I've been binging Grey's (currently on the Covid season) and wouldn't consider Mer to be a "pick me girl". Especially after Derek, she has focused on her career and family and only has occasional flings. Her self esteem doesn't come from any sort of external validation.
A quote from this season about Mer sums it up well: You've always been your own person. A force of nature. You've never needed anyone but you.
The article does not say that the actress felt that Meredith was a "pick me girl". It highlighted one specific scene that she felt was cringe, but fans of the show loved.
I'm the Dragon Lance novels Kitiara is character that has bonded with an adult blue dragon calles Sky i think.
You two areguing makes me think you are about bond with each other, as kitiara didnt start out as one of rhe bad guys but ended up being a major person in the evil army
Just a coincidence in your names but amusing to me for the coincidence of it
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