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Lady In(side) Waiting

@ EggInDisguise @lemmy.blahaj.zone

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Hello lovelies, I am a (trans)Woman who is still in the process of discovering herself!

I have been working up the courage to be who I am for so long, I am excited to be figuring things out.

Pre-HRT, pre-fashion-sense, and pre-confidence.

Any and all tips and advice from more experienced women are welcome!

  • Lenght of a supertrawler net

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  • No. I don't think I will.

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    How dare we support the kids you refuse to 🙄 [CW: bigotry]

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  • I'm not out to anyone but my spouse, and about 3-5 other people (3 for sure, two more if they have critical thinking skills since they were with us when I was in a skirt, tights, and wearing a trans pride necklace)

    Honestly I don't plan on coming out to my family, because this is exactly how it will go.

    I'll just let them figure it out over time I guess if I can start transitioning soon like I want.

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  • Poor upper. Assuming I can actually save the Lil one, always save the dog.

    And then use my newfound fame for being the woman who risked it all to save a puppy from a volcano to fund HRT.

    In my head, there's news crews filming the whole rescue and the puppy was doggnapped from a rich couple who are extremely gracious.

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  • Yeah, I was promised a poof of pink mist and then when I emerge I'm pretty and smooth and look like my Cyberpunk2077 character.

    I mean, my brain may have made that promise up while my hand was on the way to smashing the button, but a promise is a promise!

  • Feeling a bit more feminine

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  • Girl, I swear smooth legs are the best!

    I use magic shaving powder.

    Exfoliate the legs (edit: with an exfoliating Shea body scrub), then I do a quick wipe with salicylic acid wipes (it tends to make my hairs stand out from the skin more) and mix the powder with water, slather it on with a small brush I picked up last time my spouse wanted their hair done, and just waited the 5ish minutes standing in the tub. Sensitive areas can sting a little if you leave it on too long, but so far I have yet to damage anything. Just keep away from any wounds, sores, scabs, etc.

    It's fantastic though because I don't have to worry about cutting open the girls and when I wipe off after 5 minutes the feeling of smoothness down there is divine. It's also great because I like to tuck, and use tape on special occasions like when I want to wear leggings around my living space. Smoothness means nothing is shifting around.

    Sadly I get bad ingrown hairs every so often, and this past week was particularly bad. I hate the prickly feeling 😭

    I've got one of those shavers that just plucks the hair I'm going to try when the hair gets long enough, hopefully tomorrow if I'm lucky.

    My facial hair has always been slow to grow and sparse, and the rest of my torso is pretty hairless already minus some small thin spots, so I'm mainly getting arms, legs, pits, and intimates.

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  • Ummmmmmm can the reaper come for my hormones next? That sounds way cheaper than having to pay for doctors and prescriptions.

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  • I know it won't look good on me, but if I can have the cannon and suit, can I have the body to fit in the suit too?

    Pretty please?

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    Another pumpkin rule

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  • I have never had relations with a pumpkin!

    I may or may not be taking notes on what to do for Halloween this year with my spouse, though... Body paint here I come...

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  • Selmak was frustrating, but never a douche, in my opinion.

    In fact, Jacob had such a strong impact on Selmak that they became almost a liability as far as the other tokra were concerned. He was too tempted to ignore thousands of years of protocol and precedent to assist the SGC.

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  • One of the friends I've made in an LGBT group in a small town in Ohio is transmasc nonbinary. On T for almost a year and getting top surgery soon.

    They felt quite like you did, not entirely sure where they fell, and as they put it, "trying to find a neat little them-shaped hole to fit in. But there is no them-shaped hole, they had to find a spot on the spectrum that felt right and make the hole themselves."

    I'm not sure if that's helpful to you at all, but I myself have been wrestling with my identity for some time, recently settling on being trans but still filled with doubt and uncertainty (super phobic religious upbringing really hindered me here), but after an outing recently where I was about 65% girlmoding that felt more right than anything I am more certain of my identity than ever.

    It can take some time, but you'll get there!

  • I wore a skirt today!

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  • The LGBT group sometimes organizes "takeover days" of the local city pool where everyone dresses in their gender-affirming clothing to have a pool day. I've been looking at swimwear because I really really wanna go but I don't want anything poking out, and the tucking swimwear I've found is expensive AF.

    I wanna fast forward to wearing normal swimwear😭 but for now I'll just deal with what I can. Even flared skirts have been a gamble as I'm still improving my methods.

    Thanks for all the info, it's been really great asking people further along their journey about things.

  • I wore a skirt today!

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  • Thanks! 😊I have a few more clothing items arriving today and tomorrow and I'm hoping to hang out with some of the LGBT group again later this week so I'll be FULLY girlmoding for a good chunk of at least one day this week!

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  • Omg that is fantastic to hear!

    Children aren't an option for us anyway (genetics, trauma, etc) , so that isn't a concern. At the risk of over sharing, my spouse has never had a good experience with sex until thet met me. A string bad exes due to being kicked out of the house meant triggering things, so they had basically "signed off on m*n" until they met me. Jokes on them! They've already signed off on them! So because I'm the first person they've been able to enjoy themselves with, they don't want to lose that, and neither do I. Plus I want them to be happy, and since I only feel dysphoria about it when it's not tucked away, I want to keep it.

    You have no idea how much that makes me happy since it's something I've been concerned about. 😊😊😊😊😊😊

  • I wore a skirt today!

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  • I wish I grew up in a larger city with a larger, more accepting crowd, then I might have found myself sooner.

    But no point dwelling on what I can't change and look forward to what I can!

    Like voice training... Lol. I have always hated my deep voice.

    I've briefly looked at what orchiectomy entails before, but from my understanding, if I go that route with hormones, I will not be able to use my equipment with my spouse, and we would both like to keep that ability.

    Of course for now most of that is hypothetical without funding, but fingers crossed for the future! 😊

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  • Yeah, I know a couple women who don't like talking about their current situation, so I try to be respectful of others boundaries.

    I took a quick look at their page and I like what I see, and it's not much more than I was expecting to spend honestly.

    In the morning I will have to go do some measurements, I am woefully neglecting my sleep...

    Thanks for the response!

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    Anarchyposting

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  • Who doesn't like having their Pro-State destroyed?

  • fellas

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  • Hey now, that's not fair.

    its not always the same thing XP

  • I wore a skirt today!

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  • Oof, I have been brushing my hair while dry basically the entire three years I have been growing it out. It is definitely a frizzy mess usually. Today it was almost manageable! I haven't been doing my new routine for very long.

    I have very dry scalp, and issues with dandruff usually. My scalp tends to get a little itchy after 2-3 days, even with moisturizing shampoos.

    I will skip the shampoo for a little bit and see how long it takes for dandruff or anything to appear.

    Thanks for the tips!

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  • totally stoked for you and your ¿wife?

    We have still been using our old terms of husband/wife and mom/dad (the latter mostly by my wife, when speaking to our dogs since we do not have children) but haven't really had the discussion of whether we want to use other words.

    I have been using "spouse" for the most part lately, as they have only in the past month or so settled on NB. They got super excited when their they/them pin got here from an Etsy store.

    It's been quite the Rollercoaster of emotions today, thank you for the positive vibes 😊

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    Lady In(side) Waiting @lemmy.blahaj.zone

    I wore a skirt today!