Why do I drag my feet when it's time to start a new task even if I know I'll enjoy it once I get started?
Why do I drag my feet when it's time to start a new task even if I know I'll enjoy it once I get started?
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You might have executive dysfunction
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Wasn’t sure if this was a dig or a legit suggestion so I looked it up and, honestly, yeah - maybe.
It sounds like ADHD is a prime (or the?) example of this and that definitely wasn’t on my radar. The HD part of ADHD does not ring true to me but maybe it manifests in unexpected ways.
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It presents in many ways that often don’t seem to make sense. Stimulants usually have opposite effect for those with adhd. They can be calming
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There are 2 types of ADHD: ADHD (hyperactive) and ADHD-PI (primarily inattentive). I have ADHD-PI, which does not really manifest hyperactivity. More like the "I can't drive once my meds wear off because I'll get distracted and drive up a curb"-type.
Executive dysfunction is a major part of my diagnosis, as well.
Not saying that you absolutely have ADHD, but it's something to be mindful of if you find that its hugely affecting your life in a negative way.
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I think it is worth being very clear that "Executive Dysfunction" is not a disorder, it is a term to describe a symptom that appears across multiple disorders as well as independent of disorders.
Task initiation is an uphill battle for MOST people, and on its own does not indicate a disorder. Uncertainty and anxiety are very real barriers that can overwhelm anyone.
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I’ve heard that some people who have ADHD can have a real hard time with “transitioning” from one frame of mind to another as is required for starting a new task of any kind. I imagine people who don’t have ADHD can also struggle with that sometimes
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Autistic people can also struggle with transitions from one task/state to another.
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Yup this is a typical symptom of adhd. This alone doesn't mean you have adhd, but it means you should put it on the possibility list and maybe get evaluated by a professional
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What kind of professional and to what end? I don’t think an explicit diagnosis would really help, but I have been thinking talking with a therapist/counselor could help with numerous issues I have.
Speaking of tasks though, finding and choosing a counselor has been daunting and keeps leading me to decision paralysis.
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Because everyone is struggling and tired of it? I think mental exhaustion, burnout, anxiety are common currency these days. Don't be hard on yourself if you need a warm up before you get started, like an old reliable beloved car.
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I have ADHD (inattentive type) and I call this task initiation avoidance, which I derived from the similar community term pathological demand avoidance. It's fundamentally related to executive dysfunction but more specific.
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How do you get anything done ?
Asking for a friend
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Meds
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A lot of people are saying ADHD, but I think in some cases it could also be anxiety or depression.
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I don’t feel depressed, but anxiety is definitely on the menu…
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Depression isn’t “feeling sad.” It has a lot of symptoms people do t commonly associate with it, including irritability and lack of motivation.
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I think the cause isn't as important because, for all of them, I think, the solution could be the same.
Take one small bite of that huge daunting pie, and get the ball rolling. Then take another bite; do something easy. And then another. And now you're off.
I have tasks lined up for yeeeeears I think. It's daunting. I do it a bite at a time.
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A body at rest requires more energy to reach a given speed than one already in motion.
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Do you perhaps fear failure? That you might do it incorrectly?
That's a bit what's stopping me often from starting something new.
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That’s definitely part of my anxiety issues. But that wasn’t what was slowing me down from the particular task in my sights when I made this post.
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Because task starting is legit hard and I don't think it needs some mystical explanation. The way to adress this is to break it town to small tasks and start at it. When I start my remote software engineers work day I start with a checklist to what I want to do - thats already first tiny task that sets me into work mood. Then make the first points easy loke "check email x", "check website Y" etc.
It's important to be descriptive with your tasks and just don't write "check all emails" because those are demotivating and tiring just looking at it. Use multiple points of "check customer X emails", "check email replies".
Ive been working remotely for over 20 years so I'm very familiar with this issue and this tip is the best one I can give!
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This is true for starting anything. When I'm getting ready to run, I know I have a five minute warmup then a stretch, then the run, but when I start, it's just a five minute warmup -- nice and easy, no rushing.
For a work example, if I'm dreading starting something, I'll spend a little time the day before just getting ready for it. Get the data accessible, write a checklist (as above, very helpful for offloading brain work onto the page), get reference documents ready (printed), etc.
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Shut up! And get out of my head!
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I don't know why but this reminded me of a joke..."My parents took me to the doctor because they thought I had mono. Turns out I was just lazy". I think that underneath it all we are like cows and just want to eat grass and bask in the sun as a default behaviour.
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In Norwegian there's an expression that translates roughly to "The threshold mile" (threshold, as in door threshold).
Because Dørstokkmila (which is obviously a metric mile - 10km), is terribly long when you need to start something.
The closest expression I've heard as a translation was when Green Day sang:
Peel me off this Velcro seat
And get me moving
I sure as hell can't do it by myself-
Maybe:
[“How do you eat an elephant?”
\ “One bite at a time”](https://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/how-to-eat-an-elephant/)?
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I don't know but I know the feeling.
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Because "knowing it" isn't the whole picture.
It's actually only a very tiny part of the picture.
You're asking about what motivates you. Knowing can motivate. Experience motivates more tho. So does habit and some other stuff.
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I think it all comes down to attitude if you approach the new task as a welcome challenge as opposed to a chore it tends to be a more positive experience initially
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I don’t think this is it. Like I said, I actually know I’ll enjoy it once I get started but I will scramble to come up with anything else to do instead to avoid starting it.
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ADHD
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