People aged 25+ How often do you hang out/see friends?

40's. Once every 2 to 4 weeks, sometimes less. As an extrovert, this is killing (figuratively) me.

I have no friends

• 25-30 living with a flatmate, seeing friends and being sociable & fun all the time, probably 6 days a week on average.
• In my 30s, living alone, having a longer commute and more responsible job, still made the effort to see different friends, with something bigger (dinner or game night) once a week. So seeing folks 3 / 7 days.
• 40s moved with partner to a different country. So now it's seeing friends 4 times a year when I go home, and another 2 or 3 times when they come visit. Definitely less than I'm happy with, and sometimes it's a source of frustration, but it's mostly OK. It's nice having the different experience of having a friend stay for a week, feels a little like being a teen when friends would sleep over.

I need to improve my language skills so I can spend time with my partners friends here. But because of demands of life, work, renovations, etc I think that even if my friends lived around, it would be closer to once/twice a week. Also, it's worth noting that as well as having lots of good friends who enjoy spending time with each other, I'm lucky to have lots of friends without kids or busy careers. One of my closest friends has both those things, and we really struggle to even fit a videocall in. But my autistic crafter buddy is good for a chat and a cup of tea anytime.

30 here and all of my friends are people I met online. We chat every day, but only see each other for a weekend every few years at a convention. My friends are all younger than me with some finishing up college and others just having full time jobs. None have a wife and/or kids though (hell I'm the only one in the group with actual relationship experience with only 1 other having experience in just random 1 night hookups).

These days I play disc golf with a customer-turned-friend every two or three weeks - which is way more often than before I met him. Back then, it was more like once or twice a year.

I guess I’m somewhat lucky that my job naturally puts me in contact with new people all the time. Even though I don’t hang out with friends that often, I still go into strangers’ homes almost daily to fix things, and I usually end up chatting with them. The elderly customers especially tend to offer me coffee - sometimes even food - which feels pretty wholesome. Almost like visiting grandparents.

Like a drifter, I was born to walk alone.

Actually, a psychologist suggested it had more to do with my youth, but whatever. I don't drift much these days, there's too many snags, I just keep holding my head above water.

Quite regularly, but only because I coincidentally moved into a house across the road from an acquaintance that became a good friend. We go over each other's house for tea, or board games, or casual multiplayer video games.

If it weren't for that proximity I'd say I'd very rarely spend time with friends. Life is busy. Work wants 40 or more hours a week, then you've got chores, shopping, study (if you're doing that, I was studying full time for a year and a bit recently), then you just need time for personal hobbies and relaxation. On top of that, other people can be flaky, or just busy with their own things.

Becausebof various political shit happening around the world, my main friendship is gone

36, less than once per month

I’m 28. I hang out with one friend at least 1-3 times a week. I see the rest of them once every few months, but we’re all in discord pretty frequently. I also have friends in the local kink scene I see relatively often depending on how many events I go to.

I'm 48. I have a few buddies that I rarely see in my hometown. I travel once or twice a year on a city break to drink and eat with a few old pals.

But yeah, generally I don't not hang with anyone outside my own wife and kids and extended fam. This isn't through choice, it just seems to be the way things have gone.

What friends?

You guys have friends?

If you count discord, just about every night. We have a whole list of things we rotate between from movies, games, and brain rot videos.

In person, once every few months. We get together for some holidays, events, etc.

Nominally once a week at a scheduled meetup. I'm reality, about once or twice a month.

Once a month, when I lived in a place where I resided for multiple years. Now that I relocated and I know literally one person in a non-work capacity, once a quarter probably.

Getting close to 40 and I spend time with friends probably on average 2-3 times a week. I'm a sociable person but do have a low social battery, so need a lot of time alone/just with my partner. Me and some close friends put on music events so we naturally spend a lot of time together which is nice.

35 here. I have a couple friends I see weekly for board games, I rarely visit my other friends though, they're usually busy with their kids.

I try to see someone at least weekly.

I'm 56. I hang out with 5 to 6 friends 10 times a month on average. Mostly to play tabletop games. Sometimes I meet one or two for lunch.

Not that often actually. But every time we meet, its very enjoyable. I guess i just feel pretty happy with just me and my girlfriend.

