Every day rule

There are for sure bright spots, and Zooey Zephyr’s work is definitely one of them!

I do try to not drown in all the bad news, I’m just particularly upset about the closure of the trans clinic at the Los Angeles Children’s Hospital recently. So many kids depended on it, and we’re not even in a red state! The people who are supposed to step up are just immediately buckling when a stiff breeze blows.

We will get through this, because it’s not actually possible to stop trans people from existing. But not all of us will get through it. Decades ago I was a trans kid with zero support who tried to kill myself, and I’m basically only here by stupid luck. It’s gut wrenching that even the ‘safe’ areas are fine throwing kids into dealing with that rather than put up any resistance to MAGA.

And yeah, the irony of typing up such a dark comment immediately after saying I do try to focus on the bright spots isn’t lost on me, lol.

They claim trans issues are “not important enough” for the average person to care yet these stupid laws keep getting passed.

Very true :c

Not to project too much onto your friends, but based around my own experiences of being a trans teen/young adult at the time it would not surprise me at all if the ‘fucking crazy’ was PTSD.

Not ragging on you for framing it like that or anything even if it was from PTSD; I have PTSD and can be fucking crazy sometimes too, lol. Growing up in the 80s and 90s while trans messed with a lot of heads, mine included.

Aside from the PTSD someone else mentioned, the number one predictor of the development of a cluster b personality disorder is a childhood with a "consistently inconsistent pattern of invalidation."

In layman's terms, for most of this persons childhood there were both times where the child was validated and accepted, but at other times they were rejected / told that their lived experience was unimportant / fake. And that intermittent pattern kept occurring over most of their childhood. And that's pretty much an exact description of a lot of trans kid's childhoods.

There's also a common argument that the invalidation is actually just a form of trauma, but personally I ascribe to the furthering of that train of thought that BPD is just a specific and particularly complicated form of PTSD.

In the end through you can't deny that it often results in some people that take a lot more emotional energy to interact with than your average person, and that society often makes it really hard to budget our energy in ways that allow us to give it to them.

I don't have a solution to that problem, at least not one I can explain in more than the next few paragraphs. I just hope pointing out that that's what the problem is helps people reframe their frustrations in a way that's more constructive.

I have tried working on !DIYMentalHealth@lemmy.dbzer0.com if anyone is interested in specific mental health tips, but I'm still in the process of... building the community I guess? I'm not much of a fighter so most of my contribution to a better tomorrow will probably be in helping the people who are good at that kind of thing stay healthier themselves.

'Traipsing aroubd'

Do you mean walking? Walking around?