Are a few people ruining the internet for the rest of us?

The few are ruining a LOT of things for the rest of us.

Yes. It's the same few people ruining everything else. I'll give you a hint: it starts with "b" and ends with "illionaires".

 think "50 year olds with undiagnosed autism"

I feel personally attacked

Yup

Does the term "Eternal September" tell you anything? Since then, the internet was not the same.

a few oligarchs