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  • Doing that thing where I just lay in bed hungry because I'm ridiculously comfy and the cat has firmly attached himself.

  • Must. Stop. Shopping.

    I keep buying things for my garden project! I've added a revamp of the front and side garden, added in a few decor items, it's all starting to add up to a bit more than planned. If it works out like I hope it will it should be really nice though.

    • Gardens are a bottomless pit but a good one.

      • They certainly can be. In comparison to what I could have spent I'm not doing too badly, and I should recoup most of the cost in fruit & veg over a couple of years. But I did go down a bit of a rabbithole of garden decor items on Temu.

  • I'm still feeling a bit stung/sour/yuck about yesterday's car shock, and even going over all the things I do and don't have control over haven't completely dislodged those feelings (some deep seated insecurity reviving itself out of nowhere telling me "nobody wants you and you'll never get another decent job once people find out what you're like and you'll be destined to be materially insecure for the rest of your life and you need me to tell you this so that you behave" - BEGONE!!!!)

    You know what has started lifting my mood though? Writing little bits of lovely heartfelt things to people in emails/messages that I don't need to include but do, because they resonate with who I am as a person. Got a recent delivery for some locally made candles, they dropped it off the next day FOC and included some generous freebies and a lovely card. So I wrote them back an email about how much it's lifted my spirits and made my week and hoping their kindness is returned to them manifold.

    And now I feel much much better. Forget rage-hunting on carsales for now, I think I will set myself a few tasks of Being Excellent To Others this weekend.

  • Had some anxiety around money when I left to get new glasses, but came back and didn't have to pay a cent, and I get all the bells and whistles for free. Ultra SV Hard Coating on both lens, and the ultraclear on my regular glasses, so pretty keen about that. Though I found out that my eyesight is pretty shit, left is +2 and right is +2.25. Not blind as a bat, but you know, pretty bad.

    • My daughter's are +4.75 and +4.25. One pair of multi focals with thinned out lenses and one pair of reading glasses $900 later. And the little brat doesn't even wear the multi focals.

  • Completed the tummy exercises even though it's a rest day, and tbh that's all I've done today. Except I seem to have to get up every half hour because kids need food. Especially my daughter.. she eats an incredible amount of food and I'm in admiration of her. I try not to make a big deal about it because girls are too often body shamed and food shamed. My boy has been coming in for hugs every hour or so. He's a very affectionate and quiet child and loves a hug. I'm cherishing these days while they last!

  • Anyone interested in free tickets to a Spanish Love Songs concert at Stay Gold at 1pm today? They're an American band. Probably best known for Self Destruction (as a sensible career choice)

    Got all of two hours of sleep last night and I'd have to leave at 10:30am to get there so I'd be miserable, as much as I was looking forward to it.

    Ask your friends, tickets going to waste if I don't give them away.

    edit: Tickets are gone

    • Saw your comment yesterday, if I didn't have plans today I would've gone but I'm glad you got them snapped up! Here's to a speedy recovery...

  • The line out of the local maccas drive thru tonight was extreme as I was walking past. sort of reminded me of locky lockdown days where it was sometimes 150m+ long spilling on to the main road.

    I'm not judging peoples dinner choices but waiting 20 / 30mins+ for mac mac is just an insult to the kick arse chicken and chips place literally a few doors up which was empty. It's not even a competition their chips are so good (and generous).

    People might say "it's convenient". That line didn't look very convenient.

  • Been sleeping all day. I feel like crap today.

    I hate the fact I spelt most of the day as well. I can’t win.

    Fingers hurt today because i inadvertently stretched my fingers and I guess they’ve swelled up a little thanks to the eczema.

    This really sucks.

    • If you slept for as long as you did, then that's your body telling you that you need more sleep. Sleep-debt is real, and sleep deprivation is a method of torture for a reason.

      Be kind to yourself, no time is wasted when it is spent caring for your meatsack. Let yourself rest, have some food and some water, and try to relax. All will be okay, friend. 💜

      • Yeah I guess. I just wanted to do more today like listen to my podcasts and play some games to unwind.

        Had a stressful morning after being woken up and I’m a little down now, trying not to get too down or stressed.

        I did a number on the big jar of lollies. I need to stop now.

    • I've been running errands non-stop for other people since about 7:30am. I've driven 400km today. I'd've rather spent the day in bed.

