me_irl

Idk I think that's fucking rude. What adult person would contemplate treating other people like that?
"You bore me, I'll go do something better than spending time with you"
Seems only a valid option when you're some kind of sociopath considering other people only by their usefulness to yourself. On the other hand maybe I'm overthinking a meme
- I've met plenty of people where this would be an appropriate response. Not because they're boring but because they're trashy humans, I am not obligated to listen to someone's hateful shit, I can just get up and leave.
  
  Is one of those people your father?
- As one of them autistic idiots, I really wish people would be straight up, clear as fuck, and brutally honest about everything they are feeling/ thinking. If your bored, just fucking tell me your bored. If you don't want to be around me, just fucking tell me you don't want to be around me. I'm not likely to be offended and then I don't have play the agonizing game of "Guess That Weird Human Emotion I Can't Comprehend".
  I don't think your perspective is invalid in the slightest, just offering a different perspective of the same coin. As with every social thing, its all circumstantial. Saying something like this to your boss during a meeting or the VIPs at wedding, is probably not going to so well. But if you know the person and its helpful to them in some way, then I would actually encourage this language.
  
  And I have autistic friends who would straight up never forget being told something that cruel, even if they agreed they were being boring. Partly because they would agree they must be boring.
  It's like you can't paint everyone in a broad category the same or something.
  
  The point is that there are better and more kind ways to get the desired outcome (the end of the topic or conversation) than vocally blaming the boredom that you're feeling on the other person.
  If I'm talking to someone, they interrupt me, tell me I'm boring, and then leave, that kinda feels awful. Yes, I do want the feedback, and someone straight up telling me that is probably better than pretending or looking at their phone, but I'd rather they tease me with a "get to the point".
- You know what I love? When people spend time with me because they feel trapped by social awkwardness. It's definitely a good use of my time. Totally makes me feel good about myself, too.
  
  https://lemmy.zip/comment/18633447
- i have done this once as an adult. it was late, noisy and hot and i just felt the moment my social battery totally emptied out. had to stand up and say "i have to leave now, good night" because otherwise i would not have had the energy to make it home.
- I have a friend who does this, delivery is everything. Usually it's simpler, just "I'm leaving now".
  
  That works better of course. For some reason half of lemmy is socially inept and assumes I would never ever leave a situation I find annoying or boring instead of like, finding a normal way to phrase it?
  oh well, guess I'll head out now
  see ya later
  I'm exhausted and need to go home
  I gotta leave, don't want to get home too late
  thanks for having me over
  Or any variation that isn't outright rude to the other person works just fine. It isn't even about not signaling you're bored or whatever, just the blunt rudeness when there are plenty other options.
  As for total dipshits who don't deserve better, why would you hang out in the first place?
  
  That's me! People in my friend group know I have a social limit and can't always articulate things well. So it isn't uncommon for me to wander off mid conversation. About half the time with a "I'm heading out" and half the time I won't say anything, and everyone is cool with it
- It is meant to be an amusing post, but you can do this in a socially acceptable way by saying "I'm going to do some other things I need to get to".
  
  https://lemmy.zip/comment/18633447
- I would find it hilarious.
- I'm going to go... do... better stuff!
  
  Oh yeah well I'm gonna go do your mom
- Changes the phrasing "This phrasing is rude!" 😮
  
  Bad bot

In Britain you slap your hands on your knees and say "right"
- Best get going
  
  Whelp
- Right.

I had a friend who would say, "I'm tired of your bullshit" and just leave or hangup. A lot of my friends are on the spectrum (if not deep into it), so I'm used to them awkwardly making excuses or just leaving without a word. But this was the first time I saw someone use this quirk for comedic effect.
- I'm usually the quiet one in the Discord. If it's been a while since I've said something, but I wanna leave, but I don't want to just leave without saying anything, I'll usually just go, "aaaalright I'm leaving" and disconnect before anyone has time to say anything. Half that friend group is also on the spectrum so I don't think anyone even finds it particularly odd.

I'm more of a
Weeelllll anyway- I'm gonna head off now, I'll see ya.

I got in trouble last week because people were talking for 40min in a meeting about recball vs travel ball (kids baseball).After 5 attempts to talk about work or change topics and two attempts to talk over them... I said, "turns out i dont give a fuck about this conversation so im going to my office to work." Which didnt go over well for some reason.
- Back when Clash of Clans was in its heyday I would get extra spicy when I had to wait ten to fifteen minutes for a Quality Assurance person to finish their Clash conversation to be able to continue my work. All while the person the QA was always talking to, the maintenance chief, was trying to make us complete the maintenance cycles faster ("but not rushing you. If you feel rushed that's self inflicted"), and banned people from bringing phones onto the hangar deck because they were a distraction. Irony.