What are you talking about? It's not that common in the US outside of college dormitories or extremely poor communities. And it's pretty common in other countries for those same situations.
"anything they don't understand is weird and wrong and should be shunned" is how you characterized women, and seems to be something that you take issue with, no? Or do you actually like that they do that (in your opinion)?
Is that not a generalization that you claim women make about you/ "undesirable men" (to use your own vernacular)?
I think if you changed your perspective away from incel and towards charitably I bet you'd have a lot more luck communicating with them.
Yeah we used to grind up mummies into powder to make paint and stuff, it was a color called Mummy Brown