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i have an info sharing compulsion that makes me obnoxious to people who didn't really want a helpful reply at the moment. found my niche in DnD and study groups, but i still piss off people irl when they want to complain without being offered solutions or encouragement.

i might not have jerk intentions, but it can be jerk behavior if i misread the room hard enough.

thanks for engaging in earnest.

people are definitely people. Do you like bellcurves?

you may have a headpat, optional.

for real though, recreational third spaces are better than transit or errand-necessity third spaces for a casual "hello isn't it interesting around here" chat.

attending social groups around interests helps take the guesswork out of whether people are cool to talk or no.

not that any of that would help anyone who leads with self-centered whining or skipped too many showers.

yeah, i know it's kind of troll-feeding, but there are probably other people reading who might still have some hope to stop eating incel kaka and turn it around. G.I.G.O..

thanks for keeping you defeatism and poor reading skills off the streets where someone else could get hurt. might be time for a glass of water and a stretch, bruh. ya'll deserve pro help with that depression et al., when you're ready.

feel free to make another unkind and unfunny reply if it's what helps your ego survive another 24 hrs. hopefully you have an expressive or constructive hobby as a possible alternative..

would fedi links first help? if a site has precense in the gated communities but made that visually secondary to their friendica+masto+pixelfed links..?

(i don't want to go to a corprate kettlebox to check for news and updates, that's for sure.)

they hate it less if it's funny and easy and doesn't trigger paywall-creep trauma?

prominant at the footer or last on a sidebar. a page dedicated to a brief transparency of hosting costs and ongoing labor demands of the project, and current state of funding helps a lot!

if that seems difficult, see if a friend or comrade with ok writing skills 'interview' you on the subject for five or ten minutes -- sometimes it's easier to have a friend reflecting to discover one's finer points of value.

thanks for helping build the webrings and discovery tools of tomorrow.

i'll be watching your project while i work on my Web Literacy and Navigation materials. :)

yes!

good job recognizing your limitations. no use burning out. these things generally work best in baby steps over weeks. more like gardening than a ball game. (we can play ball games on breaks though, of course)

honestly, the simple advice isn't always easy. it's just better than internment camps/prison expansion.

I just get up in the morning because FOSS is beautiful.

Thanks for engaging.

fortunately there is plenty of work to harness worry to usefulness. whatever your skills, I'm sure local chapters of progressive and human rights groups could appreciate the support. even just using whatever privledge you have to shut down racist or sexist jokes and denormalizing exclusive-supremacist comments and behavior helps hold the line.

uh someone link those fight the altright videos ig. the lecture has already been done with cool production.

cool, yah. as long as the audience can decline and leave, it's a performance. Otherwise it's harrasment -- fortunately the other article covers the finer points of avoiding cornering people or behaving like a stalker pretty well.

crossed a ripping point yes. so tactics change. it's not too late as long as people are still alive. Like painting or sewing -- we build on and salvage from mistakes. (see: transitional ethics, from social sciences)

if you feel despair, seek community and feed your soul. Please do not comply in advance, internet friend!

we survived the AIDs crisis by working and organizing by day, potlucking together, and partying and dancing to feed our spirits by night. (figurative, for our night owls and 3rd shifters.)

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Gerrymandering_in_the_United_States

Cracking and Packing. Learn and save yourselves, if you can.

https://stopstreetharassment.org/resources/male-allies/how-to-talk-to-women/

https://www.wikihow.com/Talk-to-Strangers

congrats: we have support roles. pestering you elected reps helps more than it seems. continuing to exist does spite the fasci agenda. starting or supporting an interest club or mutual aid group locally with pro diversity moderation just to connect and build community does A LOT.

i can't hit the street much anymore, but i can help neighbors and friends switch to FOSS, and i'm trying to put together enough garden in my limited space to undermine the grocery monopolies with fruit and seed sharing. there are lots of support activities needing doing :)

not really that much of an exception. most queer folk deal with bullying trauma, neuro spicyness, and are much more prone to poverty due to work discrimination and shunning by families and neighbors. All of that tends to snowball, and most of us end up with chronic inflamation and/or anxiety disorders. #thebodykeepsthescore pew trust has some useful stats.

unionizing and striking in the u.s. is decimated and barely making a comeback. organizers get raided by the police pretty easily. Protections have been systematically removed in a lot of states systematically by persistant corporate lobbiests.

how does it work were you're from..?

being an active ally in your neighborhood helps make sure fascism has no home there, preventing spread. good job. good lane to stay in.

probably good to understand the situation on the ground before pushing advice. i would be frightened to give advice that gets someone killed

You're stating something that people directly affected already know on a 'waking up anxious about it' basis. This may be interpreted as 'failure to read the room', 'ignorance of history on the topic,' or possibly 'failure to identify on a human level in the face of minor differences.' -- all treatable, but unhelpful to people who are actively discusssing survival of self or preservation of self expression as a genaral liberty.

tl;dr -- you sound like an ignorant or selfish jerk, or a 13 yo who hasn't had a thought of their own yet. Critical thinking and listening more are usually the cure #recoveredassholesanonymous

also, for Us: running helps least on a social outcome level -- better to use temporary evasion tactics and stay close or return to areas familiar enough to play gorilla tag. Duck and run, but also Hold the line.