Toxic Masculinity

What happens if he says yes? Then you are trapped alone with him. Seems worse lol
- Then you bail
  
  you bail either way
- You wouldn't be alone if either party has women friends. I wouldn't be surprised if the guy in this post had no women friends , or only had women be wanted to fuck.
  Also the bisexual erasure is pretty thick here.
  
  Men lusting after women is bad because women are territory that each man must protect.
  Women lusting after women is good because that means larger harem for alpha man.
  Men lusting after men is best, because we achieve peak masculinity and become Spartans and conquer the world.
  
  That's when you double down and say he can't have women friends because he'll want to fuck them. Then throw a jealousy tantrum because that's literally what he said.

And that's why I just cut contact with all people in my life every time I get a partner, to be respectful. Haven't talked to my grandpa in years but what can you do?
- This is why all my friends are asexual eunuchs.
  
  Watch out, they'll connive on you

"Do you wanna fuck her?"
"How many times do I have to explain what pansexuality is? I wanna fuck everyone, everywhere, alll the time!"
- Everyone!
- Yeah but I'm not into inanimate objects.
  My rules are:
  It has to be alive
  It has to give consent
  Although if a vampire showed up and consented to sex, I might bend rule 1.
- Having only male friends is a red flag.
  
  It's only a red flag every 28 days.
  
  What about having no friends at all?
  
  irl I'm a woman and I only have male friends... Okay I have ONE Female friend and I rarely see her anymore. I'm not avoiding her or anything, our paths just drifted apart.

UNOooooooooooo.

I can say I have been with girls whose friends were guys all wanted to fuck em. I never held against em. Was honest about it with em, but I always put the trust in them to do the right thing.
I've learned in life there's a little truth to everything, and a lot of bullshit with a lot of things. You'll have horrible women, and horrible men. You'll have folks so obviously blind to what's in front of em, they won't know until their bumping uglies with eachother. You just gotta roll with it.

I laughed but then I thought about my hubby's friends.
Ew that's nasty 🤢

She's right, though. The only friend I ever had who wasn't creepy with my girlfriends behind my back was gay.
- Get better friends!
  
  Oh for sure. Way ahead of you, ditched those guys years ago. Now I just have no friends!
- I've only had 1 close friend I wouldn't trust with a so at least back in the day. Now we're all old and married with kids, but we still mock his sexual conquests like the black tooth trailer park girl he lost his virginity to.

I feel like there is a difference between finding someone attractive enough to entertain the idea of having sex with them and starting/maintaining a friendship for the sole purpose of keeping open the possibility of sex in the future when they can exploit a vulnerability. If a friend treats everyone of his/her friends roughly equal, I see no harm. However, „friends“ that bend over backwards, get overly touchy and so on with the people in a committed relationship they wanna bang and not with people they don’t, I see a problem. Worst case yet that i encountered was a „friend“ that mimicked mannerisms, hobbies and appearances of the partner that „stood in his way“. That’s just plain creepy.

Uno!!!!

It's always nice when toxic people pair up. They can just be toxic to each other and leave the rest of us out of it.

Punctuation
- One time a guy, I was with, was like; "all your male friends[ want to fuck you]© you should stop seeing them" ... And I was like {all your male friends want fuck me too™ we should stop seeing them"¢ and that's when I learned toxic masculinity can be funny~ when I do it®
  Yur rite🤾‍♂️prononicitating correct like makes it much more 🦐
  
  This punctuation is 100% correct for reading it in a Christopher Walken cadence
- The message is clear, who cares?
  
  The message is needlessly convoluted, that is why I said something. Be mad.
- so there i was minding my own business when suddenly someone decided to become the ultimate guardian of punctuation like seriously who died and made you the king of commas and periods i mean really do you go around with a red pen in your hand just waiting to correct people is it a hobby or are you just that bored with your life let me tell you something oh mighty punctuation overlord the world is not going to end if someone forgets a comma or misplaces a semicolon i know it might be hard for you to grasp but people can actually understand sentences without perfect punctuation it's almost like we have this amazing ability to comprehend context and meaning even when a sentence isn't perfectly structured with all the right punctuation marks in place i mean do you think shakespeare sat around worrying about punctuation probably not he was too busy writing amazing plays and sonnets that people still love today and guess what his punctuation wasn't always perfect either but here you are in the 21st century acting like the punctuation police as if the world will crumble if someone forgets an oxford comma oh the horror i can just see you now clutching your pearls at the sight of a misplaced apostrophe but let me ask you something oh wise one do you think people will remember you for your impeccable punctuation or for being a pedantic nuisance who couldn't see the forest for the trees because let me tell you something the world is full of beautiful imperfect things and sometimes a sentence without perfect punctuation is just a reflection of that imperfection so next time you feel the urge to correct someone's punctuation maybe take a deep breath and remember that life is too short to worry about such trivial things and who knows maybe you'll find that the world is a much happier place when you're not constantly nitpicking every little punctuation mark or maybe you'll just find a new hobby like knitting or birdwatching anything really that doesn't involve being a punctuation tyrant but hey that's just my opinion i could be wrong maybe you're just a punctuation superhero saving the world one comma at a time but somehow i doubt it so go ahead and keep being the punctuation police but don't be surprised if people start rolling their eyes every time you open your mouth because let's face it nobody likes a grammar nasi and yes i spelled nasi with an s just to annoy you because sometimes you just have to break the rules to make a point and maybe just maybe you'll learn to lighten up and enjoy life without worrying about every little punctuation mark but i won't hold my breath because let's face it some people just love being pedantic and there's nothing anyone can do about it so good luck with your punctuation crusade i'm sure it's a very fulfilling way to spend your time and who knows maybe one day you'll look back and realize that life is too short to worry about such trivial things but until then i'll be over here writing sentences without perfect punctuation and enjoying the freedom that comes with it so goodbye oh mighty punctuation overlord may your commas always be in the right place and your semicolons never be misused but most importantly may you find something more meaningful to do with your time than policing other people's punctuation because let's face it the world has enough problems without you adding to them with your pedantic ways.
  
