gender fluid rule

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Coming home early from work one morning and finding my wife in the Blue Water tub.
Tearing up, fleeing the room, moving back in with my parents, and filing for divorce.

I could imagine such a setup for my wife and me. While I'm usually the more heat-resistant person, she showers and baths at temperatures that I consider too hot. So she could have her 42°C bath, while I take my 35°C bath at the same time.
- Same with us. Husband says "jump in the shower with me" but he keeps it at a miserable tepid barely warm temperature. I get chilled. I don't ask him to get in my shower because he thinks the heat will melt his skin off.
  
  This is an incredibly common thing, and I'm wondering if there's some kind of science behind it. If I got in the shower with my wife it wouldnt be like "wow this is pretty hot water" it's literally like "OW OW OW OW" and I have to jump out. I'm fairly certain being exposed to that for more than a few seconds would result in low grade burns.

If you don't change the gender fluid often enough, you're going to turn gay!
- Can confirm. I accidentally went over 3000 miles without a change. Now I’m pansexual.

That last line is really bothering me for some reason.
I get the joke, but I've always been sexually and romantically attracted to women, and I've never been sexually or romantically attracted to men.
Like it's so cut and dry it's why I didn't have a second thought that other people know they aren't straight or know they aren't born in the right body.
To me, It just seems so obvious that if someone needs reassurance they're straight, they ain't straight.
- If they need assurance for themselves that they are straight, then you are right, they are likely not. However much of the most extreme gender and sexual expression (primarily masculinity and heterosexuality, but not exclusively) is cultural and performative, and certain groups expect you to uphold that performance at all times, and reject anything that would be counter to it.
  That is the idea behind toxic masculinity, for example. It isn't that masculinity is bad. It is the that the cultural expectations and barriers and hyper-fixation on masculinity are bad.
  The same applies to sexual orientation sometimes. There can be cultural expectation and conformity that comes with your declared orientation, and failing to conform can have consequences in some groups. So it's not necessarily about appearing straight to hide your secret gayness, but may in fact be about appearing straight becuase doing anything outside of those expectations may have social consequences. For example, a heterosexual man giving another man a friendly hug or platonically holding his hand can cause people to question his role in their social circle. It doesn't have to be about his actual orientation at all.

I kind of like this. My current bathtub is too small for my partner and I to bathe together, plus his legs are way too long to fit comfortably. This tub lets you fill up only one side if one person is bathing, or both if both. Saves water.
Also lets you have different bubble bath and other products, or pee in the bath, without contaminating the other person's water.
I don't need RGB in the bath, though, unless it's telling me something useful like the temperature. I had a shower wand that was blue when the water was too cold. That was awesome.
- or pee in the bath, without contaminating the other person's water.
  What a relief that would be. I love to take baths in my own piss but my partner hates it???
  
  To go into more detail: I take a "clean myself" bath then a "soak/relax" bath. In the first I'll wash off the dirt, crud, and blood from the day. In the second I'll add nice smelling stuff, sink up to my ears, and relax. I'd totally pee in the first bath--it's all going down the drain soon anyway.
- I think the ideal would be this, but with a removable divider. You could have your separate baths, or combine it into one big bath. I don't know how feasible this would be to make, but I'm sure it's possible.

"It is gay to bathe with a woman?"
"Not if she is in pink water and you're in blue water."
- What if she splashes some pink in to my blue? Will that turn me in to "The Gay"? WILL IT!??!!??!?
  Fuck it, I'm off to lube up my arse just in case. Does, errr, any dudes wanna help? In a total manly fashion, of course.

I don't know, this looks pretty gay to me.
- This keeps femininity from contaminating our masculinity. When my homies visit, we all squeeze into the blue tub together because we are all men!