I’ve got one friend who’s super social but doesn’t have many friends herself, so she tries to see me almost every day. Realistically I probably see her 2-3 times per month. Other than her, I only really have two friends I hang out with in person. Each one is probably once a month or so, maybe every other month. I’ve also got a friend I like to play games online with, that used to be a weekly thing one time but we haven’t played together in a few months. I’ve got a little bit of time off work right now so I should probably try to hop on with him before I go back.

Frequency varies, sometimes monthly, sometimes not. All of my friends have dispersed across the country, got married, got divorced, bought houses, went crazy...the usual.

The one thing I need to say here is if that there is a real friend in your life that you value, you still have to invest in that friendship. Once you leave high school/college it's not just "hanging out". No one has that kind of free time anymore. If you really value a friendship, make sure you put in the effort. Don't hang on to one-sided friendships where you are the only one trying, but make sure you're putting in the effort in an actual good friendship. I know it doesn't seem like that and you have that vibe that makes you think you'll always be friends, but adult friendships take more than just a vibe.

What are these... "friends" you speak of?

40s. Have a group of friends that try to meet up twice a month to play Dungeons and Dragons. Then we have other friends we probably see every few months.

Depends what you count.

By the strict definition, very rarely. Like once ecery month or two.

But I chat online with my best friend, pretty regularly. I play games online with my cousin, who lives in another state, about once a week.

If you wanna go even broader, there's a handful of Twitch streamers I watch pretty regularly. I'll be the first to admin that's a far cry from a friendship, but they're relatively-small streamers, so they actually read and talk with folks in chat, and most of us in chat talk to each other and know each other by name. So, there's plenty of socialization (albeit low quality compared to real life) going around.

Parasocial relationships are weird.

Twice a year at most, if traveling coincides with the right locations.

I left my home country, but I've been fortunate enough to get friends to visit a few times over the years. Would be nice to make some new friends but my kid honestly runs out my social battery all on his own.

Virtually at least once a week.

In person, about once a month.

I used to spend at least one day a week with my friends, and when I was in a motorcycle club it was often far more.

Now I run my own business and have no free time really and when I do its recharge time and time spent with my wife.

I see my mates maybe once or twice a month now

Feels like less than once a month. I don't have a routine of hanging out with friends. I'm not even sure who considers me their friend. Everyone lives far away and I blame car culture for that.

Virtually nearly every night I see a friend or two, sometimes I'll go a week or so without doing this. On the weekends, I virtually see 2-5 of my friends probably 2 a month for the bigger group and 6 or so times for the smaller group (so 6 total gatherings, 2 of which a larger group shows up). Every other weekend I meet in person with a group of 4-5 nearly religiously, to play TTRPGs. Probably once a month I hangout on a Friday with friends from work at like a pub or a beer garden or a pizza place. Once a month (sometimes more) I'll meet with friends on the week days for dinner or a movie.

All things considered I feel pretty fortunate to have very virtual hobbies so I can meet with people about as much as I want nearly whenever I want to. Still working on getting more friends in my time zone that play the same games as me (I'm a recent immigrant to Germany, most of my gamer friends are still in the US, arc raiders is coming up feel free to PM me if you're in the EU timezones lol). I'm also fortunate to have made a lot of quick friends at local nerd/queer spaces and am an eternal GM when RPGs are in their golden era. It was/is not hard to find a table of people interested if you fish for a bit in my experience. Honestly I'd like to be doing more in person stuff but my flat isnt fully ready for hosting but when that happens I'll be adding a monthly board game night and a seasonal party to the mix!

Hope this helps, for what it's worth.

Im mid 40s now. For me it was:

25-35, drinking, concerts, bars. Some non-alcohol activities.

[after this time a majority of my friends have had kids and/or been priced out of my city]

35-45, Coffee catchups, work parties, activities like D&D. Traveling to see older friends. Slowly learning how to socialize without alcohol.

It does require more effort the older you get. I can get introverted, making it harder to invest the effort. Having an outgoing wife has really helped me in this regard.

I'd say 1 or 2 times a week. Sometimes a lot more, sometimes a little less.

That said.. My closest friends, the ones that I share the most common interests and hobbies with.. I barely see at all. I try to coordinate to see them monthly, but sometimes it's less. One has kids, the other has health problems.

