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  • I'm not the sort of person who shares memes but it encapsulates my current view and why I'm doing all this. Also it just really struck a chord.

    Day 7 is complete and I'm feeling stronger than an ox. Well, I was born in the year of the ox so I guess it fits. Still off the alcohol and Mr Peeler accepts that there's no tipple to be had during the day. It's doing us all good!

    Have a great day all!

  • Quitting vapes has been easier than I thought. God what a fucking waste of money. GP bulk billed my telephone appt. Amazing weather. Cats are happy. Friends have been in touch, they're both related to my old workplace so I do have some nice memories and reflections of it finally. I still have daily violent fantasies of kneecapping or bashing the brains in of the person there who sexually assaulted and harassed me and also undermined my work but I think that's part of the healing process. I hope I don't see him though. I'm a pacifist and he can probably fight, but it might be ugly.

    Work was good, took my colleague for some driving practise before their license test tomorrow. She's another trans woman and working with and chatting with her has been fantastic. I'm not saying cis people are an issue to work with as my boss and other colleagues are also wonderful, but talking to someone who gets almost every bit of what I'm experiencing because they're experiencing too is really nice. She's also not at all the stereotypical trans woman either so we can also removed about the gatekeepers and the lack of a real trans "tribe".

    Another kinda busy night of aa and such and some food, then bed before 9. Fuck it's nice to feel like I'm in control of my future and my plans keep coming up milhouse.

    Thanks for reading.

  • Finished my ten sessions with the psychologist last week, they sent a report back to the GP with a recommendation that I see a psychiatrist for an ADHD diagnosis. The GP gave me a referral and I followed up. It's $1000 just for the initial consultation, and hundreds for each subsequent appointment. WTF! Plus I can't get in until at least December. Is it any wonder there's a bit of a mental health crisis in this country when support is so expensive.

    • In case you (or anyone reading) didn't know, many people can get up to 5 further rebated sessions with a psychologist through a GP Management Plan + Team Care Arrangement. Your GP needs to set it up but should be familiar with the process. The rebate is a bit less than the MHCP one.

    • If you're in the SE, I can recommend my psych. My initial appointment was free under the Medicare thing, and then every appointment is like $150 something I think? It's more than $100 but less than $200. Wait times are I think maybe a month or so? But it could've changed since then as he only does appointments every 2nd Saturday which is annoying tbh.

    • I've been playing the psychiatrist waiting game too but strongly recommend getting as many referrals out there as possible at least starting with general psych and not just ADHD specialists. I got lucky after pushing my GP to send more referrals out, ever though it was just for general psych it turns out there are other psychiatrists that don't advertise as specialising in ADHD per se (because they'd be swamped), but can still actually do the assessment and prescribe medications accordingly, and are reasonably familiar with differential diagnosis. (I quite specifically didn't want to start off with a specialist but somehow have ended up on this track) I got my first appointment within 8 weeks of my renewed push, x1 followup after 3 weeks and final assessment 6 days after ( next Monday).

      Two things - firstly check what MBS item number each appointment will be under. The actual diagnosis appointment where they give you a treatment plan should be an Item 291 which has a much higher Medicare rebate - $427.75. That might make the fee less scary, if that's the $1000 appt... If it can't be done in one session they may use a combination of Item 296 (rebate of $246.00) and Item 306 (rebate of $173.60) first.

      Second, don't forget to check your Safety Net threshold for the year by logging into Medicare. It's easy to hit it reasonably quick if you've been doing psychology sessions with large out of pocket fees. Once you hit it the psychiatrist sessions are heaps cheaper. I hit my threshold in June so was out of pocket $45.80 for my first psychiatry session (item 296) and $60.25 for my second (Item 306) - both over an hour long, and very extensive, cost $475 each.

      • Thank you so much for taking the time to write that and for sharing your experience. The response I got from the psychiatrist's office did mention the Item 291 rebate, and that was in the context of an "opinion only" referral, which, if I understand correctly, means the GP manages the medication going forward. If I have follow-ups with the psych it's $375 a session, with $125 rebated. I'll check out the Safety Net, I wasn't aware of it. Thanks again.

    • ADHD&BED clinic

      Check this place out, it's still expensive, but at least their waiting period is only two weeks.

      • Thank you! Will check it out. I'm at the point where I need answers and help, I've lived with this for too long, mostly unknowingly because I spent a decade between '97 and '07 getting off my tits on stimulants. That's not a thing in my life now and the reality has come crashing down in recent years.

  • I think it's time to take my first mental health day off or something. Or maybe it's just the overstimulation from cooking. I just... Yeah

    • Do it. If you can notify by email do it now, but set to deliver at start of business tomorrow. Then you've got the rest of tonight off too.

      • I'll see how I fare up. Iunno, maybe I just need to see how I feel tomorrow + tomorrow night. Leaving early so I can watch Gran Turismo early for my other job.

  • wow 20C tomorrow

    • My interstate relatives think this is some kind of funny melburnian game where we decide to fool everyone with our temperatures this year

  • Kinda glad I'm childfree by choice, I would hate to be a parent of one of those poor kids from those daycares in NSW and QLD

    i wont elaborate further than that, it's in the news atm

    But holy shit. The absolute worst of the worst of society being in that close proximity. Those poor children. I hope they can heal and find happiness.

