"We're trying for a baby" is sexually graphic, and disgusting
It means they're having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.
It should not be tolerated at the workplace. I'm forced to listen to this rhetoric because my shift isn't done yet, and I can't leave without getting fired. I'm forced into a sexual discussion without consent, and it's so graphically disgusting that I feel nauseous.
It’s a euphemism designed to avoid explicit detail. You should be thankful for the phrase.
Also, it’s one of the most natural things imaginable, maybe work on understanding your own sensitivity rather than bringing other people down for being human.
By OP's logic, you shouldn't be able to tell anyone you are pregnant or that you have children because that eludes to the fact that at one point you've had sex. Next HR is going to remove the bathrooms from the office, because it assumes that people are pissing somewhere.
You probably also shouldn't mention that you have a mother or a father because that forces OP to picture your parents doing the deed to make you. Same goes for siblings and grandparents.
I agree, knowing other people have sex is absolutely fine, in fact I assume it as default for basically any adult in a relationship. Not using protection may be unwise in almost all cases, but trying for a baby with a partner is the main exception, and it's never been gross.
I understand that a lot of people have been raised with shame, and I feel a certain pity for them, but I'm not a fan of treating this shame as righteous.
Grow up love, your dad shot a fucking red hot load into your mum and thats why you're here. 21st century ridiculousness. Very unpopular opinion have an upvote.
red hot
You should see a doctor...
Bro, how do you think human life works? This is natural, sorry you are sensitive by very tame terminology. Perhaps you should talk to someone about why a necessary natural process causes you so much turmoil. I get that this is a workplace but is it too much to ask to allow for some personal freedom rather than sitting quietly working as a bot all day for your corporate overlords?
Based on the name of the community and the responses I’ve seen here, this is exactly the right place for this opinion.
I don't disagree, I was just offering some perspective.
"I'm going to the bathroom" is sexually graphic, and disgusting.
It means ejecting urine and or feces from the body and it finishes in the toilet.
It should not be tolerated at the workplace. I'm forced to listen to this rhetoric because my shift isn't done yet, and I can't leave without getting fired. I'm forced into a sexual discussion without consent, and it's so graphically disgusting that I feel nauseous.
I am very happy to see, reading the responses, that this is indeed an unpopular opinion. You sound quite squeamish and prudish. The couple is already presumably having sex, why in the world does it bother you that they acknowledge (with a completely not graphic euphemistic comment) that they want a baby? It's not a sexual comment.
Upvoted for unpopularity.
I think it's a common opinion in childfree circles. anything to dunk on "natalists".
Fantastic unpopular opinion. Post is work of a scholar.
No offense, but there is a point at which others aren't at fault and the behavior you're asking of them is ridiculous.
I'm a gay man. If I said to you, "my boyfriend has bareback anal sex with me and cums in my ass" at work, would you find it work-appropriate? Please answer.
False equivalency here, gay bro. Words mean things. Your original example was a euphemism, not graphic detail. Then you equated it with graphic detail, not euphemism. Most of the time, when people say they're "trying for a baby" (sorry, was that too graphic for you?) the meaning is more than "We're having vaginal sex." it's also "We're being intentional, have discussed it together, decided we both want it, and are excited about being parents." Furthermore, there is a possibility that this couple has struggled to have kids for vairous reasons, and are still determined. Maybe go have more gay sex and let your orgasms calm you down, gay bro.
What do I even reply to this?
Me personally and genuinely, would reply with "ok." or "cool." and that would be it.
False equivalency, obviously.
That being said your mindset is literally the mindset the homophobes have... Hearing the words "gay couple" means having to think about homosexuals and causes them discomfort and they want it gone. You literally just identifying as a gay man makes them think of exactly what you typed out there.
"I'm a gay man" might already elicit the image you paint in some people.
So not that different.
They aren't saying that, though. It's the equivalent of you saying "my boyfriend and I are going on a cruise."
Your example was "we're trying for a baby", not literally your first sentence in your post.
