How many times did you and your partner break up before you figured things out? and are you happy now?

Zero times. I feel like breaking up and getting back together isn't a healthy way of dealing with relationship problems so when I've broken up with someone it's been final.
- I feel like breaking up and getting back together isn't a healthy way of dealing with relationship problems so when I've broken up with someone it's been final.
  My spouse and I have been together for almost 30 years and counting. If we never broke up we've had our fair share of 'issues'. None of us being perfect, imho, all what matters is our shared willingness to make things work.
- My ex and I broke up before getting back together, we were not back together for very long.
  My wife and I talked about breaking up a few times, but after talking it through we decided it wasn't what either of us wanted and we resolved to address the issue that got us there.

My partner suffered a lot of abuse in previous relationships and my own flaws (some perceived, some very real) triggered her. She "psuedo" broke up with me about three times. We got couples therapy and did a lot of work. It was hard but a few years later we're now happily engaged.

None. If I broke up with someone it was because I didn't want to continue a relationship with them.

Zero. I have never gotten back together with anyone I've broken up with. LTR? Had one 25 year run, one split. Now in a relationship that has so far lasted 12 years I think? Yes we are happy.

Zero, I tried getting back with my ex because of the kid and we're highscool sweet hearts. Not sure how I should put this... Just move on, I won't waste your time with my story. I learned a very hard lesson I thought I learned from my first serious ex, but this one put black magic fuckery in the mix.
Work on you, do it for however long you need. This is what I'm doing. Getting back into music, art, some video games, animie, walks, trying to work out and eating healthy.

Once. My now husband broke up with me 2 years into our relationship during a mental breakdown. He was clearly not himself at the time and was going through a lot of stress. He said he wasn't worthy of me or love, and I couldn't convince him otherwise. After getting help and medication, he asked for forgiveness and I took him back about 3 months after our breakup. We married a few years later.
It took me a while to sort out my heartbreak when he left me, and my fears that it could happen again if he ever were to stop taking his medicine, but I care about him deeply and decided I was willing to take that risk. He's been nothing but supportive and loving ever since, and we've grown a lot together.
I think in order for a relationship to work after it's been broken off before, you need to be able to forgive and move on from the past. You can't be resentful and you need trust.

Zero times and we're now very happily married. My other successful relationships were also 0 timers (except for the ends, of course 😅). I had one relationship with a lot of break ups and reconciliations and it was truly terrible, I wouldn't recommend it to anyone. If it happened to a friend more than once, I'd be telling them to leave that person for good ASAP

i don't know of anyone having built an actual working relationship from an on-off situation like that. examples of such might exist, but generally i doubt that it's even possible.

We didn't break up, but she broke off our engagement. I was a bit of a dick and she told me so. I told her that she should propose to me when she was ready. I sorted my shit out. Together 21 years, married for 16.

Zero times. Married 15 years now. Identifying and admitting to oneself that they are in a bad relationship can feel scary and overwhelming in the moment, been there too, but it's healthy to break things off with someone with whom you are incompatible.