The friends I hang out with the most, we have less in common, but we all get along well, and have some core interests and hobbies in common that I don't actually have in common with my closest friends.

The two groups of friends are cordial with each other, but neither of them are as close with each other as I am with them separately. It's interesting. I guess I have a diverse set of hobbies and friends.

I have other friends mixed in there too that I only see sporadically, that don't belong to either group. I struggle to make time for them every few months, usually at least a couple times a year, even though we live close by.

I'm glad I have friends, and it's good to be active and social. But I'm also a bit of an introvert, so some weeks I really just wanna stay home alone and veg. Many nights I do. But most times, if I get an invite to go do something/hang out, I take it. I'm really bad at planning things or inviting people over though, ironically. So I feel like I've lost friends over the years from not reaching out enough.

tried to developed some friends in college, but its around the time when texting was a big thing, so it never went too far, because one can get obsessive over texting .

Turned 30 this year. I see my coworker friend almost every day. He’ll hang out with our other friends about once every month. I hang out with my wife every day. Our girlfriend comes over on the weekends. I see other friends online Friday and Saturday usually watching YouTube and drinking, but I hang out with that same friend group locally (we’re global, but a big concentration in this city) about once every two weeks? Big hang outs (7+) are about once a month. Huge hang outs (15+) about twice a year.

It helps being in a walkable, transit oriented city. We just walk to bars/breweries with people.

D&D every other week! Unless we have scheduling conflicts, which happens often!

Not often enough. Some friends have multiple kids and others with multiple jobs but we try to hang at least every few weeks.

Sometimes more often sometimes less, but on average 4-5 times a year.

35+, many times a week if you count discord and gaming. Otherwise maybe once every six months, unless you count sports, then maybe once a week on average.

I see friends every weekday when I walk my kids to school and whenwthe kids have playdates, and when I take my kids to the school playground on the weekend. And on bowling night once a week, and on band night once a week (but I don't go every week). Also I'm married to my best friend.

Depends on the group.

I go climbing with same group at least once a week.

Then I have my big circle of vegan friends, where we try to see each order at least once a month but that can happen more often sometimes.

Then there's my classic circle of friends I've been friends with forever and the same for that, usually once a month.

So even if you disregard my weekly climbing I usually see at least one group of friends every other week but sometimes every week.

Edit: 31 by the way

Most weeks I go out and see a friend at least once. I prefer to go out twice a week though but I'm still establishing myself socially in a new city

I'm 31. The secret is hobbies and finding ways to make them social and actually making plans to hang out with friends. You can just invite another couple for dinner, or host a PowerPoint or board game party. Seriously ask yourself if you have friends who might be interested in a Halloween party if you don't have plans to attend one.

Try to do online games with my best friend once a week, I do jams with people in public once or twice a week, will probably be dancing in some capacity once a week, and I’ve got a second date coming up soon. Then there’s weekly D&D, of course, and any of the unique plans that come up during the week.

Of course non of that stops me feeling sorry for myself when I have even one day where I lay around and do nothing but I try to just let the feeling pass instead of worrying about it too much.

Almost 38, I spend all my free time with my wife. Started off more balanced before we moved for my work, and the more I focused on time with her, the happier we were. I hang out with work friends occasionally.

My pre marriage friends became vile, Trump-worshipping, incel assholes, so I am very content with my decisions.

Edited for typo

In my early 30s. It was 2-3 times a week. A couple years ago it was basically every day because my friend group was also the polycule I was in and there were a lot of us. Currently it is back to basically every day because I'm going back to university and my new friend group are all students and I live in a student apartment so we see each other in and out of class.

Edit: actually it's been basically every day for years now. Somehow forgot I was living with my best friend during the transition from leaving the polycule to moving abroad for school.

45m. I see all my close friends at least once a month. Most of the time every other week. We have gamenight or some other excuse to hang out.

We do keep in contact, discord, whatsapp. But hanging out in person is the best. So we take the time.

Some friends I see more often than others, just by virtue of schedules coinciding a bit more conveniently. I try to see someone in person once a week or so. Usually we can get larger groups together for occasions like birthdays and holidays.

Some friends moved too far away to see regularly, but we still keep in touch online, sometimes with video games. I count this separately from the "once a week" statistic above.

