i was explaining my sexuality to my coworkers

Thank you, that was helpful!

Saved me a search.

For some people, kink is about power exchange and roleplay, not always about sex. Kink is another type of activity and attraction (like, there's friendship, romance, sexual partnership, and kink). Just like how romantic and sexual attraction often go together but you can separate them out sometimes (friends with benefits), I find that sexual and kinky activity often but not always go together.

For example, you could be friends with benefits except the benefits deal with your mind (power exchange, playing around) and not so much your sexual organs. That could be friendship, kink, and not sex.

Hello! I'm a similar way to what is described in the post. The common term used to refer to this is "Aegosexual" (aego parsing as a-ego, "no ego")

I enjoy looking at nsfw/kink content, but there is no fantasy to participate in the acts they depict. I only want to enjoy it as an observer.

Good human!