I discovered that I identify as demisexual and I think my friend is in love with me.
I've already accepted that I can have sex no matter who it is with. I think that to have sex I need to have a good bond with that girl or boy in this case before having sex.
It took me a while to realize, they sent me links to articles about different types of labels and I realized that I identify with demisexuality.
I am straight, gay for pay and demisexual.
I told my friend about this and he thought that when I said "I'm demisexual, I discovered I prefer having sex with people I'm in a relationship with" I meant in a romantic way. He said "Are you saying we're boyfriend and girlfriend?" very excitedly. I told him that I didn't mean that, I meant a relationship in general, getting to know the person. And I could tell he felt a little bad.
I feel like he has other feelings for me, he's 2 years younger than me, I was a little afraid of doing things with him for fear that he'd fall in love and I think he fell in love with me.
Thanks, I think the same but sometimes it's confusing
you're right dude
Comments like yours don't help me at all.
wow I didn't know that, it makes some sense.
Thanks dude, I loved your answer!
I don't know how to answer you, maybe you're right, all I know is that I feel safe fucking him and I like fucking him but I wouldn't fuck other guys because I don't like guys, I don't feel anything for other men. and I take it as recreation, something fun with my friend with whom I enjoy it and on top of that I earn money, but here people think that what I do is gay and I know that fucking another guy is a gay act but I don't consider myself gay just to fuck him, because I would never fuck another man. maybe I'm 99% straight and 1% gay, and it's not fear, I truly believe it.
I'm straight and I have gay sex with my housemate for money, does that make me gay?
I already told you how it all started in my previous posts, but now it's different because I started having sex with him, before he only gave me blowjobs and now I started fucking his ass. I have to admit that it's a very nice thing to do, I've never fucked a butt before, I've always fucked pussies.
and I'm a little confused, because it started for money [not counting the jerk off we did in college watching porn] and I feel absolutely nothing for him other than friendship and brotherhood, he doesn't attract me at all but I enjoy fucking him, although it's not as satisfying as doing it with a woman.
and I realized that what I enjoy is having a man on a par dominated and in my power. that makes me horny and I don't know why.
What? I think you lost the thread. 😅🤣
How could I not accuse you of transphobia if you said that if a man had sex with someone of the same sex he was gay... a cis man and a trans woman have the same sex, crumb...
I recommend that you look up the difference between sex and gender, knowing the differences your argument falls.
I inform you that sex is biological and gender is social. You probably meant to say "if a man has sex with someone of the same gender he is gay" which is true, but there are gay couples of a cis man and a trans boy, just like heterosexual couples of a cis boy and a trans woman... your argument which only consists of "if you have sex with someone with whom you share genitals, it makes you gay" your theory falls apart.
You can be a gay boy and fuck a pussy and it doesn't mean that you are straight.
I don't understand how you don't understand it.
Now I get it, you're not a guy, you can't say things about us if you're not one of us, it's just something you think and believe, but I'm telling you now that the stereotype you have in your mind is completely false, I literally don't know a single straight guy [my entire group of friends who are straight] who refuses a blowjob, no matter where he comes from, he'll always accept if he's horny. And let me tell you that what you're saying is extremely transphobic, a straight guy dating a trans girl is not gay sex... it's straight sex, in your concept of homosexuality you confuse sex and gender.
Being gay is that you like men, that you find them attractive, that you fall in love with them hahaha For you being gay is just having sex? Dude that is very superficial and reductionist.
That is why there are heterosexuals who are afraid to try it for fear of being called gay just for trying it once.
maybe i'll see the movie
I don't think that having gay sex makes me gay, being gay is that you like men, that you feel attracted to a man, it's something that doesn't happen to me. I don't have fragile masculinity and I'm capable of enjoying a blowjob, it's just that, a blowjob, it has no depth, for me it's just a game, a hobby, a way to pass the time and work, because it's my job too.
That letting a man suck your dick is a gay act, yes, I agree, I do gay things, but it doesn't make you gay.
