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(They/Them) I like TTRPGs, history, (audio and written) horror and the history of occultism.

  • Powderhorn, thank you for responding to this. I wasn't intended to follow up on this post, because I primarily anticipated no response. I also do not expect any kind of action on the part of the community in response to this, but hopefully it would serve as a kernal of thought that people could build something useful for themselves on.

    With that said, I shall respond directly.

    My thesis is that contemporary headlines are not designed to inform people of the content of articles, but to provoke high-level emotional reactions that might lead to attention and click-thrus.

    You can see this happening in the thread I linked - the majority of discussion is about the headline and not the content of the article.

    So, following that, your response is a non-sequitor to my thesis. This isn't to dismiss your feelings or to attempt to harm you for social clout, but a statement of fact from my perspective - the fact that you try to choose low-impact headlines reinforces, rather than denies the idea I'm proposing - that the culture around writing the headlines is built to piss people off or scare them.

    I, point of fact, chose my thread title as an example of this phenomenon - it's a dramatic oversimplification of my point.

    Which is, to reiterate:

    Contemporary headlines are meant to make you upset, because upset people pay attention and generate social fireworks that draw more attention.

    You are a very important component of this community as someone who brings topics and concepts into the sphere of discussion, which prompts the socializing that is the lifeblood of any online community. I respect that and think it's a valuable and appreciable role to have.

    This also means, however, that you are a curator of what enters the community discussion. Even if the headline of a news article is not directly, literally and transparently ragebait, it is very often going to be phrased in a way in which it can be misunderstood or be received as inflammatory.

    This is true often enough that I feel like it would be better if something was done to decrease the chances of someone directly interacting with a sentence fragment intended to upset - it's cognitive work to cycle down from a state of aroused emotion, which decreases people's attention budget and also makes them less likely to feel the kinds of emotions that drive long-term social bonding and investment in a community.

    All of this would be less of a problem if the larger social environment online was not so deeply in the thrall of this phenomenon that many people's only interactions with public-facing online communities is incredibly toxic. The ripple effects of this can be seen in how increasingly sensitive to subtextual statements everyone is becoming (Using sensitive to just mean sensitized and not any other connotation).

    I include myself in this group. That's why I don't talk to people online anymore outside of small, private groups because those can form a culture and set of standards without being constantly bombarded by the cosmic radiation of writhing, desperate, capitalism-stranged systems that benefit directly from people's sense of anger, suffering and despair.

    So, it is my recommendation that this minor change (Rewording all titles to fit a purely informative tone) could be helpful for the long-term health of this community. I can't participate here, but I do think it's a positive and fascinating experiment that I wish well.

    Thanks for your time, Powderhorn.

  • So, I have given it some thought. I talked to my partner about it and, honestly, I don't see the point in trying to build or be a part of online communities anymore. I don't like or trust people now. I don't have the patience or goodwill I used to. I'm tired of the same conversations playing out over and over again. Nothing changes. No one values the things I value as much as I do, so everyone always disappoints me in the end.

    It just results in me bringing negativity back into my personal life, and seldom brings me any joy now. I can't expect other people to change things to accommodate my needs, so the only answer I can find is to remove myself from situations that harm me.

    So I'm going to try to stop being active online. Bye, best of luck and well wishes. I think this may be one of the best platforms I've been on in terms of quality of conversation and moderation- great job, but I'm obviously too damaged to function in situations like this.

    Peace ✌️

  • I appreciate the thought, but I didn't find that useful for my situation. I already think about this all the time, and I am not in a position to responsibly channel any energy away from keeping my loved ones alive and healthy.

  • I am trying to focus on it, it's just I can lose an hour+ whenever I come across a headline that's purpose built to piss people off- because I have to fight myself not to make an entire small essay about why it's irresponsibility presented and generally ineffective.

  • Yeah, I kind of expected as much. I will just continue to block things until I can look at local communities without being triggered by the doom.

  • Maybe I'll try to get that to work later. Thanks.

  • Article about how school lunches require system change in Humanity and Culture

    Five out the the eight last AskBeahaw posts. Six if you include the one that got deleted between me making this post and replying here.

    Your Favorite Celebrity Would Have Supported Hitler in Chat.

    The Psychological Toll of the US Election in Science.

    I'm not sure about LGBTQ+ anymore, since I blocked it a while ago because of the drip of news about how it's getting incrementally closer to being legal for me to be hunted for sport.

  • Beehaw Support @beehaw.org

    Pervasive Political News and Discussion is Suffocating: Please advise.

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  • I'm so tired of seeing people ask things like this. Is there no number of things I can block to be able to scroll through a feed and learn a few interesting things, see some fun questions and remember what it's like to not associate people talking with existential dread?

    Fine, you want solutions, destroy capitalism. Organize locally, find insitustions in your community you like and take care of them. Build communal bonds that help fight the atmosphere of divisive fear, and allow people to effectively work together towards shared goals that are counter to that of oligarchs.

  • Yeah, the constant news coverage is why I have blocked every news community on here, and still the villain pursues me.

  • Philosophically, I think the pursuit of truth and the exercise of compassion are worthwhile endeavors.

    But when that's too abstract, I remind myself that I have people who rely on me and benefit from my presence in their life. I work to make the world around me better than it was before, so that others can immediately, and in the future, can have better lives.

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  • You seem to be handling this in a really caustic way. Maybe take some time to self-reflect and come back in two weeks? You may be able to get unbanned if you chill a bit.

  • I'm using Obsidian. The minimal size makes syncing faster, and I enjoy the mobile interface.

  • Depends on how detailed the advice can be. Probably to find my current partner as soon as possible, so we could help each other.

  • The tagline doesn't make it clear that the community is pro-AI, just that they talk about Generative AI. There's lots of room there for critical discussion.

  • ???? being anti-ai is liberal now?

  • Beehaw actually does remove down voting, so that you are forced to actually find things you agree with and upvote them to curate.

  • This article fails to address one of the main causes I see people list for not having kids. It's, "Is it okay for me to bring a kid into a world this fucked up?"

    A lot of young people are deeply certain that they're going to have to live through an ecological collapse and climate disasters. Why would they want to have a child, and be constantly faced with the fact that their kid is going to have a worse life than them. That their grandkids may not know what seasons were like?

    It's also so ridiculously expensive now. It's not worth it.

  • Lay down for a minute, close your eyes and just let your brain babble about shit for a bit. Then, pick one at random and try to start it. Maybe try to find something engaging to think about, because then you'll be more comfortable with doing stuff.

  • I'm also using Syncthing to sync up my notes between my laptop and phone. It's been great! Less Google doc use.

  • Since I'm a little embarrassed by the mistake, what do you look for in an incremental game? I can look through the ones I've played for Android and see if any could work?

  • Neurodivergence @beehaw.org

    What are some fun/useful apps you use?

  • Neurodivergence @beehaw.org

    Tricks for reliable sleeping schedules?

  • Tabletop Gaming @beehaw.org

    Tell me about your favorite TTRPG!