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  • Taking advantage of people in weaker positions of power, from being rude to a waiter to abusing a disabled person. They all make me dislike the person immediately and will likely cut them out of my life as soon as possible.

  • If they treat others bad. Such as waitresses, their friends & family, co-workers etc.

    Instantly no respect, zero tolerance.

  • There's the obvious "if you're a homophobe, transphobe, racist, abelist" etc etc etc. Like obviously that makes me lose respect for people.

    But I think if you judge someone for doing something that you deem "weird". I used to so that until I learned that like, hey we're all fucking weird. Who cares.

  • If they are, in a completely literal sense, impossible to predict.

    I have reached a point of no return (no return of respect) with a high ranking person recently who started out as friends with me. I had a lot of controversy surrounding me, but she promised she knew none of the hearsay was true. Then she cut me out, and it took me a moment to learn why. Then some months later she reached a point where she restarted her feelings for people and eliminated her grudges. We were friends for a while, and all seemed fine, but then same exact thing happened, she promised nothing was going to happen before she cut me out again. Again, it took me a while to learn why. I would leave that general area, but we would find each other elsewhere one day, and she seemed fine with me. All seemed well. Then I went to ask her a question and discovered she cut me out again. At this point, another friend of mine got involved, not giving her a good time (I tried stopping him, but every time I did, it would still be deemed my fault that was happening), and then she declared a truce and asked if I would accept. I consented on the condition everyone knew about the truce and that it wasn't just a privately negotiated thing. She accepted, and I have proof of the truce, and to celebrate the truce, I was introduced to her inner circle. However, I was removed from her inner circle twice, once quickly the first time and once after asking to come back in a few months later, with another few months where I wasn't removed. She then came to me and said "sorry, I removed you because I have people in my group who don't like you, no hard feelings" and I was basically like "alright, I understand". Half a month later I went to ask another question only to learn I was ghosted again. And this, combined with another person coming to me saying they bore proof she was talking about me behind my back (the prime condition of the "truce" was to not do that), I had had it. I ended the truce and lost any respect for them, and I'm not afraid to show it.

    I've actually had many, many, many encounters similar to this, and so have some people I know; once in a while people who become on good terms with me again cite things like "mental illness" and "shutting [person's self] down trying to cope from being overwhelmed". I don't care if you have a delusion disorder, if you're going to see other human beings as so insignificant in your seemingly solipsist mind as to think people with different ways of perceiving a situation can understand a part of your experience they don't necessarily have any reason to think exists, that is simply reckless and you're just a jerk. Many of these people also often say "well if you would just read the room you would know what the reasoning is" but unspoken words spell out differently for everyone because it's like looking at a mirage in the distance. The "writing on the wall" is a myth, in the end it refers to jibberish because at least language is communicated.

  • a lack of awareness of current events in the world around them

    • I know exactly what you mean, but more and more lately, considering all news is bad to terrible, I've been considering distancing myself from it.

      Part of me very much wants to stay up to date on the world, global and local politics, economy, society, science, etc etc, but honestly at this point I'm not sure why I should bother.

      Take political parties for example. I already know everything I need to know about Labour and the Tories. I know I'll never vote Tory, but more and more I look at Labour and realise they're just the Tories with slightly softer edges. The same rich tossers from the same rich world with the same dark dodgy connections and secrets.

      And more and more, I think about what it takes for a political party or individual to rise up to the point of being in the running for votes, and realise that they're only allowed to reach that point if the rich ruling class decide they're suitable - (it's not some shadowy secret society, it's just that individuals will create friction and problems for those they know won't be pliable and useful to their cause, and over time they get weeded out, leaving just the ones that serve the rich).

      So, I've come to the conclusion that all the major parties that have any chance at real power are actually all the same once you strip away their outer policies (most of which they'll discard once elected, anyway).

      So, following politics doesn't seem to be useful any more to make an informed decision on who to vote for, you know? They're all essentially the same, and the radical outliers that could potentially bring about a better world are so, so far outside of the running, voting for them would be a wasted vote (not to say I don't, anyway).

      As for the other news, it's all just bad and worse. Living standards declining, workers and civil rights crumbling, cost of living crisis ever worsening, proletariat being crushed, the rich getting richer, more nations turning right-wing aka fascist, climate change ravaging the world, late stage capitalism destroying our lives piece by piece, inflation and prices up with wages down as always, etc etc etc....

      I still stay informed, but there will come a point that I just have to admit it's only making me depressed and miserable.

      Even the supposed good news is couched in caveats and issues..... New vaccine for an illness? Great! So many antivaxers will fight it that it won't be very effective. A new cancer treatment? Great! The waiting times and crumbling health service (intentionally destroyed by the government to force healthcare to rely on rich healthcare companies instead of public healthcare) will make it difficult for the new treatment to make much difference. A society wide realisation that working from home and 4 day weeks lead to happier, healthier employees and increased productivity? Great! Except that healthy employees with breathing room will start to question why they have so few rights, and why their lives are forced to revolve around their employers, and we can't have that.

      Etc etc. Almost all good news had a sinister flip side that renders any benefits moot.

      Reading the news and staying informed is a noble goal, and one I've stuck to, but all it's done is made me miserable and no longer trust the government, the police, employers, heck I don't even trust supposedly highly trustworthy media outlets any more. Nowadays I see the extreme yet careful bias the BBC employ at the behest of the government and the rich, as every media outlet does, to try to control what we believe.

      Take for example the unprecedented strikes of the past few years. Every single time the BBC report on say, a postal or rail or bus strike etc, it's never framed as the workers taking this desperate last resort nuclear option to resolve the issue that they really wish they didn't have to take, but their employers are being evil so they have to, etc. No. They always frame it as something like:

      "Rail workers on strike again. Here's how their actions will inconvenience you, gosh they're so inconsiderate and greedy!"

      They'll say it with a softer, more clever touch, and "for balance" have a paragraph or two very briefly mentioning things from the striking workers side of things, without really going into much detail, and that's it.

      So.... Yeah :-( I agree with you, really I do. But... if you meet a person that chooses to no longer stay informed on events, don't immediately lose respect for them or think less of them. They may be choosing to stay uninformed with reasons that matter to them, like their own mental health ❤️

    • Why? I know who I'm gonna vote for and don't need to watch doom news 24x7.

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