  • Also tonight is babies first adult dinner party. I bought the host flowers with a vase because I can't turn up empty handed.

  • Hey Botto what a fantastic shindig you put on tonight. Love your work. Night shifts a cunt init? Anyway have a good night. Stay safe and see ya tomorrow.

  • Last night's spicy chicken roll with extra hot sauce did not take mercy on me this morning. Ooooo.

  • The older you get, the worse the hangovers hit. Was at a networking event last night and my glass was constantly refilled for hours. I had the power to say no but yeah that didn’t happen. Had fun tho. A chill Saturday is on the cards.

    • I had 8 stubbles last night. No hangover today. If I had 8 glasses of wine that shit would fuck me up for days.

      • Wine kills me, but I love it so damn much. Why must the most delicious beverages fuck us up so completely? 😭😭😭

      • Doesn’t take much to do me over. 2 glasses of wine back to back and I’m like lights out.

        Yeah I’m a light weight. Hehe

    • Hangovers have always made me feel really like... sluggish and slow. Not so much sleepy, it just feels like being off my ADHD meds.

  • Finally went and watched Barbie, probably an unpopular opinion but I thought it was just kind of good, not great or brilliant, but just good.

    I think it served it's purpose well though, another Hollywood movie designed in everyway to become perfect media fodder.

    • No I think you've probably arrived at the consensus view. A great soundtrack, set design, good funny moments, and a nice message, but more than a few awkward moments and will not be remembered for good writing.

      • I think what I'll remember it for is the insane marketing and how some dudes were ridiculously upset by it (and countries banning it).

  • up and had first breakfast, now for second sleep 😴 night all, sleep well 😘

  • Pretty decent and full day overall. l chilled with a US mate on discord early in the morning for a bit of a catch up and shit talk. My other US mate bailed on our online makeup session, so I had one attempt at doing a face, fucked up my mascara and eyeliner and got it off. My skin is so much better from never wearing make-up anyway. The mascara stayed on a bit and aggravated my eyes all day. I was going to get nicely dressed and presented for the trans fete Transgender Victoria held today, but it was so generally casual I'd have looked a little out of place anyway in a full face.

    I met a new work colleague there, totally by surprise and that was great. She's just moved here and only speaks Spanish. She's moved here to live safely as a trans woman, just like I did and we share a lot in common with music taste, general positivity toward being trans and feminism. So we spent the day translating to each other, scored some new clothes and it turns out she also is a going to be a volunteer at the same place I am. She made a lot of connections. She ballsed up dinner plans because she confuses days of the week, but we hung out for hours waiting to go to dinner and became friends in the process. It's nice to meet someone who wants new friends because I do too. We'll be working together soon a lot so it was good to get comms happening and I so rarely have visitors it was just nice to have someone in the apartment to drink tea with, play with the cats and talk about clothes. Our boss is really trying to support her as well, so I'm only too happy to do so as well. I haven't felt so calm and secure that I'm on the right path for many years and it's like all my best personal characteristics are being utilised by those who are also really good people.

    The Fete was a success, I did some work but it was great that I now know a bunch of people who are all proactively living their best lives as trans or gender diverse people and actively trying to make a lot of us live better and healthier. There's a whole other paragraph about sober living for trans people and the people I've met in recovery who were there but let's just say everyone is super damn wholesome. I got a lot of positive feedback about my contributions and the staff know they can count on me. I've been giving the option to potentially start helping with their advocacy work as well. It feels like the best activism I've ever lent myself to and I'm so glad to have the time to do it properly without deadlines per se or money constraints to limit the amount of time I can spend on it if I feel it's warranted. It's devoid of the anger I associated with a lot of activism I did in the past, often rightly so of course. It's just a different approach, a bit more intelligent than what I'm used to and aimed at higher levels, less grass roots. I have an inkling that maybe activism in general has matured a lot.

    Its good to make another journal entry and thanks everyone for being positive here about my constant references to my gender transition, it's really important to have these positive stories because almost all we hear in the media is about the few people who hate us and the response to it.

    • What a big day you had. I cleaned my air fryer so I guess your day was a little bit more exciting than mine. Glad you made somebody feel more comfortable in this city. Here's a cuppa ☕ 🍪

      • Thanks for the cuppa. Fun fact, yuccas are the national plant of el salvador and they eat the flowers. There is a huge yucca in st kilda and she was really happy to see it. I was not going to burst her bubble and tell her they are a pain in the butt because stupid landscapers planted them in terrible places, they're a total removed to remove and most people now hate them.

