That would be a lot
That would be a lot
That would be a lot
Dude I get pumped for even a few upvotes here, especially if it's something I'm enthusiastic about. That shit goes far with me 😊 I love you dorks
Awww we love you too!
I admit I was tempted to ironically downvote you...
You silly goose! We love you too.
It's definitely quality over quantity here. Every upvote means a real human person saw my post/comment and liked it enough to upvote it. And I can even see who on Mbin!
I hide the votes, just because I get a little tilted whenever I get driveby downvoted, but the nice comments mean the world to me. Like one person replying affirmatively is worth a thousand votes.
EDIT also, love ya you spoony worlder!
Two people told me the salad I was making at the grocery store salad bar looked good. I was like damn. I’m really good at making salads.
Don't knock yourself down! I'm sure your glitter is great too!
Yeah it's like brb pivoting to make salads my whole personality now rofl
Every Monday night I do a radio show. Most weeks I get about 15 people listening, and have had to work really hard to stay at a place where I'm happy that it's as many as that.
Time is fleeting, we don't get back what we've used, so it blows my mind that 15 people choose to spend two hours of their week listening to my bullshit. Sure, I'd like it to be more, but I'll take what I can get.
Every week you have 15 people sitting in a circle hanging on your every word for two whole hours. And they keep coming back. That’s a lot of good friends, man! If they were there in person we’d all wonder if you were a cult leader.
It isn't a cult, I just really like robes.
Plug your shit man. I'll be number 16 at least once.
OK!
Well, I'm live at https://stream.djdarren.site/ between 1900-2100 UK time every Monday, after which I upload it to Mixcloud.
Man here, I am still riding the following highs:
2 months ago, a cashier told me that my leather jacket was cool
~5 years ago, another cashier said she thought my outfit looked was nice
~7 years ago, a clerk at a deli told me that I had a nice voice
I bought a new hat about 5 years ago. In the first year, I had a young woman tell me she liked my hat (random passerby in a supermarket), but she giggled as she said it. I spent the next long while wondering if she was being genuine and she was just nervous about saying something, or if she was making fun of me and had said it ironically. (She was with someone else, so that seemed to make the latter more likely).
A few months ago, an elderly woman at the pharmacy told me she liked my hat, and that one I knew was genuine.
I haven't left the house without that hat since. Still riding that high, too.
In 2011, I worked at a company that was near a small local sandwich shop, and I'd go in there frequently for lunch. At one point, when I got back to the office, I found that they clerks had written in sharpie on the bag something to the effect of, "You're always so bright and cheery when you come in here, we love your attitude!" Made my year. I still have that bag in a box in the closet.
There was a lady who came in my store regularly. You could tell she put a lot of work into herself. I mean, it had to take her hours to get ready every morning.
She always seemed so sad. Not rude or anything, just depressed or something.
It took me more than a month to work up the courage to say it, but one day I got the guts and I said, “Hey, I’ve been wanting to say this to you but I know how men can be and I’ve stopped myself a hundred times. I’m not hitting on you, I’m married. I just have to tell you that you are one of the most beautiful people I have ever seen in my life and I just love the way you dress and do your makeup. You’re always a pleasant sight.”
I never seen that woman with a sad look on her face again.
Had another customer, very old lady. Very hateful. Always in a rush but doing everything so slow. One of the meanest looking people I’ve ever known. I didn’t see her smile for years. She was probably about 85 years old.
One day I said to her, “You know, you’re one of my absolute favorite customers. I’m always happy to see you coming.”
She looked up at me with that mean face and flashed a short smile. I had never seen her smile before that. She didn’t say anything, just smiled.
Every time she came in after that she’d be her usual mean looking self, but she’d always smile at me and then go right back to grumbling.
Come to any part of China that isnt Beijing, Shanghai, Shenzhen. You can be the most average looking American and even in the most scenic locations on the planet random folks will ask to take pictures with you or just of you and tell you youre beautiful.