There are a small number of former friends (I don't even want to say former because I still like them, even though I haven't seen or heard from them in years) who just drifted apart due to differences in interests or just being too caught up in their own priorities to make time (getting married, having kids, juggling multiple jobs, etc.), but the majority of my friend group with kids still make effort to spend time together, and we never mind the kiddos being part of the social fabric either, so as not to make it feel like the kids are any sort of barrier to hanging out.

It varies, but typically like 1-5 days a week.

All the time.

friends?

I play DnD with some of my close friends. We also try to get together at one of our houses every once in a while to do "arts and crafts" stuff. Paint figurines, carve pumpkins, gingerbread houses, painting shitty paintings with bob ross. Sometimes we have "scary movie night", or watch over the garden wall, or a new anime that came out something. Sometimes we'll go out to do things too, the Zoo, or museums, or a haunted house, or coen maze this time of year. We started doing this after COVID. It seems kinda silly, but having a good excuse to get, like, a half a dozen or so friends together and hang out IRL is honestly great. Sometimes i don't wanna get up on a Saturday to do it, but I'm always glad I did. It's hard to come up with excuses to do things in person that aren't prohibitively expensive, nor infrequent.

I aim for weekly

Once every few months, mostly because i have to travel rather far to meet them and i only off one day a week. Locally i couldn't find any friend, and old friend drift apart very soon because i tend to drift away from everyone.

Same as I did post school as an adult. Once a week? Could be as little as once a month.

I walk to them all the time online though. At least a couple times a week.

Nearly every week for a session of snooker and on weekends pretty regularly. A lot rarer with old time friends who live further (1h+ drive). We've all got families. And yeah, one si ply has to take the time, it's healthy.

2-3 times per week in a normal week. Usually a scheduled dinner with neighborhood friends (and all our kids) midweek, and usually one or two social events on the weekend with whoever is scheduled. Plus I consider my work friends to be real friends, so I tend to see them almost every day.

Some friends or groups of friends I see annually, one we make sure to at least get together monthly or others every few months, another I'll talk with more often if we can't make time for being there in person, some text everyday or close to it, etc. I think it depends on the nature of the relationship.

Quite a lot for online friends and gaming. For irl friends, it's more sporadic.

35. Usually weekly, sometimes more or less

If we're talking online, enough. Not too often.

Otherwise, I see people I would consider friends every week during the college club I'm a part of.

Late 30s, long time partner but no kids, I see my friends once or twice a week. There was definitely a drop off as people started getting married but as with any relationship, friendship takes work and it usually works best when both parties share in the effort. But, people get busy with life and if you truly care about them, you need to be the one to make an effort.

I've got 2 groups of 2 friends each that I keep in touch with every 2-3 months. Well, one friend lives about a 8 hour car ride away so I only see her actually about once a year. We always have to plan at least 2 weeks if not a month in advance for meet ups but we still all make the effort.

I think that's the hardest part is finding people who are worth the effort and are willing to make the effort in return. What I find works for my friends who are pretty different from each other is to find shared interests and do that. One group likes trying new places to eat and going shopping (a lot of times are H-Mart and Daiso). The other likes to watch movies and the review them together.

At the moment almost every weekend in person, though on average it's more like every 2 weeks I think. It used to be way more but after finishing my study it became insanely hard to meet new people like myself. I also game with friends more than half of the days in the evenings tho, so that's nice.

The main loss since finishing my study is the regularity and spontaneity of meeting with friends. It requires careful alignment of agenda's and planning ahead for over a month to get something done. I hate planning, but the downside of making friends who are like me is that most of my friends also hate doing so. So sometimes I have to push a bit to get stuff planned. Previously we'd naturally run into eachother and just decide to grab a beer that evening or watch a movie or something.

I'd also live to make more queer friends where I'm at but every group seems to be for students or elderly or something.

Online pretty much all the time, in real life twice a week, at choir and at band practice. More when there are concerts.

probably once every two or three weeks on average?

3-4x per week

Pretty often since I've got a large friends group who are the "lets go to x gig/party" type

I have an active social life but mostly around shared interests, eg book clubs, sports, some activism, etc. Classic friendships not so much, having drifted from childhood friends. Feels like we live in different worlds. My partner has taken that place.