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  • I just one day said fuck it and gave notice with no plan. I burnt out to the point I was probably getting fired if I stuck around much longer. Besides, If I stayed I was going to quit life instead.

    It was a miserable month or 2 of draning my savings finding a new job and I had to take a small pay cut once I did. It was worth it alone for the better work environment.

    Line something up if you can, but get out before it gets worse for you.

  • I quit jobs on the spot in the past back when I was working minimum wage jobs but the only job that I have ever quit without a backup plan was my first big boy job post college.

    I worked there for 3 years and I kept getting overlooked for promotions even though I was the number one or number two performer every single month.

    It was a contract job and nobody could tell me why I was not getting pay raises or promotions.

    One day it just snapped and I was like all right I'm going to quit and I put in my two weeks notice. I told my wife at the time about it and she asked me what am I going to do for money and I said I don't know, I guess I will work multiple jobs until I land on my feet and so I had this plan to work two or three full-time minimum wage jobs if need be to keep money coming in while my job search was going on.

    Then, a friend of mine told me he had turned down a job offer for a local college and asked me if I wanted to put my hat in the ring and I said yes and I got the job.

    It paid what I should have been making at the job I was at with additional responsibilities commensure it to my skill on top of that I ended up working there for the next 3 years.

  • Toxic jobs drain your life, even when you leave work you're worried about work, worried about getting fired from the toxic job...unless you can scrape together a small amount of money saved. If you're sitting at home spending what little extra you have trying to distract yourself from thinking about work recognize that that cycle will NEVER END. Make it your mission to save every damn penny you can until you have a small amount of savings.

    When you have that money, you'll notice that you're not quite as worried about being fired because you know you'll be able to pay your rent/mortgage next money, you'll have food on the table, and you'll be able to cover the bare minimum of costs to live. The situation has now changed dramatically because you could quit tomorrow if you needed to, and you'll be okay next month.

    Working the toxic job has now stopped being a necessity, and now its a choice you make. You choose to be there. You have the power now. You can choose to quit and be gone if you absolutely need to and you're not going to be homeless. Now you work the toxic job not for them, but for yourself. You use that job, as toxic as it is, to get what you need out of it to raise yourself to the next level of what you need to go elsewhere. You're also not trying to avoid thinking about work because you're not scared of it. You have some mental capacity back and can start asking yourself what you want to do next, what you need to do that, and how to get those things accomplished. Is it more school? A certification of some kind? A tool needed for your trade? Experience? Maybe you can get that experience at your toxic employer. Volunteer for what the work is that would give you the experience. You're going to make mistakes in this new work. Make your mistakes there at the toxic employer. Gain the knowledge you need, then start looking elsewhere all.

    Find your new/better employer, and make your escape.

    • Agree with everything else but maybe not this:

      You can choose to quit and be gone if you absolutely need to and you’re not going to be homeless. Now you work the toxic job not for them, but for yourself. You use that job, as toxic as it is, to get what you need out of it to raise yourself to the next level of what you need to go elsewhere.

      The stress of losing the job is gone from having the money, but the stress of having that job has not gone away. If it is ruining all your free time it's often good to just GTFO as soon as is reasonable.

  • I've never been paid enough to really do anything but feed myself, so I've never had to choose between working a shitty job and being homeless. Yet.

    If I ever got a job that paid me enough to afford rent, I'd definitely be less willing to bail unless it was really shitty.

  • I tried to have something else lined up each time, but tbh the financial hit from quitting a job where I was overworked was not nearly as bad as how I felt after my job each day. If you have some skills, offer to do oddjobs. Offer to detail friend's cars, mow lawns, and pump up the quantity of applications.

  • Yes, I was terrified, but I was also having a mental breakdown. I called my mom sobbing and she was actually the one who told me to quit. I was lucky that she was around because I leaned on her for about two months.

    If you can, look for a job, even if it's gig work, before quitting. I know it sucks, but finding a job will be your new activity. In the mean time, switch to the bare minimum. Take longer breaks, use sick time, etc. Don't burn any bridges. Spend time making a really nice resume/cover letter. Maybe even see if you can use some work resources before you tell them you're out.

    If you can't stand it a second longer, I would sit down and see what you have and how long you can last. Finding a job without a residence (in the US anyway) is difficult, so I would not do anything that would leave you homeless. Let people around you know if you have such people. Tell your friends, parents, etc., so they know that you may be needing support. Do not tell anyone from work until you're ready to go. Make a budget. Make one for if you have literally no money coming in so you can see the worse case scenario and have that be your starting point. You may even want to look around for food banks and so forth, especially churches during this time of year. It may not be everyday, but they do dinners more often in the winter. Write them down or save them somewhere that odes not require internet/service.

    Good luck. I wish you you happiness.

    • Good advice on leaning on food banks. Yes rice and beans suck every meal. Every bowl you eat just think about how temporary this is. You will one day be able to eat aldis toquitos, pizza and chicken nuggies like the good old days.

  • I think this really depends on how you quit. If you do it on an impulse, that's gonna really roll the dice, but if you already have another job lined up and you know the financial hit can be dampened by savings or another way, you might feel a bit safer.

    I just heard that my contract can't be renewed and it runs out in March, so I'll have too look for something. I have enough time and I already took care of everything else so I don't have to panic anymore, but the anxiety will be there until I secured another job I'm happy with, and I just gotta deal with that.

    My current job is not toxic but it does keep me on my toes and one of my bosses I can't get along with; he is always suspicious of me and I can't really deal with that. I just wanna do my job and not appeal to people lol.

    • This might be a blessing in disguise then. Hopefully you find something you like better!

  • I’ve been fired before. It honestly isn’t that bad unless you have absolutely shit financial practices.

  • No, I wasn't. It took me 2 months to switch jobs. With unused vacation money, I got about 1 month's worth of my regular salary. The people who stayed didn't get their salaries for 3 months due to cash flow issues.

  • Living in your car and on couches sucks. But once you hit the wall, nothing matters more then getting the fuck out of there and never going back.

    I save every penny I can in case I have to switch jobs. Or I need a mental health break from this fucked up world i live in. Or i work day by day, month by month, year after year and lose a bit of myself every shift i work until there is nothing left and i lose my shit and quit.

    Honestly I wonder why anyone would spend money they didn't need to unless they had the remainder of your lives living expenses already saved up. You're spending future rent payments, future food! Why would you spend your rent payment 10 months in the future when you could just not go to that concert? Or go on that vacation. Or buy something that isn't essential or more extravagant then necessary.

    That's not even your money you're spending, it's your landed lords monthly tribute. Its the grocery stores money. Its the car repair shops money. Its the gas stations money. Its the power companies money. Its the awful internet service providers money (fuck you centurylink).

    You just don't know it yet. Or maybe deep down you do know it, and you pretend otherwise to delude yourself that you live in a free country. Doesn't seem free to me. In fact it's expensive as hell.

    Rent is due in 4 days by the way.

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