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7mo ago

Fucking run

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Man, I don't even feel comfortable grabbing my own plate at a buffet.

The whole ritual of being served at a restaurant makes me queasy. But I'd never dare interfere in it. Never!
Also, when the food takes long to arrive it's a good sign: they took time to prepare it.
- Or it sat in the window too long waiting for a runner and now it’s cold (sadly, I’ve had this happen more often than it simply taking a while to be prepared).
  
  I didn't consider that. BF's behavior actually makes sense in that case. I guess I never eat at restaurants that are that full. But seeing OOP's picture, neither do they.
- Or they're slammed and your burger comes out dry because they cranked the grill up to cook things faster.
  I don't go out to eat at peak hours anymore.
- Yeah me too, but I can’t help but not try and hand them plates to clear and get them all in order.
  I don’t know what but I don’t like being waited on like that makes them feel like servants to me but we are equal.

Now we have beige flags? Soon there'll be burnt umber, fuscia, striped, herringbone, and eventually they'll have gone to plaid.
- My Chilean flag is that I enjoy back scratches.
  
  My Chilean flag is that
  digo weon muchissima mas que los otros español hablantes.
  
  Is a Chilean flag just a really narrow strip of fabric that runs down the entire length of the flagpole? If not, it should be.
- I'm waiting for the swiss flag. It's a huge plus
- I'm waiting for houndstooth.
- My cirulean flag is that I want more flag types.
- I look for yellow ochre flags.

The redness of this flag is 100% dependent on his demeanor, it could easily go either way. If I'm working and a customer volunteers to help me do my job in a manner that is clearly not hostile or insulting I'd call that a good thing.
- I can't think of any way doing this regularly could be a good thing.
  
  I can't think of any way doing this ever would be a good thing.
  
  You can't imagine a scenario where a person choosing to politely and cheerfully assist you with your job would be a good thing? Sounds like a failure of your imagination specifically
- This would freak me the fuck out. Let me do my job, please and thank you. You don't work here.
  
  You sound fragile
- Do you work in the hospitality industry?
  
  Not currently, but I worked front and back of house for several years at sit-down restaurants, plus fast food back in high school. If someone volunteers to make my job easier and isn't a jerk about it I don't see any reason to be upset, seems pretty simple.
- There's literally no way for someone to do this that's not hostile and insulting.
  
  You are wrong
- He can be used as excuse for some shitty manager to fire someone "look how slow you are, the client had to come itself to take the plate. Don't bother coming back tomorrow"
  
  This is the first/only good point I've seen here as to why this would be a bad thing to do regardless of legal liability or his demeanor or intent. Management don't need a legal or moral justification to be assholes.
- I would add that regularity and familiarity are key as well. How often does he do this? Is it at restaurants where he is a regular and knows them? If he's a regular who does this occasionally, probably fine. If he hangs out by the kitchen of every Applebee's or Cracker Barrel he wanders into, he's a serial killer probably.
  
  These are reasonable follow up questions to ask, we do not have enough info
- Per the post the boyfriend is doing this because he is impatient not because he is nice and trying to genuinely make the waitresses life better.
  
  Both can be true though. He could be doing it because he's impatient, but doing it in a way that makes the waiter/waitress's life better.
  
  Impatient =/= rude or hostile, per the post he's smiling with no visible indication of anger or displeasure, you don't have a clue what his motives are or how nice he may or may not be about it
- Bruh you're an .ml why are you stanning a scab.
  
  Scabs get paid, words mean things, dumbass

Imagine his partner is in labour for hours. He gets impatient and just grabs a baby from the nursery and brings it to her with that smile. Like I’m hundred percent sure that if he does this regularly he has grabbed plates that were meant for other tables.
- He gets impatient and just grabs a baby from the nursery
  You don't want to know how often that really happened!
- Uhh... I did most things in the hospital before my wife gave birth. The nurses were simply too busy so I started helping with the small stuff and then they said ohh thanks when I'd adjust the baby heart monitor and other sensors that randonlu went off. I of course made sure it was ok with them.
- Yes I'm sure this guy has trouble remembering the face of their waiter and talking to people, he just goes and grabs shit randomly. Spot on deduction, Watson!

That's actually annoying as fuck.

How's his patience behind the wheel of a car?

Because there's no such a thing as unskilled labor, some people believe that you can wait tables without training, and that people duck as waiters.
Plus they clearly hate the job so it makes me feel as if they are making me a favor. That said, probably the job pays terribly and that's the reason why this happened in the first place.
I want competent waiters with competent salaries.
- Friend of mine is a waiter who says things like “give me that two dollar minimum wage any day with tips.“ Says he makes more than anybody else in the restaurant except the owner. But again, this is skilled labor as you say, I couldn’t just go in and be the same caliber with no experience, he’s been doing this decades.
  
  It depends on where you work for those tips. Fine dining and busy bars tend to do good. Though I was a bartender at one somewhat busy bar and tips were shit because the clientele were just that way. Old folks and people who spent all their money gambling on video poker mostly. Was kind of annoying when someone won big and bought the house a round but didn't tip at all or tipped $1.
  But I only had that job for one year before I left to work in IT. No tips but way better pay overall.
- I want competent waiters with competent salaries.
  If you're going to throw your money away, throw some this way. I haven't paid someone to carry food to me in like a decade. It seems like something from another world now.
  
  Mood

Yeah this is unacceptable behavior. That said I think this is something that ought to be just explained to him because he might legitimately be a total dumbass.
That said I wish more restaurants were like Fuddruckers or Firehouse Subs and just let me grab my food from the counter myself once it was done. I don't really want to pay someone to carry my food & drinks to me and be possibly insincerely nice to me to increase their tip or whatever.

Ask him if he wants to come back to the kitchen and wash his own dishes while he's at it.

THIS IS NOT A DRILL
I repeat
THIS IS NOT A DRILL
CONFIDENCE IS HIGH
(wtf is that even supposed to mean)

9 times out of 10 this douche bag would grab another tables order, or mess up serving flow because he thinks his brain is operating in a different level than the lowly servers.
What if the table that was sat before you had the same order as you, you impatient asshat?
Stay at home and nuke burritos if you are too childish to wait your turn.

This looks like the guy is self-reporting.

To some people everything is a red flag. Bro is just hungry and helpful
- Once maybe twice, sure. Enough times for someone to make a post about it? I also wouldn't say it's a red flag but it's definitely weird.
  
  Yeah, also:
  “Helps” as in asks the waitress if he can help when she brings the first dish? Ok, weird but ok.
  “Helps” as in walks up to the pass and looks for their order to grab it when the waitress takes the minute or two to make their rounds? Absolute “the rules don’t apply to me” burning red flag.
- Helpful what. That's super weird and annoying and nothing else. He's not any faster carrying two plates to their table than a server, and how can they trust him to not fuck it up, grab the wrong stuff, touch other guests' plates...

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