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  • Wondering what to do because decision paralysis.

    Assuming I was in the mood, have all the energy and mental focus I want I'd think about how to fix my home setup.

    Bonus points if I would understand everything perfectly and didnt have a need to learn all intricacies beforehand

  • Just lost my job so I have this time. I want to travel a bit later, but until I can leave, I'm doing nothing at all. Years of fulltime work just killed off all social life, any motivation. Now that I'm finally free, I feel so dead inside that I just want to do absolutely nothing for a while.

    • Been there done that! 10years in company, we got downsized, got thrown away like a trash. Took months to deal with emotions and set myself to do anything. In the end I realized that I was relying on job to be an anchor in my life that everything was revolving around. Losing that anchor forced me to search for a new one, more reliable and something that I can control and that makes me better.
      I started with cleaning my house, then deep cleaning shelves and such, then basement, etc. Got interested in working out, and started doing pushups and such. I learned that I was missing that - creating my own schedule, having goals of my own. It was scary at first, ngl. Trying to do small steps, very small sometimes, that improves your situation bit by bit is what I found helps me with being overwhelmed.

      Wish you all the best, I hope you recover soon and find better job soon :)

  • Heh, I actually get those sometimes. I'm disabled, so the only real barrier to complete freedom is family, and I can sneak in a few days a year where I'm alone all day, and sometimes over night.

    For real, the only thing I'd do that I can't do when everyone is home is crank the fuck out of the music. My wife gets migraines easy, and my kid seems to be following suit unfortunately. So really turning it up until I can feel the bass in my guts is a rare treat.

    But you can only do that for so long before the ears get tired. So the rest of the time would likely be reading without interruptions.

    I'm pretty fucking easy to please lol.

    I sometimes house sit for my best friend, and that's essentially what I do there, just not that loud with the music because the pets don't like it past a certain point.

    Sometimes I'll pop in a movie that isn't to the liking of the family instead of music, and enjoy the more immersive sound. Which, I could also watch things they don't enjoy as much with the sound up, but why not have both factors my way?

    Mind you, I can do those things with everyone home, but it takes planning and I'll still have interruptions. But doing them always has the risk of causing my wife hours or days of pain and misery, so it's something I prefer to just wait for. Kinda makes it more enjoyable tbh.

    • As someone who gets fairly frequent migraines (thankfully not chronic), thank you for being considerate of other migraine sufferers.

    • If I may ask, what kind of music, what would you read, or what movies?

      • Hmm, the movie choices are easier. My kid isn't quite ready for Kubrick's more intense movies like a clockwork orange, so that kind of thing.

        Reading wise, when I'm reading to just chill and enjoy escapism, I gravitate to fantasy and urban fantasy. Right now I'm going back through the Laurell K Hamilton stuff. Kinda trashy for the most part, but there's some nice light reading in there. I'm flipping over to Stephen King when I get tired of the trashy parts of Hamilton's series, which have fantasy, but close enough in some cases. But I'll also reread my favorite Vonnegut and Palahniuk books too, when I'm wanting comfy reading rather than new stuff.

        Music though? Damn. I'd probably start with metal since that's the genre I most enjoy loud. Hit up my playlist with my absolute favorites, then take a break and do some deeper cuts. If/when I came back, it would probably be either bluegrass or old school hip-hop. Again, that's because I like feeling the music as much as hearing it. If I still had time and a break for the ears to relax, over to classical for the same reason; I always start with tocatta and fugue in D minor with that. There's some superb recordings of it that can shake the fillings out of your teeth with a decent subwoofer.

        Gotta take breaks when cranking the volume though. Ear fatigue is a thing, and actual damage is possible too

  • I'd have to try and get myself to stop procrastinating and get my English course work done, while failing and doing pretty much anything else, like finally watching season 4 of Wakfu.

  • Sleep in, a leisurely breakfast, a drive out and maybe a hike to see the leaves changing, some chill time listening to music in my comfy chair, a nap that may turn into canoodling depending on how we're both feeling, toodle around with some hobby projects, out to pub trivia or live music with friends. Same sort of thing I do most weekends, minus any bills or housework.

  • Plot out my vegetable garden to grow my own food next year, declutter the house and drop donated items to charity.

    And sleep.

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