  • Has anyone tried neoguri ramyun? My local Aldi has it on special at 8 bucks for a 5 pack. Same manufacturer as shin ramyun black which I really really like.

    • I've tried one version, can't remember which, but I was underwhelmed. That's a bargain though so can't hurt to give her a burl

      • It claims to be seafood flavour - might try it with added kippers/herring fillets and see what happens next.

    • I saw some, not sure if it’s the brand you mentioned but they said in big words Spciy.

      I’m scared of spicy versions :(

      • Said 'mild' on the pack - sounds worth a try to me. My chili tolerance is still way below par so I prefer to add my own if I want spicy.

  • Where’s the podunk diner food and random mega-fauna gahdamn.

    • Everyone's off having a life, I suppose. It's just a few of us hollering at each other and into the void. Maybe it's a taste of being in a retirement village.

      Anyway, since you asked so nicely, here is a very comfortable cat who has quickly cottoned onto the heated mat. Please suppress any urges to poke the precious paw.

  • God, I'm watching Critical Role, been trying to catch up in c3 (like they released episode 70 on Friday and I'm at episode 34 now) and episode 33 and 34 made me cry so much. Oh my God. If y'all like DND, voice actors and have 11 days continous at regular speed to spare, then I recommend Critical Role. But it'll make you cry so much.

    • So where do I start listening? Campaign 1 , then 2 and 3 and then all the extras?

      • It depends. Campaign 1 is REALLY rough, I think I only got up to episode 11. But C1 is rough because 1) they had a player in the game who isn't there now because of a lot of reasons (health and the way he was interacting with other players in the game and outside the game), and 2) visual and audio quality is bad because it was filmed like almost ten years ago. If you want to know the story of C1 but don't want to watch like 100+ episodes, there is The Legend of Vox Machina, there's currently 2 seasons but it's on Amazon Prime. But it's a pretty honest retelling of the campaign bar that one player and here and there, but the general gist and story beats are largely the same. A lot of people recommend starting C1 at about episode 24 iirc.

        Campaign 2 and 3 are great to start from the start. They're currently on C3. Though towards the end of C2 they were affected by Covid, so usually they're rather close together, whereas for the Covid episodes where they could come back and film, they couldn't sit next to each other and most likely had their own little tables so on the screen it looks disjointed imho. But anyways, while C1, 2 and 3 are all set in the same world and some characters from previous campaigns do show up, you can jump in anywhere. Like if you want to watch C3, go for it.

        If you want to get into the feel of Critical Role but want something a bit shorter, there's Exandria Unlimited, some of the characters from this goes over into C3. It isn't DM'd by Matthew Mercer, however, Aabria Iyengar is still a FANTASTIC DM. She was great. But yeah. I love Critical Role. Love these nerdy arse voice actors.

      • Start with Campaign 2.

  • Do you think someone who is not a hat person can become one? Not just as a personal transformation, but one that their friends can come to know and accept?

    • Yes but it will take time. Becoming a hat person requires some adjustment to hairstyle and make up - hat hair is definitely a thing. Worth it though.

    • I've been wearing hats since I could remember.

      Usually baseball hats, but have beanies, bucket hats and a flat cap for special occasions.

      It's not often I'm outside the house without one.

      They naturally become part of you after a while.

    • I think you have to start out subtle like a cap maybe. An akubra maybe not.

    • Go to a hatter and get a good hat that suits you.

  • Didju know ( said in Michael Caine voice ) that taking aspirin on a regular basis causes iron deficiency? 🤬

    • Long term NSAID use is generally not good for the gut and dietary absorption :( I used to live off nurofen for a while dealing with severe gum pain, a UTI and bad cramps (thankfully not all together. I now realise these were all secondary to significant stress during the first big lockdown). That ended when I got a stomach ulcer that then forced me onto a relatively bland but probiotic diet for a month.

      • My use was for sciatica. Without aspirin I wouldn't have been able to start the day, once moving the exercise relieved any muscle tension and pain. Now I have lost weight and that seems to have helped a lot so I can stop taking it. But damn no doctor told me of this side effect and it's not on any aspirin packet. I'm on the road to better now. :)

        and happy you are better now too 🤗

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