2w ago

I still somewhat think it's his fault

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Just....not even commenting on the rest of this fucked up post but how can something a person doesn't choose (like being socially awkward) possibly be their fault?
- It pissed me off, he was a creep and a perv IMO, always saying hi to us
  
  If he was a perv and making you uncomfortable because of that then it goes beyond just being socially awkward. It's still not his fault for being bullied because that was a choice that you made, I would just accept the responsibility for my past decisions rather than blame the other person and think about whether it was truly the best way for me to handle things.
- I don't know why I feel this way, TBH

This is just ableism... What the hell... He can't choose being socially awkward nor being in special education. Why on Earth would you do this to someone...?
- Fair enough, IDK why I still think it's his fault

As the socially awkward guy who was like your target for many years: fuck you and the horse you rode in on.

Do you REALLY still think it's his fault, or are you just being self-aware about your own prejudices and biases? Like, do you recognize that, logically, the idea that it's his fault makes no sense, but still can't shake the feeling?
If so, that's rather normal. Hell, that's arguably a staple of emotional maturity: recognizing that you HAVE emotions and feelings and thoughts that you can't just get rid of, but being able to avoid acting on them, or otherwise letting them control you.
If not, well... I'm glad you're choosing not to act on that opinion (assuming you're giving us a full and accurate story). But that's an utter-nonsense opinion. It's roughly the equivalent of blaming someone born blind for not being able to see.

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