Hope they know they're bathing in a Trans pride color tub.
- segregated bisexual lighting

Only straight people that have never had the "omg al I gay?" Moment and REALLY thought about it.
Like you're playing spin the bottle in hs with 5 girls and 1 other guy and you're like "if you land on a girl you gotta kiss the girl" and the girls are like "fine, but if it lands on a guy you gotta kiss the guy" and you're like the odds are ever in my favour "okay" you and your friend agree. Then you're the first to spin the bottle and of course it lands on your friend but you ain't no removed so you man up and kiss your best guy friend right on the mouth to keep the game going so you can kiss some hot ladies. Kissing your friend seems a purely mechanical experience.
But you just kissed a guy. "Omg. Am I gay?" You think. So you go through it in your head.
After the party you give your friend a ride home, only to make out in your car. That seems meh but you continue the thought experiment.
Then you picture his parents aren't home, he invites you in. You go in and go to pound town on each other. Again, it's not great, but hey, you got off, that ain't bad.
But then, in your mind, comes the afterglow.
You picture laying in bed, holding eachother. Telling secrets, caressing, laughing.
Fucking bleh.
You continue the game. You kiss some girls. You enjoy the fuck out of it.
And that my friends is how you are straight but not insecure about it. I'm 42 now, this actually happened to me at 16. I've been secure in my sexuality ever since. I'm convinced these insecure, homophobic men, at least, have never entertained the "omg am I gay?" Moment, for fear of the answer.
Live your truth, whatever that is.
- Who's more straight, a dude that's tried it before and decided it ain't for him, or a dude who won't even entertain the idea? I vote that real world experience wins out.

A pink light shining on a penis will cause it to permanently lose all function and eventually fall off.
- somebody needs to alert 196 about this discovery immediately
  edit: nevermind, wasn't paying attention to what sub i'm in
- It is known
- So free bottom surgery. Where can I get this?

Dont understand the gendered lighting? Man everything from the late 80s to the 2010s had gendered lighting, color and separation.
Does no one remember Toys-R-Us literally being divided in gender? You can still tell its lasting inpact if you ever walk near the kids section a walmart, as any girls section is immediately nothing but pink.
Even to this day people still heavily insist on gender stereotypes in the LGBTQ community to the point where androgyny is back as a counter culture movement. As if it was just the oppressed heterosexual christians that love this shit. Eveyone does.
Now give me my RGB bathtub so i can make it green and bubbly like a cauldron.
- I worked a season at Toys-R-Us when i was younger and the divide pissed me off. The toys i stocked in the ‘boys’ toys were of every variety. Science kits, legos, wrestling, sci-fi, fantasy, superheroes, castles, foam weapons, nerf, tech decks and the tiny bmx equivalents, fucking Spawn figures, Hot Wheels, kinetic sand! And for the ‘girls’ section, pick a doll, adult woman or baby, the other six pink isles are literally just barbie, nothing is less than $50 because these are all actually very specific collectors items for gay boomers.

They've both got blue lighting. She's just on the rag.
- Thanks I didn't need to read that

That's how gender affirming stuff for cis people looks like.

Wow, the rare dual cuck.

I watched the Aurora Teagarden Mystery movies and the boyfriend stays over and sleeps on the couch.
You can tell they’re made by Hallmark.
- Sorry I'm uninformed, but what do you refer to? Is it old fashioned that a boy stays over at a girls house and sleeps on the couch?
  
  It’s just a very old fashioned “our characters are morally perfect Christians” approach
  
  For adults? Yes, it would be old fashioned for an adult boyfriend to sleep on the couch at his adult girlfriend's place.

Quora:
"I accidentally took a bath in my wife's girl side bath, Am I gay now?"

There's a thing called Yuanyang hotpot:
- ohhh, i thought they where bathing
  The vampire is going to be happy that the food got properle heated

This is a Hays Code compliant bathtub.

Some people see heterosexual people living their best lives and choose to be bothered by it. Ironic

Is this what they call "soaking"?

What if we kissed in the Tide Pod spa?
- I was thinking more of a Pepsi logo.

Looks like a dishwasher tab.
- The Tide Tub Challenge.
  
  Meanwhile in my small bathroom it's more a tight tub challenge.

really not sure of why it would be a thing for christian couples anyway. Nudity alone is a factor if they are not married. So, only benefit is if either they want different temperatures or apparently colors in the water.