Had a date with a heterosexual man for the first time. He had a hard-on when we cuddled. It felt strangely validating.
That's the post. I had only dated bisexual men before and it was kinda nice to know that a person that really only finds women attractive finds me attractive. Chime in if you want to share similar moments.
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How'd it go on your end? Do you like him? Going on a second?
I quite liked him! Otherwise we wouldn't have gotten to the cuddling part on the first date, haha. I try to not date cis men these days but he got through, somehow. We had a good conversation on a dating app (tinder of all places, lol) and the date was great. He's smart, considerate, has a very interesting job (he invents and sells game show concepts, quite successfully) and did not ask or talk about me being trans at all. He has lots of friends and is just looking for someone to do couple coded things like cuddling and short romantic trips with, which is exactly what I'm looking for as well. He's also not strictly monogamous which I consider a plus because I don't think I want a strictly monogamous romantic relationship right now. We had some wine in a very classy bar (his treat) and I invited him to my place because I felt like some warmth. He recognised the pictures of Grace Kelly and Liz Taylor on my wall, which I thought was very cool.
The only negative really is that I think he's not that attractive physically, sadly. But everything else is a great fit so I'll see where it goes or if I lose interest. There'll definitely be a second date! If he doesn't ghost me, which has happened before after great dates lol, but that's just online dating.
and did not ask or talk about me being trans at all.
it's not my business, but does he know you're trans? If you're just going on the assumption that "everyone can tell", just know that sometimes people indeed do not realize (even if you think it's blindingly obvious), and unless you have explicitly disclosed your trans status, he may not be aware.
(Not to add stress or anything - so glad you had a lovely date, you go girl!)
Heeell yea :3
That's awesome! I "dated" a straight guy once, meaning I stopped by to give him a blowjob. I personally like the vibes of gay guys and would consider appealing to androsexuals as a fem a victory, as that would mean my appeal transcends appearance and gender.
wouldn't being appealing to a gay man be invalidating, since it just shows they are attracted to you as a male?
If they're attracted to me as nonbinary would be almost as validating as attraction to me as a woman. People who call themselves gay or straight seldom adhere completely to their orientations. Today I became friends with another transgirl, one far prettier than I am, and I would fill any gender role to be with someone like her, and I have compromised my gender by butching it up before, and it was a worthy sacrifice. My desire is greater than my self-respect.
Type shit
Men get erections due to emotional excitement; not necessarily sexual arousal.
I cannot wrap my head around where this was coming from or how you could possibly believe this was supportive. She made a post about a validating experience with a date, and you immediately thought to counter her validation? How tf is that supportive
misogyny, the usual
Why would you write this
That's not exactly true, an erection can also just be a response to stimulus. Men can achieve erections while being completely unconscious.
Emotions still exist when unconscious. It's just the brain's prediction algorithm
If that's true... wouldn't OP know this though? Why would you say this?
And don't forget, transgirl boners only come from true love
Men also get erections when tired. What does that say, oh wise one?
Who told you this and why did you believe them?