Relatable

I hate these lists. Almost all of these are completely normal. Stop trying to diagnose yourselves. There are more people who do most of things on this list than people who do none. Does that mean most people have ADHD?

Edited: removed the swearing. There was no need for it. I still stand behind the sentiment.

Well, mental disorders are spectrums. It's not either you're completely sane or you're the mayor of cuckoo town. It goes in shades.

If you identify with five or so items on that list of 21, that's fine. You're still in the "nornal" zone. If you identify with 16, like I do, that's ADHD. And I do have an official diagnosis from an actual psychiatrist, thank you very much.
- Ah but 15 out of 21 is also normal right?
  
  Like 0-15 normal
  16 - 21 ADHD
  ?
- I think Identifying with number 16 would put you in the eating disorders category though.
  
  I'll show myself out now...
Up until recently i thought of myself as a neurotypical person who just happened to find ADHD content relatable. How dare I, a run-of-the-mill idiot and fuck-up, appropriate a real mental disorder in an attempt to explain away all my flaws?

Well anyway it turns out I have ADHD. So yeah, everyone may relate to these things every once in a while. But if you're reading this and you find A LOT of these things relatable, and they happen often, and you can think of lots of examples of times they have caused you major problems, and you feel a lot of shame and guilt and anxiety about the whole thing, I would encourage you to get checked out.
Ah, the old Everyone does this argument.

Yes, but to what extent? How severe is it? That's the important part that neither you nor this list touch on.
- When you have 17 planners with 8 pages written in and constant sense of panic over a workload that is never done it's def beyond the "lol I can't pay attention sometimes too" crowd. Some people just don't know what it's actually like to be neurospicy.
I mean. A lot of people have ADHD. Most of them don’t know or are in denial. So.. yeah that list makes sense.
All of this is completely normal, yes. However, frequency and intensity are typically the separating factors between neurotypicals and those diagnosed with ADHD.
So it looks like we need to bring over the "no gatekeeping" rule from reddit huh?
Here's a question: What if, say, you've already been diagnosed, and you enjoy relating to other people who have the same issues as you? Just a thought.
Yeah, whenever I see ADHD memes I immediately go: Fuck, that happens to me all the time.

Like exactly half the list is applicable to me.

Then I do some more research into symptoms and when it comes to the main ones I go: Nah, I don't have that problem at all (like being tardy).

This is like asking health questions on the internet, the answer will always be cancer.
- You don't have to be chronically late to be diagnosed with ADHD. I am never later for anything, but that's due to some good coping mechanisms I learned over the years (that basically amount to "do nothing before the event and leave an hour early")
  
  It's possible to have ADHD and good coping mechanisms that mean you don't meet every single hyperspecific criteria on a list like this. Hell, you might even cope so well that you didn't get bad grades in school. The diagnostic criteria looks for focus deficiency, executive dysfunction, impulsivity, restlessness, poor working memory. There are standardized tests for this.
- You said it 1/2 the list applies to you. Okay. For me 100% of the list applies. And each point have been a specific trait of my life.
- Yeah I did the same, then I looked into the DSM V and read the symptoms and went... uh... yep! More attention deficit than hyperactivity for me but yeah, it started with memes
- The reason places like WebMD tell you that you might have cancer is so you go see a real doctor. It's not because it thinks you probably have cancer, but because you shouldn't rely on WebMD if there's even a small chance you might.
  
  So if lists like these create false positives, I'm okay with it. It means some people with ADHD will finally get help and live their best lives. It means people with some signs of ADHD, but not enough for a full diagnosis, might still find value in the techniques people with ADHD use to deal with those symptoms. And even in the case of people with no issue whatsoever, it's just good to take your mental health seriously.
  
  And hey, even if none of that mattered, there's still a huge stigma around mental health and neurodiversity. If it helps people understand what ADHD people are going through ("It's like this common experience, but to a high level on a frequent basis"), that's good too.
Agreed

Welp, if all of that is ADHD, what's there left? 🙁

Your specific hobbies. You might jump between them, but they're different for you than anyone else.

A lot of these are issues you gotta work with to live well. The solutions to these issues, whatever combo that lets you live your life, that's unique to you.

I dunno that's all I got. It doesn't feel like enough, personally, but it is better than nothing.
Self is an illusion. We're all just a product of our brain chemistry and experience. Don't sweat it.
- No. If you think you're "just a product of (y)our brain chemistry", you're selling yourself short. There's a "you" in that meat-sac, so keep throwing levers and pushing buttons. You fly the ship. 🤌🏼
The ways we cope and overcome, and the ways we don't.