And no, I didn't see Brokeback Mountain
I must clarify that the content that we usually sell is mostly just handjobs and the occasional blowjob that he gives me every so often, which in total would be about 10 times, not many, but they were intense because I decided to enjoy it and have a good time, he always swallowed my load, I clarify this so that you don't think that I receive a blowjob from him every day, I think that I couldn't stand that, this is why it seems like a big step to me to fuck his ass.
I hadn't heard of Intercural sex either, my friend knows a lot of stuff lol. I'm 25 years, you? Are you gay or do you just have sex with men because it's easier? By the way, I've never fucked asses, I've always fucked pussy, and I'd be sorry if I said I wasn't a little intrigued. And thanks for the compliment on my post.
Yes, if you tell a man he's going to get a blowjob from a woman and then it's a man, that is rape, but if you just tell him he's going to get a blowjob and don't specify, I don't think it's rape. Do you think if a 100% heterosexual man took off the blindfold when he was close to climax and saw that it was a man, would he get up and leave? Or would he keep going until he came? I think absolutely no man would leave.
thanks for reading and responding. yesterday we talked and had a long talk and he told me that even if i fuck him his feelings of friendship for me are not going to change to something romantic "it doesn't work like that" he told me, because if that were the case he would have already fallen in love with me from all the times i suck my cock or with all the guys he had casual sex with. he has a point. but anyway i explained to him that i still think it's something more intimate and more personal, he understood it and suggested we do intercrural sex, put my cock in the other's crotch and fuck the thighs, there's no penetration but it's the same movements. today we're going to do it when he gets home from work.
I understand what you say and I partly agree, but I would never do this with any other man, I do it with my friend who I have known for 5 years and only in the last 2 years we have started doing these things. And yes of course I feel enjoyment and pleasure, to any man, even the one who is 100% heterosexual, you blindfold him and tell him that he is going to receive a blowjob and he enjoys it even if he later finds out that the one who sucked his cock is a man and contrary to what you claim, enjoying it is not going to make him lower his percentage of heterosexuality, I think that measuring sexuality with % is ridiculous.
friends with benefits? we only do it 1 or 2 times a week to record videos, it's not something we do in private without recording when we're horny to satisfy our needs, i must say that when we do it, we both give our best in the act and we both enjoy it, we talk about it and our rule is that if we're going to do it we both have to have a good time. but the idea of fucking his ass seems too much to me, i've never fucked an ass, it was always pussies and that seems something more intimate to me. i was talking to him and i brought all this up, he told me that he enjoys everything he does to me as if it were casual sex and that that didn't change his feelings towards me and anal sex shouldn't change them. i realized that we have a similar persoective, i enjoy him jerking me off and sucking my cock and the fact that i like him didn't change my feelings of friendship for him. He told me that he understands me because I'm straight and he proposed the idea of having intercrural sex first and then if I feel comfortable doing it through the ass. What do you think?
Sex in Bromance
I wanted to share a personal experience I've had with my roommate and close friend, to see if anyone else has been through something similar or has advice on how to handle this situation.
It all started in 2023, when I entered college. My friend (let's call him "Alex") and I became roommates from freshman year. Alex is bisexual, although I didn't know that at the time. We got along really well from the start, and living together was pretty normal. Back then, I had a girlfriend, and Alex always gave us space when we needed privacy in the room.
My girlfriend and I broke up. After that, the dynamic between Alex and I changed. We spent a lot of time together in the room, and over time we became more comfortable with our intimacy. There were a couple of times when we caught each other masturbating, but instead of it being awkward, we talked about it and normalized it. By the end of 2023, we were already so comfortable that we could stand in our underwear in front of each other and even change clothes without any problems.
In 2024, things took a more intense turn. One night, after a tiring day of studying, we decided to smoke weed. It was my first time doing it, although Alex was already experienced. We were watching an episode of Game of Thrones when suddenly, we ended up watching porn together. We started masturbating at the same time, and at one point, Alex touched me and I touched him. He ended up masturbating me until I came. The next day, we talked about it and we both agreed that it wasn't awkward, although it was a little weird.
