Scroll to the bottom of the sleep page in Health and click show all data. That will give you some confirmation of what app/device is reporting what. For example, time in bed was always using my iPhone as the data source while sleep was reported by the watch. Also, AutoSleep can write different sleep data into Apple Health, and then the priority/order of data sources comes into play if there is conflicting data.

I turned off the time in bed reporting from my phone because it’s not accurate. I also stopped using AutoSleep because it was overwriting data in Health sometimes depending on how I interacted with data in the AutoSleep app.

I also just use sleep schedule instead of manually setting the focus.

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