How is dating with your mental disorder if you have one?

I never thought I would have a healthy relationship with ASD+ADHD. I found someone who is my equal and we have an extremely fulfilling relationship that's full of both amazing fun moments and frustrating ones, but we always understand each other. Which helps with our son as well, as he's a carbon copy of us.
- This is awesome and is how i feel about my current relationship. We are only a few months in but it just feels right. We both have asd and adhd and she has a few extras. We both take meds to help manage it but we just... Understand each other.
  Obviously it can fail, but we sure hope it doesnt.
  Imo, a relationship with a mental disorder needs an understanding of the disorders of both parties. Both people having asd is kinda what i needed in my life as we understand eachother and our own quirks and know what helps or how to deal with them

It sucks. And for many years I avoided building a relationship, as much as I wanted to. Because I knew the shit that could happen, knowing how I am. But, in order to really live, you have to jump in the pool and get muddy. With the proper therapeutic treatment to go with it, of course.

Everytime I think I'm doing well enough to "put myself out there" I crash out again. I think I'll probably die alone.

I don't know. I never date without.
- Agreed. It has odd syntax. Not unlike dating ADHD+THC, I'm sure.

Dating is non-existent for me as I have BPD, which makes socializing really hard, in general.

The mixture of the racing thoughts that come with hyperactivity plus my own attachment issues derived from a difficult and physically abusive childhood have made me someone who gets easily triggered by even a semblance of disregard or lack of kindness, and then I start yelling... I've had to consciously change my understanding of the world and I'm still trying to properly use the mental tools required to stop/slow the negative thoughts that end in me getting upset. The one lady I fell for and dated years before I met my now wife broke up with me because of my anger and proclivity for starting arguments, after all. Outside of relationships, I used to pick fights at the slightest indication of perceived danger/disrespect, something I had to get out of my system as well to live in society. In my defense, being in the FFL for 5 years was not helpful in trying to push down/recalibrate my aggression. But, with my wife's help, I've managed to reach a 'healthy' and stable point in my life, and I'm sharing this today so y'all don't lose hope. 🙏❤️
- You know? Thank you. I found a lot in there to mull over, and it seems to lead toward clarity —so, that's a bonus! 🙇🏼‍♂️✊🏼

Autism, depression, anxiety, ADHD. I'm not dating, and I don't plan on it until I'm the fuck out of America forever.

ASPD here, like others with my condition I find it hard to have a relationship that goes on for more then a few weeks. I get bored of people really easily and I can't empathize with anyone else.

Found someone with similar issues, and we are able to support each other in ways other people can't.

I have a touch of the tism. Dating isn’t for me
- Everybody is their own person and dating may not be for you, but autism does not have to mean that. I have a diagnosed autistic friend who dated so much they have two spouses now.
  
  Are they prepping for the collapse of civilization? Pre-building a tribe? It might actually work, but I have so many questions.

Autism + male
It's like trying to find water deep in the desert.
You'll be lucky to find a mirage.
But most of the time you'll find others also trying to find water.