After that, we started watching porn together more often, but without touching each other. However, our senior year of college, we decided to become roommates again. During that year, the dynamic intensified. We started masturbating each other from time to time, and while it was sporadic at first, it eventually became more frequent.
After graduating, we decided to continue living together to save on rent. That year, Alex confessed to me that he was bisexual, although he clarified that he was not attracted to me. At the time, I felt a little rejected, I don't know why, but we talked about it and got over it.
We decided to do adult content together again, but this time more explicit. We recorded videos of each other masturbating, and on one occasion, Alex gave me a blowjob. While I enjoyed the experience, I still don't consider myself gay or bisexual. I don't feel romantic or sexual attraction towards men in general, or Alex in particular. He's also made it clear that he's not attracted to me, and we've both set clear boundaries in our relationship.
Now, in 2025, we still live together and occasionally make content together, but always respecting our boundaries. However, Alex recently made me a proposition that has me thinking. He told me that we could do anal penetration content, and that he'd be willing to have me fuck him. For me, that's already a boundary I'm not sure I want to cross. While I enjoy the dynamic we have, I feel like this could change things between us.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How do you guys handle the line between friendship and physical intimacy? Do you think crossing this boundary could affect our friendship in the long run? I appreciate any advice or insight. Thanks for reading.
Bromance Unfiltered: Navigating Friendship, Intimacy, and Boundaries?
Hi, community. I wanted to share a personal experience I've had with my roommate and close friend, to see if anyone else has been through something similar or has advice on how to handle this situation.
It all started in 2023, when I entered college. My friend (let's call him "Alex") and I became roommates from freshman year. Alex is bisexual, although I didn't know that at the time. We got along really well from the start, and living together was pretty normal. Back then, I had a girlfriend, and Alex always gave us space when we needed privacy in the room.
My girlfriend and I broke up. After that, the dynamic between Alex and I changed. We spent a lot of time together in the room, and over time we became more comfortable with our intimacy. There were a couple of times when we caught each other masturbating, but instead of it being awkward, we talked about it and normalized it. By the end of 2023, we were already so comfortable that we could stand in our underwear in front of each other and even change clothes without any problems.
In 2024, things took a more intense turn. One night, after a tiring day of studying, we decided to smoke weed. It was my first time doing it, although Alex was already experienced. We were watching an episode of Game of Thrones when suddenly, we ended up watching porn together. We started masturbating at the same time, and at one point, Alex touched me and I touched him. He ended up masturbating me until I came. The next day, we talked about it and we both agreed that it wasn't awkward, although it was a little weird.
After that, we started watching porn together more often, but without touching each other. However, our senior year of college, we decided to become roommates again. During that year, the dynamic intensified. We started masturbating each other from time to time, and while it was sporadic at first, it eventually became more frequent.
After graduating, we decided to continue living together to save on rent. That year, Alex confessed to me that he was bisexual, although he clarified that he was not attracted to me. At the time, I felt a little rejected, I don't know why, but we talked about it and got over it.
We decided to do adult content together again, but this time more explicit. We recorded videos of each other masturbating, and on one occasion, Alex gave me a blowjob. While I enjoyed the experience, I still don't consider myself gay or bisexual. I don't feel romantic or sexual attraction towards men in general, or Alex in particular. He's also made it clear that he's not attracted to me, and we've both set clear boundaries in our relationship.
Now, in 2025, we still live together and occasionally make content together, but always respecting our boundaries. However, Alex recently made me a proposition that has me thinking. He told me that we could do anal penetration content, and that he'd be willing to have me fuck him. For me, that's already a boundary I'm not sure I want to cross. While I enjoy the dynamic we have, I feel like this could change things between us.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How do you guys handle the line between friendship and physical intimacy? Do you think crossing this boundary could affect our friendship in the long run? I appreciate any advice or insight. Thanks for reading.