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Also known as snooggums on midwest.social and kbin.social.

  • I have a reasonable amount of space for the stuff I need, but I’m in a weird position where, when it’s tidy, my room looks weirdly sparse and empty (with the exception of various boxes). It looks like the home of someone who has recently moved in.

    I am jealous! My preference is wide open space to do things in but my wife loves filling it with stuff. Hotel rooms make me happy because they don't have a bunch of things already, just places to put a few travel items!

  • What advice have you found helpful in the past?

    The biggest one is that it is ok to make mistakes! If you must reduce the volume of things you have, it is important to remember that they are things. They might trigger memories, but they are still just things that you assign value based on usefulness or the ability to trigger a memory. But if you lost all of your things in a fire or other unexpected event, you don't lose a part of yourself, just things. This was explained to me by a relative who lost their home in a fire, and while it sounds cliche being able to see them recover was a great learning experience about the importance, or lack thereof, of 'stuff'.

    So with that in mind, some things will be more important than others for various reasons. I personally use the business concept of space having value. Storing things costs money. Something taking up space costs money. From a personal perspective, things take up money, space that could be used for other things including easily moving around, and the time and effort to organize/clean/move when you move/etc. Then I determine how much space I want to use for things, knowing it is a goal and not a destination.

    Since having things involves multiple rooms and locations, I do the spaces by location. I have a max amount of space in the bedroom, in the kitchen, workshop, etc. The goal is to get the stuff to not overflow from that space into storage. No, I don't generally hit the target but I do massively reduce the overall amount by thinking through how important they really are.

    An example of me making a 'mistake' was getting rid of a bunch of RPG books, where I kept two out of the batch for the memories. Later on, I thought about playing again and kicked myself for ditching them. But to be honest, it is very possible to reacquire them and I didn't have to mess around with them for the 20 years between selling them and thinking about playing again. Looked up a pirates PDF and decided it wasn't that much of a loss anyway! Also ditched some furniture when there wasn't enough space, and replacements aren't as nice, but it wouldn't have been worth paying for storage either.

    This may not be as helpful if you are having trouble figuring out how much something is worth it to you, so here is a suggested plan that might work as practice.

    For things you rarely use anything large, cheap, and easily replaced go first. They are not worth your time and effort to maintain their existence. That may make a big dent in the overall stuff problem.

    If you have multiples of the same thing, do you really need that many? Like 5 sets of bed coverings is too many if you don't have plenty of space. Extra blankets can almost always be replaced, and both take up a lot of space and effort to keep clean and organized.

    Be honest about clothes. If you haven't worn it for a few years, it doesn't have a specific purpose that is likely in the future and a high cost like good winter gear, try to sort out the easier to replace stuff and keep the most valuable. For me I will never ditch my winter boots even if I moved to a warmer location because a good fitting high quality pair is expensive, but gloves come and go.

    If you want memories, try to hold on to small reminders. Maybe a single tub or two. Then focus on what you use regularly, keep that stuff. If you use it rarely, but it is small and expensive and not out of date, keep it but set a maximum size.

    I did a massive downsizing when I moved a few years ago and it was liberating. Yeah, some stuff that was kept and some that were gotten rid of were probably the opposite in hindsight, but just having less stuff is a goal unto itself and worth it overall.

  • I chuckled.

    "Incel mint immigrant" might have worked better since it doubles down on misreading the name, but I only thought of it because yours backfired ;)

  • Technically if the bones were all laid out flat they wouldn't count as a pile!

    No reanimated a corpse from a grave without pulling the bones out and arranging them first.

  • D&D 5e does, not sure about other editions or other game systems off the top of my head.

    Choose a pile of bones or a corpse of a Medium or Small Humanoid within range.

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  • abuse of power to get the girl

    Yeah, this just reinforces the impression that you were hitting on her and everyone picked up on it.

  • If I animate a wolf skeleton does it get a wolf statblock?

    A version that can animate up to specific sizes and CRs when cast at a high enough level would be pretty neat.

  • This comic came out before Juicy?

  • "I wish for an army of skeletons!"

    "Granted! Your army of 13 skeletons stands up from the battlefield..."

  • As a DM, my answer would be yes because it says animate not will into existence and yes because fossilized skeletons would look awesome.

  • That is less pressure, not weight.

  • Maybe you should go fuck yourself.

  • Most likwly you could just buy two trucks for the same cost.

  • So like custom conversion vans in the 70s and 80s?

  • By pavement do you mean concrete, asphalt, or something else?

    Concrete on the road does sit for a long period of time before they allow traffic on it, same as your driveway. Concrete is the main structural part, sitting on top of the aggregate, and must be sufficiently cured before it can handle weight. Your driveway is far thinner than the road and needs to be cured completely before heavy weight can sit in place for hours to avoid cracking, and it doesn't cost the company that poured it more to let it sit without being used so they are going to error on the side of longer. A road tends to have pressures from traffic needs that will lead to it being on the shorter end of the time estimates.

    Asphalt (aka blacktop) only takes a day or two because it doesn't require as long to cure and it is a lot more flexible than concrete so it isn't as in danger of cracking right away.

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  • Did you go back and add in context about them almost being a couple and Y owning things at the camp? I swear that was not there before when it read like he was some other random camper.

  • He should have been tossed in jail by February for insurrection. The whole hand wringing about 'appearances' excuse is why we can't hold anyone in power accountable.

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  • What a terrible opinion to have.

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  • especially naked.”

    This was the wrong thing to say in that context and there is simply no coming back from it. Especially after someone else was verbally inappropriate recently and you being aware of it and giving it thought.

    Your story jumps around a bit but seems to be saying that after someone else did something wrong and you kind of agreed but thought the 'police' were overreacting and then you decided to skirt the boundaries and explain it as being misunderstood. Intent doesn't matter, you chose to say something stupid when you knew doing that kind of thing was already causing problems.

    If that doesn't make it clear I'm not sure what could.

  • Obvious problem is obvious.