's only a few months of being there. And avoiding the usual suspects (bankers) helps with not getting triggered in the office. Or just doing homeoffice.

    The larger plan: Somehow be stable with just hosting + maintaining stuff, and get to a medium to good standard with extra freelancing.

  • I studied physics in university. I didn't put any real thought into what I was going to do with it afterwards, I was just choosing something that seemed interesting and helped me make sense of the world. What I discovered afterwards is that the main use of physics in the economy is to find new and exciting ways of blowing people up. I had been drawn to science by the idea that I was going to work towards the benefit of all humanity. I'm ashamed to admit it, but there was a moment around when I graduated when a friend of mine joined the Navy, and I really considered it. Fortunately, I came to my senses and said no.

    Instead, I wound up working the meat counter at a grocery store. This was before I went vegan but I still had negative feelings about it. From there, I wound up picking in an Amazon warehouse for a couple years, and I've kinda bounced around other warehouses, occasionally getting involved in some technical roles in them.

    Amazon's a big evil corporation, but at least it's honest work and a peaceful life. I could never live with myself if I did something in service of the war machine. To me, stopping what you're doing to go move boxes at Amazon is kinda the baseline to me, like it's not perfectly ethical but if doing that is significantly better for the world than what you're doing, then like... the option exists for you. If you're doing something evil like working for the military industrial complex, then that's on you, sure it might be much less pleasant and less lucrative but burglary is lucrative too and that doesn't make it justified. It's far better to live a small, humble life making sure that you leave the world better than you found it than to have a big impact but it's negative.

    I guess some people might be able to tune out the screams or twist their brain into knots justifying it, but idk. If you're walking down the street and you see someone screaming in pain, your instinct is to help them. You want to help them. You want to help them. That urge to help them is your own will. If you take that suffering and hide it away where you won't see it, all you're doing is decieving yourself into subverting your own, natural inclination towards empathy and compassion. That's not really the sort of thing healthy people do, is it? My dabbling in Buddhism is showing here, but that's what I'd call, "taking refuge in ignorance." That's no way to live your life, hiding from the ghosts of your victims.

    My time working at a meat counter called my attention to my feelings about meat, and I didn't act on them until much later but it planted a seed in my mind that might not have been there otherwise, it brought my conflicted feelings to the forefront. Every time I ate meat, I had a little feeling of guilt in my heart that I pushed aside, but once I finally listened to it, a weight was lifted and I'm much happier for it. I might not have ever really noticed and examined that if I hadn't had that job.

    There's a lot of edge cases no matter where you draw the line, and I say, do what you will, but never turn away from the truth. If you feel conflicted, face that conflict, if you feel uneasy, interrogate that feeling, figure out what your mind is telling you and how best to follow your feelings, judgement, and conscience. And if you wanna stomach something you feel is wrong so you can get that bag, you know, that's your decision, just know that you'll have to live with it the rest of your life.

  • because morals are nice.

    but being able to eat, and not be rained on and assaulted in your sleep is nicerer.

  • I used to work for health insurance. I hated the job with a passion.

    The way I dealt with it was simple. Each day I tried to push just a tiny bit in a good direction. And when that didn't work, every day I would put out a resume. Eventually I did get a job outside the industry and it was amazing.

    Each day you have a bad day, put out a resume. Its a numbers game, eventually you get lucky.

    • When Mr. Incredible could not be a full-time crime-fighting superhero, he still superheroed by helping people navigate the labyrinthine madness of insurance agencies.

      Be like Mr. Incredible.

  • I mean, as long as I'm not directly working on a weapon, its fine. Every job you do for money is contributing to the GDP and indirectly supporting your country, any corruption, police brutality, human rights violations, persecution, war, everyone is contributing to it in some way.

    The only way to truly decouple yourself from the system is going offgrid and farming for yourself, otherwise, everyone is complicit, we are all "sinners" in this world.

    The Good Place talks about this. You buy a random tomato and you are contributing to climate change, you lose points for it, you end up in "hell" (The Bad Place).

    • I've read a lot of comments in this thread, but this one feels the most accurate to me.

      Companies can do many things. If a company actively saved the lives of 100 people, but also actively killed 1 person, would you work there? Is there a number (either) where you would? Companies can be grey, many are.

      It's not a "free pass", but look at the overall ethical footprint. If you're ok with it, it's fine. It doesn't need to be pure, you just have to be ok with it.

  • (a) Organizations and Conferences

    (1) Insist on doing everything through “channels.” Never permit short-cuts to be taken in order to expedite decisions.

    (2) Make “speeches.” Talk as frequently as possible and at great length. Illustrate your “points” by long anecdotes and accounts of personal experiences ...

    (3) When possible, refer all matters to committees, for “further study and consideration.” Attempt to make the committees as large as possible—never less than five.

    (4) Bring up irrelevant issues as frequently as possible.

    (5) Haggle over precise wordings of communications, minutes, resolutions.

    (6) Refer back to matters decided upon at the last meeting and attempt to re-open the question of the advisability of that decision.

    (7) Advocate “caution.” Be “reasonable” and urge your fellow-conferees to be “reasonable” and avoid haste which might result in embarrassments or difficulties later on.

    (8) Be worried about the propriety of any decision—raise the question of whether such action as is contemplated lies within the jurisdiction of the group or whether it might conflict with the policy of some higher echelon.

    (c) Office Workers

    (1) Make mistakes in quantities of material when you are copying orders. Confuse similar names. Use wrong addresses.

    (2) Prolong correspondence with government bureaus.

    (3) Misfile essential documents.

    (4) In making carbon copies, make one too few, so that an extra copying job will have to be done.

    (5) Tell important callers the boss is busy or talking on another telephone.

    (6) Hold up mail until the next collection.

    (7) Spread disturbing rumors that sound like inside dope.

    (d) Employees

    (1) Work slowly. Think out ways to increase the number of movements necessary on your job ...

    (2) Contrive as many interruptions to your work as you can ...

    (3) Even if you understand the language, pretend not to understand instructions in a foreign tongue.

    (4) Pretend that instructions are hard to understand, and ask to have them repeated more than once. Or pretend that you are particularly anxious to do your work, and pester the foreman with unnecessary questions.

    (5) Do your work poorly and blame it on bad tools, machinery, or equipment. Complain that these things are preventing you from doing your job right.

    (6) Never pass on your skill and experience to a new or less skillful worker.

    (7) Snarl up administration in every possible way. Fill out forms illegibly so that they will have to be done over; make mistakes or omit requested information in forms.

    (8) If possible, join or help organize a group for presenting employee problems to the management. See that the procedures adopted are as inconvenient as possible for the management, involving the presence of a large number of employees at each presentation, entailing more than one meeting for each grievance, bringing up problems which are largely imaginary, and so on.

    (9) Misroute materials.

    (10) Mix good parts with unusable scrap and rejected parts.

    (12) General Devices for Lowering Morale and Creating Confusion

    (a) Give lengthy and incomprehensible explanations when questioned.

    ...

    (c) Act stupid.

    (d) Be as irritable and quarrelsome as possible without getting yourself into trouble.

    (e) Misunderstand all sorts of regulations concerning such matters as rationing, transportation, traffic regulations.

    ...

    (i) Cry and sob hysterically at every occasion ...

    ...

    (k) Do not cooperate in salvage schemes.


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  • Ive had enough choice to be able to pick companies with culture I agree with, at least for a few years until i got sick of it.

    Most people dont have that luxary, which must be soul killing.

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