  That looks kind of funny, but ain't nobody got time fo dat
  
  I looked really hard for a period in that sentence then I found it 😁
- Let you're Jesus live they're life, They're fighting the patriarchy;
  (There I used an extra cup of grammar; I even made sure I used words with apostrophes for you)
  
  It made me giggle.
- You want OP to ask someone to correct the grammar on their post before OP posts a screenshot somewhere else?
  
  No. Effort, should by all means, be discouraged.

Im sorry if its misogynistic but I dont really want a woman nobody else wants to fuck.
Like... if the consensus is "Naaaaaah" theres probably a really good reason.
- The fact that you're basing your desire on anyone else's opinions at all means you are not based. Next.
  
  The fact that you don't take other people's opinions into account for desire may suggest you lack Theory of Mind. You should get that looked into. Other people's dispositions toward something are one of the best heuristics available for quickly learning about that thing.
- You are not sorry enough yet.
- That comment is badly phrased, but I can appreciate at least some of the sentiment. I’ve always felt pride if other people have found my partner attractive. It appeals to my self-esteem and vanity knowing that this person who is desired by others, chose me.
- the consensus is often based on looks, idk if that's a good reason
- People are downvoting you, but there's truth there. I assume you're not just talking about looks, because that would be stupid and you deserve all the downvotes. However, If a woman has some major red flags that everybody except you knows about, than your statement holds. For example when you join a new friend group or you move to a new town and you think you meet a nice girl, bit everybody starts warning you te get out.
  Back in the day, we used the maxim of "don't stick your dick in crazy". You can't say that anymore in this time of nazis and toxic masculinity, but I think this is what OP means.
- It's only misogynistic if you have a different standard for men.
- Finding someone attractive and wanting to fuck them are two distinct things.
  I can appreciate someone being very fucking attractive indeed, despite not wanting to fuck them due to me not wanting to fuck people in relationships.
  It's like imagine someone really fucking sexy to you. Now imagine you have no condoms and you know they have full blown AIDS. Does that perhaps make you less willing to fuck said person? Would for me.

I feel like there's a difference between the two but judging by this comment section lemmy doesn't do nuance.
- Exactly which nuance is important in this context?
  
  Presumably the fact that she isn't hanging around his male friends when he is not around? Otherwise they would technically also be "her male friends". Beyond that, he probably has more context to trust his friends.
  Apples to apples would be saying they should stop hanging around his female friends, but given how he is implied to act, I would think it unlikely he has any (or at the very least they are unlikely to want to fuck him).
  Though frankly, if he is worried about her male friends to the extent that he wants her to stop hanging around them, then the relationship is already on shaky ground. Because he is overly possessive and controlling, and possibly also because she really is giving him reasons to feel insecure. If it's just the former, then her trolling his toxicity is very funny. If it's also the latter, then... well it's still kinda funny, but in a more mean spirited way.
  So I'm not sure the nuance between the asks really changes the point of the post.
  
  You see, when some motherfucker you don't know wants to fuck your girl, that's BAD! When it's ya homies, it's chill.
  
  the two nuances in her post image
  as shitty a person as the comment guy is he’s probably right in that most if not all of her friends do want to fuck her
  just ready anything about the shit pretty women have to put up with
  
  His friends aren't his friends because they want to fuck his girlfriend. They were his friends before he had a girlfriend.
  Her guy friends are only friends with her because they want to fuck her.
  Those are completely different things in this small window of context.
- What nuance? The misogyny??
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- These comments are really weird.
  
  Eh, posts like this give people a chance to reflect on their own relationships, and bounce their thoughts off of the internet in a relatively safe space. Half of what you are hearing is folks imprinting on the situation. Things are gonna get a little weird.
- If federated platforms were people archetypes, Lemmy is Bernie Bros with mellowed rhetoric that think they're beyond sexism 🤷
  
  Haven't had a sexual urge since 1997!

Also I think it has to be stated in life do your own thing. Most relationships, if you don't breed right away are lessons about others, life and yourself. You will learn finding women is realitivly easy but over coming financial strain is a whole bit of fucking awful. You will learn that there is not much love really in this world. As you all argue about mating issues the kings are gaining territory which has nothing to do with mating. This wretched earth.
- Is this copy pasta?
  
  Nothing personnel kid.
  While you were out there having sex, I studied the blade
  teleports behind you
  
  It is now
- go touch grass
  
  Hmm. This seems like a pretty bad case. We might have to break out the big guns and have this one touch corn and maybe even pet an animal.
- What?
  
  Didn't you read? If you don't breed right away, you'll learn lessons. Lessons about how easy it is to find women. Very easy. There's plenty of women everywhere. Financial struggles, however, are no fun to overcome. No real love out there. Y'all worry about mating. Kings, meanwhile, expand their reach, and not through breeding.
- You good bro?
- wtf are you talking about? Just learn how to talk to women, it’s not that hard and you don’t have to be rich to have sex
- Pretty sure kings used arranged marriages to expand their reach all the time
- In my seven year relationship, I have been nothing but better off financially since I started dating my partner because now we have two incomes.
  The term DINK is a term for a reason.