The phrase "we're trying for a baby" communicates the intent to start a family without eliciting unwanted images of raw dog cream pies. That is why we use it. If you are having these thoughts about your coworkers from this phrase, I submit that you are the problem.
Ridiculous ... but certainly unpopular, take an upvote.
Even the Victorian era thinks you might be a prude.
Why are kids these days such prudes? How do you think you got here lol.
Graphic ? meaning you're picturing it mentally ? that's you lacking control over your own brain
You are definitionally wrong. A graphic description means, "Describing or depicting in vivid and realistic detail." Saying, "We're trying for a baby," would be considered euphemistically sexual at best. A graphically sexual description would be something like, I don't know..."having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her."
OP does not know what "sexually graphic" means.
Well technically he is projecting sexually graphic here for us.
This must be an American.
Honestly, you might need therapy. But definitely an unpopular opinion, I'll give you that.
If I were to tell you that I have 3 kids, would you also be disgusted that I've had vaginal sex at least 3 times? Or is that somehow different?
Unpopular opinion for sure, but one built on immaturity and inability to reason as an adult.
If you were in an office and someone says that they are dropping loads in their wife, yea, that's fucked up and significantly different from saying that they're trying to have a child.
Just wait until they realize their parents had sex, maybe even more than once!
Eeewwwwwwww.
I'm so sorry to be the one to tell you this, but people are having sex all the time. I know it may be a shock, but the truth is stranger than fiction! In fact, and this is truly reprehensible, even animals are doing it. But no one should be allowed to reference it and we should all consider it gross. That makes sense.
It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.
Did you just find this out? Welcome to humanity. Every human being around you also farts, shits, and pisses too. That means if they excuse themselves to go to the bathroom that they very well may be creating a devastatingly disgusting mountain of shit covered in blood and bowel mucus that would humble Shrek himself. Does that mean someone excusing themselves to the bathroom is disgusting too?
You are focusing on .000000001% of what actually "trying for a baby" entails. It's not just the act of sex. It's the acceptance of two loving people that they are attempting to change their lives forever and be responsible for a child. It's letting other people know that a life change is coming and expect an emotional roller coaster. For YOU to focus on the sex aspect is actually kind of weird.
Thanks for the response. If a gay coworker described bareback sex to you, would you find it work-appropriate? Please answer.
Talk about sex is inappropriate regardless of orientation. A person explaining that they are at a point in their life that they are ready for or attempting to have a child is odd, in my opinion, but not inappropriate. Again, YOU are relating this to sex, not them.
Did they describe the sex though? Like came up to you and, unsolicited, said "OMG my husband shot such a big load inside me!", or did they just say they were trying to have a baby?
When someone says they are going to lunch do you say "eew, you are going to chew that food with all that saliva and then swallow it, and it's gonna travel through your digestive system and then you are going to poop? Why are you telling me this?"
Every one of your opinions is more unpopular than the last, you are the king of this place. This is for you:
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You're broken.
It's part of life. Like, literally. That's how this all works. Best to get used to the concept.
I mean, so is death, but the corpo workplace convention is that I should temper it with phrases such as “passed away” and “is no longer with us.”
I’d love if I could just say we’re fucking raw instead of the OP verbiage.
It might be a cultural thing, but where I live, people usually don't talk about it at work until the pregnancy has been successfully confirmed, in order to avoid the uncomfortable talks that a potential unsuccessful pregnancy would result in.
The only ones who talk about trying are often the ones who have difficulties with it. They could be getting a baby through insemination or fertility treatment and need time off for that etc.
OP is definitely a virgin, and very likely an incel. Also a high chance that OP is gay. It's okay, you can come out of the closet.
OP mentions being gay and sexually active in comments from over a day ago. So you're kinda 0 for 3, since I don't think accusing an out gay person of being closeted counts as accurate.
Hahahahaha. I often imagine other people having sex. It's sometimes hilarious. Nobody can stop me.
Also some people get pregnant other ways. They could be referring to in vitro or related procedures. For those people it can be very difficult and expensive. Be more positive and supportive of other people's hopes and dreams, or at least be neutral.