  • What a whirlwind of a day. Trying to catch up with work from yesterday after the database I use fell down and crashed for all of yesterday.

    Playing catch up is not fun.

  • Found a new series to watch called Hijack. Didn't read anything about it except it stars Idris Elba and it seems to be about a plane being hijacked. Timely viewing for someone taking an international flight in 12 days.

    • Without trying, I regularly seem to watch plane crashes in movies I watch while flying. Often it's in movies that you don't necessarily expect to have plane crashes in them just from the title.

      I've also noticed that in flight movies never seem to include plane crashes - but that is understandable.

  • The moon was absolutely beautiful this morning. Driving home just past 7am, the sky was clear, the fields were steaming and the moon was giant and glowing and glorious.

    • That was me. I've been working on my technique, and doing squats. It's nice that it's being noticed 😊

      • 😂

        "I see the moon; the moon sees me. Down through the leaves of the old oak tree. Please let the light that shines on me. Shine on the one I love. "

  • I decided to go for a walk outside earlier, because the weather was nice. Now I can't stop sneezing 🤦‍♀️ I just wanted to enjoy the warmth and now my brain is making it's grand escape out me nostrils ughhhh

    shakes fist at sky

  • This rant/whine requires some backstory. ::: spoiler Backstory When I got married a few years a (pretty sure I've said this in the past?) I took my wifes last name cause her family are lovely and my family are... well... A holes. All my friends and stuff know me by my new name, anyone who doesn't basically doesn't know me any more. it sort of became a bit of a cull of old "friends" and stuff since I don't have Facebook I don't really have a public presence any more. Which TBH, I like. ::: This morning was my 3rd encounter with someone from my past in like 2 weeks. The previous 2 all used my old name so before I even saw their face I knew I didn't wanna talk to them. Fortunately the guy this morning didn't recognize me (thank fuck cause I dont have nice things to say to him at all). But why am I suddenly running into people from the past? No offence to these people, but like cant we just pretend we dont know each other? We're not mates any more so why do we have to exchange pleasantries? Just nod so that we recognized each other if you have to acknowledge it at all. No need for the: "Oh man whats new?!" "well, a shit load actually, but we're not really mates so you dont know that hey"

    I know I know, I sound like a grumpy entitled arsehole.

    • Some people feel obligated to engage. As uninvited and unwarranted as it may be. A lot of times it's unintentional and genuine.

  • So part of my job, I have to like... cold email business so they can join the website my work looks after. And I've been emailing back and forth with this one guy for almost a month now. Even called him a few times to talk, and yesterday someone bought a particular spot that this other guy was asking about.

    And obviously we can't promise spots, it's like a first in best dressed situation. So this one business buys the spot, and we let him know that the spot he wanted is taken but if he wants to be in another spot we're happy to do that.

    But he emails back like pretty much entitled af like "I don't want to be in a spot below this small business. My business is this big and and we have this many things" and I've emailed back like "sorry dude. Payment went through, this spot is great take it".

    This arsehole just went and replied all (his associate was in the email as well) but said "hi associates name" and pretty much said like "I don't want to be in a lower spot compared to this smaller business. I don't want to work with them (meaning the business that my work looks after) if this is how they conduct business".

    Such a fucking arsehole. Like it's so demeaning to this other business just because they're not as "big" as his business, and again, we can't promise a spot. He's dicked us around and wasted our time for almost a month, like... Ugh.

  • New brushes have been attained. I need new ones because I use small ones now and the only 2 I had were getting worn out. As a beginner I would use big brushes and do big characters, now I do small characters. ( small is more difficult ) . This is a good thing. 😊

    I also went to a little gallery and saw some lovely work. There was a water colour of a kookaburra and some really good scrolls of ancient Chinese script.

    • 😍💜💜💜

      • The brushes are soaking in tepid water as we post. 😊 The bristles are glued in a big point for protection so you have to soak them, open them, to get the starch out before you can use them.

  • Breakfast 🍏🍎🍐🍊🍋🍈🫐🍓🍇🍉🍌🍒🍑🥭🍍🥥🥦🥑🫛🍆🍅🥝🥬🥒🌽🥕🥐🍠🫚🥔🧅🥯🍞🥖🥨🧀🧇🥞🧈🍳🥚🥓🥩🍗🍖🥪🍕🍟🍔🌭🥙🧆🌮🌯🥗🍲🍜🍝🥫🥘🍛🍣🍱🥟🦪🍥🍘🍚🍙🐠🍤🪼🦀🐙🥠🥮🍢🍡🍧🍰🧁🥧🍦🍨🎂🍮🍭🍬🍫🥜🌰🍪🍿🍯🥛☕️🍵🍺🍶🥤🧋🧃🥂🍷🥃🍸🍹🧉🔋

  • Someone rang my doorbell twice and knocked on my door about 10 minutes ago, didn't answer as it's just a bit fucking weird to do that at this time of night and turned my lights off. If it were my next door neighbour or my neighbour from across the street they would've identified themselves in knocking and same with the police I feel. Fuck it's been a weird night. Lol.

  • Of course, when I order a screen protector and case from Ebay to wait for my Casetify case, the Casetify case is probably gonna arrive tomorrow.

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