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Autism @lemmy.world

A_Union_of_Kobolds @lemmy.world

4w ago

mfw I start self-diagnosing in middle age

Yes im fixating on Elden Ring atm and yes that helped

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Yeah, both my kids are different levels of autistic but it wasn't until my wife pointed out that I was too, it all suddenly clicked into place.
For reference, I would've been about 47 when this happened, a couple of years ago.

Yeah its a weird feeling. A mix of relief that things sort of make sense, bewilderment that I've gone decades wearing masks and stimming without realizing it, frustration, trepidation, other SAT words. Plus some suspicions about other kids I grew up with...

Lol same boat. It clicked a couple years ago. My wife thought I should get diagnosed for a while, but why?
I'll still wear my headphones when I need to, ask for space when I need to, and masking up whenever I leave the house (and honestly around my kids. They're young and my son often asks why I'm mad if I'm not purposefully projecting my emotions).

I don't know if I'm autistic, but having cptsd and realizing that how I perceive the world is clinically incorrect was a debilitating moment for me. I assume some that get an autism diagnosis feels the same.
- From what I've been told over the years by various different head people, the overlap between the outward symptoms of cptsd and autism is somewhat large.
  The underlying causes are usually very different, but the expression has enough overlap that they always check for cptsd markers and questions.
  In my anecdotal experience, of course.
  It's also entirely possible to have both, which makes it even more complex.
  
  This is true from what I've read. Autistic people tend to suffer long term traumas due to being treated a certain way due to their autism THEN learning to mask those less accepted behaviors in order to fit in. Forcing a square peg into a round hole is soul crushing.

Watching my friends' kid and my nephew grow up... yeah, a lot of light bulbs went on.
- It took me a while. I watched a friend raise an autistic kid for years and went none the wiser.
  Like a dingus.
  Then I learned more... and remembered more...
  
  Eh, "dingus" is just being hard on yourself. None of us are pros, and most of us are left to connect dots on our own while struggling daily with a world designed for NTs. Self discovery is a journey... though it would've been really nice to have had someone point out important landmarks on the way.

totally thought I would hate elden ring. thought I would play a bit. get annoyed at dying all the time and stop playing. played to the end of both the main game and the dlc. have not started a new playththrough at level 2 or whatever.
- Man I've tried these games for years and it just finally clicked. Same as you, im about 1/3 through Erdtree but Nightreign is... addictive. I haven't started NG+ yet either
  
  well admitadely I relied heavily on searches of elden rings
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  cheese

i dont get it

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