Sounds like something Hank Hill would get upset about.
"I'm going to go number 2" - Disgusting and graphic.
Had a colleague who said that he's disgusted when another colleague talks about his boyfriend. He advocated it basically because he was imagining anal sex between them all the time.
Three years later, these colleagues are boyfriends 💞💞💞
that's hot
Hypocrisy on display
How's that hot? Liberals made a straight man into a homo
You're a gay man with the same level of prudishness that makes conservatives not even want to allow you to be able to hold hands in public with your partner.
Congratulations on the unpopular opinion, but your levels of self-awareness need A LOT of work.
That strong anti natalist sentiment is palpable
People also say this when they are doing IVF and other fertility treatments. In fact every time I have heard this it involved fertility treatment because otherwise they just announce they are expecting.
It means they’re having bareback sex and the man orgasms while inside her.
Most of the time announcing a pregnancy or even just seeing kids at the park also means someone had sweaty bareback sex. Is it only bad when they announce it before the pregnancy?
What if they are trying to have a baby through in vitro fertilization? Your mind is what’s immediately going to sex. If someone is being more graphic in their description and talking about raw dogging and how often, then I think you have a case.
I don’t want to hear about people trying for kids either but I personally don’t care and just don’t engage in the conversation.
This, folks, is a perfect example of projection. OP is a gay man and has worried that others judge him for his preference, so he judges others for the same thing.
The healthy thing of course would be to learn to let it roll off his back, and in calming that, he would calm his own worry about others judging him.
“I put a thick load in my wife last night”
“My husband cums inside me all the time now”
I think these are way worse
they mean the same thing though
Yes, but usually people share this with only close ones and not publicly. I think it is okay to be gross with close people.
I don't think the statement is bad, but I can see why many wouldn't want to hear it in detail.
Yeah... Personally, I'd rather hear that a couple is trying for a baby over the bigoted shit I usually hear at work.
op doesnt seem to get any
No, he hates pussy, and anything that makes him think of pussy, honestly Dan Savage (famous advice gay) has the same hang up. I respect it.
I would also jump to the first conclusion that OP is oversexualizing stuff, but on the other hand, there are many other ways to give the information which doesn't induce pictures in brains od people who are very visually oriented. "We hope/plan to have kids in the near future/soon/within a year or two".
Same as we don't need to know people have blasting diarrhea, enough to say they have digestive problems or stomach pain.
But how is "we hope to have kids soon" any different to "we're trying for a baby"? Both implies they (are going to) have sex. And both isn't the same as "my husband is gonna cum inside me this weekend and we're thinking brezel dip since we don't enjoy missionary that much I just don't get that stimulated since his penis is on the smaller side but also I should be lying down right? I mean we are usually the doggy type of people but that's just not that good for the sperm to travel up the vag. But with missionary his dick just tends to slip out and if that happens right before orgasm and we lose all the jizz this cycle is gonna be done for. So we're gonna go for some obazda if you know what I'm saying"
I personally already have graphic images when I just hear people talking about their kids. That means these people did it at least the number of times they have children. My mind automatically goes there. But that's my problem, no one is pulling their dick out and no one is telling me anything graphic.
Because "We are trying for a baby" gives the "we fuck right now every moment we can" vibe, while "we hope to have kids soon" gives the "we have sex just like any other couple in the world, we just don't use protection" vibe.
If you are discusted by "we plan to have kids soon" you might aswell be discusted by the fact people have sex in general. In that case you simply have an oversexualized mind and the problem really isn't anymore in what words people use because any words will trigger you. You do notice women walk around with breasts. So discusting.
It's not that crazy, but it's a little uncomfortable to basically just be told that 2 people are rawdogging. It's nowhere near nausea inducing, and it's not really a sexual discussion. Would I rather not hear it? Of course. Is it that bad? Not really.
It's nowhere near nausea inducing
Are you sure? I find it nauseating, so I'm not sure why you're saying I don't.