Can confirm. In Chengdu and Guilin, last week. And right, my only distinguishing feature is being 6 foot, 2 inches. 😊
When i was working out people started complaining i was too buff, when i wasn't working out people complained i was too skinny.
When i'm fighting for my goals people complain i'm trying too hard and when i'm not they are complaining i need to do more.
It's never right with them...hold on to those compliments, they are few and far between.
I had a convo on instagram with some guy (who turned out to be some kind of coach for life goals or whatever) and he started praising me for recognizing a certain hardship and it turned me off from conversing with him...it made me physcially cringe hearing someone praise something i did.
I'm probably a little messed up lol
I don't have to imagine. I'm sure almost 15 people have complimented my appearance over the course of my entire life.
Look at Mr George Clooney over here
Is that counting relatives?
Yeah....
What?! I got one random woman on the bus to school when I was around 17 (so I looked about 12) who mistook my resting grumpy face for actual sadness and spent a good 5 minutes giving me a pep talk about how if anyone bullies me, it's because they're jealous that I'm pretty. I was just sitting there confused the whole time.
And then compliments as general love-bombing from my toxic exes. And as part of a few generic "my beautiful daughters" from my parents, which was just hollow to me. So I can literally count it on one hand.
I do get complimented on my miniatures, though. And that's more important, because that's something I achieved.
If "social media" is telling you that, then stop seeing "social media". Only spend time with those that pump you up.
You are wonderful, just the way you are.
Thanks MN so are you
I think the reason why being complimented by strangers feels so nice is because it used to happen to you as a kid alllll the time. Happens to my kids all the time for dumb shit you’d never compliment an adult for. I bet people take that for granted when they are kids and only notice it’s missing when it stops happening to them as they get older.
I once had 1500 upvotes on Reddit for something, don't even remember what. I'm a celebrity now.
I managed to get 1,200 upvotes here on Lemmy 2 years ago during the Reddit API fiasco on my old lemmy.world account so I'm a super star as well :3
I remember my most uovoted comments were always the pithy little sentences that didn't add much, but captured the zeitgeist. Meanwhile I'd write an essay with a proper thesis and everything in a niche community and get like one downvote for my trouble.
One of the reasons I turn off vote displays here. I don't consider it real engagement. Yeah we all do it to be polite, but it doesn't mean anything. A hundred upvotes is like a hundred people replying "ok" or "ya" — not even.
Anyway that's my hobby horse, thanks for reading.
It's always these quippy one-liners that add nothing of value to the conversation. One of the aspects that made commenting on popular posts so unrewarding and boring because the entire comment section would be full of people parroting this senseless nonsense. Actively a part of what made me comment and post barely on reddit. Whereas on here, I'm commenting a lot more than I used to simply because the discussions surrounding the comments actually exist and is appreciated.
Theres a guy I know who focuses on always getting high numbers. He's one of those startup weirdos.
Bragged that he got 100 likes with his new shirt.
Bragged that his photo of his smoothy got major engagement and was trending.
It seems exhausting to constantly perform like that.
I think about that quite a lot when I'm watching some of my favourite channels on YouTube. Just how much they have to keep on having ideas, and how much time and effort goes in to that 15 minute video you've just watched.
I don't have the energy for that.
I briefly tried making YouTube videos (didn’t really stop for any reason other than my usual inability to stick with anything) and when I got a handful of views and comments my reaction was “wait who the fuck is watching this?”
It’s about exposure potential and ease. Saying it in real life is harder and much less likely. You are also exposed to a fraction of the amount of people. Not disagreeing but that’s why
It's not the same, likes cost nothing. Imagine going around and telling every poster you upvote "good comment, I like this".
That's a good comment. Genuinely I nodded reading it.
Thank you very much I like your comment too.
Solid comment, A++++, would read again.
15 likes doesn’t make you a loser, 1000 likes does
That sounds like a challenge. C’mon fellas, this cup size connoisseur thinks we can’t make them look bad with our upvotes!
click aaaaand three. Take THAT, oh ye of little faith!
"us"?