I get it

This is why my manager made printed sheets of the tasks we have to do at the end of the day. There's an intense transition at the end of my work day (I work with kids, and after they go home, we have to shift gears to do paperwork before we can leave.) When I started, I had trouble remembering and keeping track of all the different things we have to do at that point. So I asked my manager to write them down. She did one better. She made a list, printed several copies, and passed them out to all the new hires.

Those tasks have become part of my routine, so I don't need the list anymore. But I keep it in my locker so I can double-check when I go to leave but have the feeling of, "Did I forget to do something?"

I relate so hard to this🫣

Oh, that is part of the ADHD package as well? Nice to have an explanation to some of my experiences now.

What I've noticed since I started medication is that IF I do actually sit down to do the thing now I'm more capable of actually doing it. However, actually sitting down to do it is still just as difficult. Which kind of makes being medicated just mean I'm really good at doing the things I'm not supposed to be doing.

That hurts, why are you doing this to me? :(

Unless, of course, the responsibility is something you are avoiding. Then even the smallest task is suddenly super interesting and important. Just as long as you don't have to work on the big important thing that's causing you stress.

Frequently I can't remember whether I forgot or overthought something.

or if there was too much going on

Or?

Definitely get a dishwasher. They also tend to use way less water than hand-washing.

Wiresless headphones. Blasting some music really helps me override the invisible walls around doing mundane tasks.

That's also me and why I dropped out of some higher school. Or why I never want to go to uni even though I'm most probably eligible. Or why I don't do my household chores. Or why I'm always late a few minutes. Or why it's always "one more beer/episode/game/cigarette" before going to bed. There's just so much that's marginally more interesting than the things that matter! I'm also not diagnosed and never really felt ADHD but most of my circle is diagnosed and they tell me us hanging out is a huge indicator.

I've been told it does.

I've got reasonable coping mechanisms, including choosing a profession that works well with my ADHD even unmedicated, so I cannot know for sure. But, even a doctor who has ADHD has told me that one of the most important things an ADHD medicine does is to help with precisely this

It worked for me, but I hated the way it made me feel so I don't take it.

It's very dependent on the specific medication and the person. I know people who get it and their brain magically let's them do stuff, but not for everyone.

For me it definitely helps, I can do way more in a day, but stressful tasks I usually put off are still stressful and I still put them off. It makes it easier most days to motivate myself to do them, coping mechanisms are still a requirement though.

Defs recommend if you're able to get it. While it's not always the immediate fix it's often made out to be, it makes a big difference.

It is supposed to, yes

I'm taking the slow release methylphenidate, the barrier to actually start a task gets lower and I don't feel as drained after a day of work. Downside is it makes me somewhat more irritable, but ymmv.

This is actually a plot point in Rick Riordans work. If you're not familiar he writes YA novels about kids who are secretly demigod fighting monsters in a modern day setting and the specially mention that one of the telltale signs of demigods is ADHD for almost exactly the reasons you describe