It should be nowhere near nausea inducing, my mistake. Would you happen to be a sex repulsed asexual?
If someone uses that occasion to turn to you and ask if you’re ever going to have a kid, just respond with “not unless I’ve got ovaries on my tonsils!” And then somehow that’s a visit with HR.
Correct
Could go even further and announce you're practicing how it's done. Even without trying for a baby. And like you're constantly getting better... Or lost 2 pounds due to the additional workout...
"Went to the doctor to put a load in a plastic cup so they could insert it with a medical tool."
"We are getting IVF treatment, so we froze some medically inseminated eggs to omplant mater, but wanted to sound like everyone else when saying we were trying because it is frustrating finding out getting pregnant is a lot more difficult for us than other people."
Are those better?
I'm the wrong person to judge. I'm completely indifferent. I'd say "good for you" but really couldn't care less. Unless that was my boss or mom or something...
THANK GOD someone else thinks this. I don't want to hear this at all. Ever.
Yeah I have 3 kids, never once did I go around telling people that I was trying to have kids. Of course I wasn't trying they just happen naturally.
Never understood that trying to have a baby thing. Seems weird to me. I assume all married couples either on birth control or having bareback sex. But then again don't hang around people who dicuss their sex life either.
i downvoted because I agree !
here's the thing i don't know if many consider: being able to announce to an entire room full of strangers that you are having unprotected penetrative vaginal sex for the purpose of procreation is a unique experience only straight people are allowed to have. if i, as a gay person, merely make mention of my same-sex love life it may be seen as me "shoving it in everyone's faces" or "inappropriate," because the sex i have is pointless and therefore not worthy of the same kind of social acknowledgment. it's frustrating to hear straight people say shit like "yeah we're trying for a baby" because all i want to do is tell people i'm going to spend the weekend cuddled up with my boyfriend and i often can't.
being able to announce to an entire room full of strangers that you are having unprotected penetrative vaginal sex for the purpose of procreation is a unique experience only straight people are allowed to have.
y lesbian coworker announced she was trying to have a baby, which was through IVF. That doesn't include the raw dogging part, but it does meet the announcing to a room part.
Do straight people normally announce how they are trying? Everyone I know that said they were trying were doing fertility treatments that involved doctors doing an insemination instead of raw dogging it.
You're changing "trying to have a baby" to "unprotected vaginal sex" which is not what's being said, and comparing that to you saying "cuddling your BF". If you immediately jump to the specific details about them having sex, that's a you problem and kinda fucked up.
If you want to say you're cuddling your BF this weekend, and people are upset about it, put them on the spot and ask why. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that statement. Publicly shame people for their bigotry, and maybe they'll grow up or at least shut up.
I'm not gay. I worked in manufacturing for almost a decade, and those environments tend to attract a certain demographic of people. One June I put a rainbow flag up on my desk and it stayed there until I left the company. One of my favorite past times was pressuring people who made back handed comments to explain them. Admittedly, I grew up in a small town with 3 black people and no out gay people. It took me a minute to get comfortable with something that I grew up thinking was disgusting because of my surroundings. I fortunately didn't have to be shamed into change, just exposure was enough, but there are others that will never get there on their own.
what are you talking about? tell me what "trying for a baby" means if not having PIV sex lol. hey buddy, you don't know how it is to be gay in the workplace, so maybe don't tell me what i should or shouldn't do when my livelihood is on the line. think about your privilege here and who you are talking to. my point was this: people can make statements that IMPLY they are having sex with each other but i can't be assured my statement of merely cuddling with my boyfriend won't get me harassed or made to feel othered.
Correct. Thanks for understanding. And I'm sorry. Hopefully someday we'll reach real inclusion. Best of luck to you and your family
Hopefully someday we’ll reach real inclusion, but in the meantime you want to silence all mention of intercourse? Isn’t there enough shame in our societies?
To be clear, I fully support the inclusion you’re talking about, but shaming and silencing hopeful parents is not going to achieve it.