God damn like 85% of this is me. Still ain't gonna check and see if i really got it though 🤣

This is the way.
I'm in this comment and I don't like it

I finally went in for an adult diagnosis yesterday and this is pretty much the entire checklist they went through.

I go in 2 months and cannot wait. I feel like my mind is in a fog and it’s only getting worse as I get older.
- Same (re: mind ~~dog~~ fog), unfortunately for me treatment hasn't helped. But I've also discovered CFS (chronic fatigue syndrome) as another route to investigate.
- Still waiting on mine but I am 94% certain I have it

Most people have most of these.. lol

I have neeeeews: no

Mindwandering while conversation/ sex was always annoying to me. I never understood why i am doing this and how to turn it off, cause "everyone else seems to get it right" and they made me feel bad for it.

It is importaint to talk about these stuff and reach out to people, who feel the same way.

I'm in this post and I don't like it.

I have all of these (except the erectile dysfunction)and I'd wager 80% of the pop also does. there is no way all of us can have ADHD

It says executive dysfunction. Or am I being wooshed..
A fair few of them can be caused by other things too, or are just one of the "normal traits" ADHD exaggerates. 9, 12, 13, 15 could be caused by stress/burnout, for example.

If you unironically use "time blindness" as an excuse for always being late, you are a complete moron.

It's a terrible excuse. I'm almost always on time cause I use my calendar instead of my brain to manage time. The "time blindness" just makes me feel anxious about being late despite being 5 mins away and having 30 mins to spare.
Why? Not that i use that as an excuse. But why would that make you a moron?
- Because being horrible with time is a predictable thing. As a human being, we have the ability to plan and act in ways that compensate for predictable weaknesses.
  
  If you notice you're always late, but you never try to leave earlier, you're either a moron or an asshole.
The reason i came late for a long time was distraction by social media. If someone here can't pull themselves away from social media, i suggest to use focusing apps. Samsung for example includes a modes and routines option within the settings and you can set work mode up to block access to distracting apps during work... or your routine.

Another recommendation is to uninstall distracting social media apps or replace them with federated apps (although the latter may be less effective).

I share quite a few of these almost all of them

100% for me.
- I'm not doing lists and the sex thing all others fit tho

Replace ADHD with neurodivergent and/or chronic illness. (for many of these at least)

Neurodivergent isn't a diagnosis
- Correct.
  
  I'm not sure of your point, but mine is that these things are more general than they seem. For example I could say trouble connecting with people or being a shut-in is a SzPD (Schizoid Personality Disorder) thing... while they are, it could be equally true for people with autism for different (or not by much) reasons.
  
  Sap someone's energy/mood and a lot of relatable problems will pop up, it doesn't matter if it's physical or mental or an indirect symptom of something else.

Interesting. I figured I may have it but I'm barely half this list, loosely. I guess I'm just a lazy shit at work sometimes

ADHD comes in many flavours, that's all I'm gonna say
- It only cums in bad taste for me
- I will take cookies and cream

ATTENTION: 4 can be because of autism and there's an insanely high number of comorbidities between ADHD and autism

Edit: nah, half of them are also traits of autism lmao

Wow that’s accurate.

A frightening amount of these trigger me somewhat, but not really enough to care I guess?

I read 11 as erectile dysfunction and was like whaaaat

ADHD = a droopy hanging dick?
- or Abnormal Dysfunction of Hardness and Duration?

Haha I'm so quirky and don't have to take any personal responsibility for my actions or self regulation because it's all my ∆_π§adhd§π∆

Most of the time, these things are not quirky, not positive and some people experience real hardships in their lives because of ADHD.

It is great that you can take responsibilty for your actions and self-regulate, but some people just can not do it. It just does not work.

This is really hard to understand for people who can just "do the things", but you don't have to make fun of people who just can not do it because their brains do not work this way.

Also, you can just be nice, don't comment and just continue scrolling. You don't have to be mean on the internet and if you really want to say something stupid, maybe think about it for a short moment, realize that you gain absolutly nothing by doing it and, instead spend your time with more positive things.
I mean like isnt getting diagnosed taking responsibility and correcting the issue?

Unless you want us all to "man up" and have depression, wtf do you mean by this?
- That this post is cringe for simplifying a nuanced disability like they have a x_nyan_x blog somewhere. It's literally the omg so relatable template of "Look at me using a disability as a poster for my personality! Give me attention x3"
  
  More power to you if you have ADHD and understand the context that your disabilities don't make you, you've always been. You're just aware that you can be contextualized, but it doesn't give you an excuse to act on it more.
  
  I have BP II, doesn't mean I'm going to go around advertising it like it's all I am or makes me.