2y ago

I am surrendering a 13 year old dog soon. I feel his QoL is not so great. I would Like advice on how to help my other dog cope.

My 13 yr old mixed cocker spaniel is not doing so well. I feel like he is not living his best life. He has developed several issues in the past couple years that impact his QoL. I'm worried how to deal with his buddy an 11-12 year old mixed shih tzu. I do not want him to get depressed nor do I want to get a new dog just to replace him. I'm open for suggestions. Thank you. I also told my older sister to not get me a new dog as she has a habit of doing so lol.

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I feel like surrendering is the worst possible option here. Old dogs do not find homes very often. Trust me. I know that world. It will leave everything it knows for a loud, and extremely stressful place.
Call me an asshole or whatever, but you are dooming him. I implore you to reconsider.
- In this case would you recommend I euthanize him? I know I'm being selfish but I'm having trouble letting him go. I broke down the the day I made the appointment. The CA pet care site does not provide much info on putting down pets. I would rather he live with someone else.
  
  Unless you personally arrange him a new home, he isn't going to find one. Old dogs are hard to adopt out, so you'll most likely end up putting him in a stressful shelter while he waits to be euthanized. If you absolutely cannot care for him, do him a favor and just euthanize him. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but you need to hear it
  
  Like the other poster said, yes. The average life span for your dog is 12-15 years. I had to confront this with late fur baby. She was 12 and suffering. I couldn’t let her go but I knew I had to. I had just lost my dad a few months before.
  I know it’s so hard. But don’t leave him. Please.

Please don't surrender your sick, elderly dog to a shelter. His quality of life will decrease there. The likelihood of him being adopted is extremely slim; what you will do is subject him to a confusing, stressful situation before he's euthanized. Assuming you've had him since he was a puppy, 13 years is a long time to have a stable home, only to suddenly be abandoned. Your shih tzu (and you) will likely cope better if an at-home euthanasia is performed for your cocker spaniel.

I'm sorry to hear about this. The best advice I can give from. My experience is to have them together when he is put down, have someone come and do it in home. It gives a chance to say goodbye to the other pet and to find some closure.
- I would recommend this as well if you have the option. With my previous dog, the regular vet recommended another vet who was semi-retired to only doing final house calls. She was really nice and empathic and made it all easier to get through.
  Whether getting a new puppy is a good idea or not very much depends on what your shih tzu is like - would he be able to keep up with a new puppy and enjoy it or is peace and quiet more his thing?
- Agree here. Perhaps it is time to make that decision.

To clarify, are you putting down the cocker spaniel or you're giving it away?
- From other posts, I gather"surrender" means "give up for adoption". Which imo is the worst choice possible, sick animals never fare well in those situations
- I'm going to surrender him. I feel like like I cannot provide him with a good enough life anymore. Considering the circumstance I assume he will be put down. The best outcome is that he will live a long and happy life with someone else. I just want tips on how to help my remaining dog with his absence.
  
  Giving up your dog because they elderly is such a shitty thing to do. You're going to abandon them and put them into an unfamiliar environment when they are on the decline? It's even worse that you are assuming they'll be put down anways. Take some fucking responsibility.
  If you can't handle the full responsibility of a pet you shouldn't have any imo. That includes making hard choices later in their life. Maybe you should surrender your other dog too since that seems to be what's in their future anways.

Surrendering a sick and elderly dog is a pretty shitty thing to do ngl

First, what do you mean by surrender? Are you surrendering him, to a shelter, and hoping he will get adopted by a nice family with a farm? If so, it won't happen. Absolutely do NOT do this. He will go directly to euthanasia. Old dogs especially are not going to be kept to be adopted out. There are too many young, cute puppies that need homes, and the cost of keeping an older dog around is too much. If it's a no kill shelter, his QOL will not be better in a kennel until he dies.
If you mean you are taking him to be euthanized, then take your other dog with. Both of you stay in the room when it's done, and let him see his friends dead body. Animals know, and it will be much easier for him to know what happened to his friend, rather than think he just left him. There will be an adjustment period, and you'll have to pay extra attention to the one you still have.
Also, as someone else said, if you are euthanizing, see if there are mobile vets in your area, who come to your home. It was honestly the best decision when we had to put my 19 year old cat down. She was comfy at home, and not panicked and in a clinical setting with all kinds of weird smells, people, noises, and all the other scary things. They handled everything, including her cremation, and notifying my regular vet for me.

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