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“And that is how you become a forever DM children. It happened to me.” 😔

Not really! I love being a DM. But then unlike my two friends I wasn’t the regular DM weekly for 12 years. So there’s that.

For forever DMs out there. Do you ever get to play?

Do you take regular breaks?

How does DMing work for you?

And thanks. I see you.

🙏❤️

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  • Hercules and Atlas

    When Hercules visited King Eurystheus, he told Hercules he would need to complete 12 difficult labors for him. One of those labors was to steal the golden apples that belonged to Zeus. These apples were in a garden and guarded by a hundred-headed dragon and the Hesperides sea nymphs. Hercules did not know how he was going to get past these guards to steal the golden apples, so he sought the help of Atlas at the advice of Prometheus.

    Hercules visited Atlas and proposed a deal: if Atlas fetched the golden apples, Hercules would hold up the earth. Atlas hated holding up the earth, so he willfully agreed. After Atlas had retrieved the apples, he returned to Hercules and told him that he would take the apples to King Eurystheus himself. After all, Atlas did not want to return to holding up the earth.

    Hercules could not let Atlas do that but also didn’t know how to give him back the earth, so Hercules came up with a plan. Hercules asked Atlas to take the earth for a moment while he placed some soft padding on his shoulders to help him hold the earth. When Atlas agreed and took the earth back on his shoulders, Hercules grabbed the apples and left Atlas at the edge of the earth holding the world like he had done for so many years before.

  • I tried setting up our game so that other people could take over and DM it and take turns. Alas, I am the forever DM. I enjoy DMing, but missed playing.

    But about a year ago I got to join an OSRIC campaign. It's been fun getting to play again!

  • I just wish I had the creativity, ability to improvise, and dedication necessary to DM. It's the fact that I'm lacking in all three that keeps me out of that position.

    • Those are all should skills you can develop! Just start DMing with a pre-made adventure and go from there.

  • I actually enjoy playing a lot more than DMing. I don't really like DMing all that much but I hate not having a game even more. I wish one of my friends would step up to the plate.

  • Let's see. I started as DM in 92, after the group I was a player in fell apart.

    From then, it was 99 before I had a chance to play as a player again. However! It was the first time someone ran my home brew system other than me, so it was a double pleasure. It was cool as fuck to see my best friend build his own world around the same mechanics and ideas we'd used with me as GM

    After that, it was, I think 2003? A friend ran a white wolf game series. We did Vampire, werewolf, and changeling (or whatever the faery system was called). That lasted maybe six months though, the dude running it was a flake.

    That's it, that's the sum total of play time I've had as a player in thirty odd years lol.

    I've gotten my fix in video games off and on. D&d online, neverwinter there for a while, replays of Baldur's gate and 2, that weird superhero MMORPG. I'd play Baldur's gate 3, but I don't have the income to upgrade my hardware. That's usually good enough tbh.

    I've thought about finding an online group to join, but I'm not super reliable these days. My parents are aging, I've got a kid, so I can't do regularly scheduled play reliably. That's a big ask for a group to put up with.

    Thing is, I fucking love running a game. The world building, the planning of sessions amd campaigns, all the minutia of it just makes me happy. I have NPC enemies built up in five or six game systems that probably won't ever get used, but I have fun making them up.

    When I don't have a game going, I write instead.

  • Yuuup. Hey, look at this cool We Be Goblins adventure Paizo did for Free RPG Day. Why don't I run that? What's this? An adventure hook in the back of it for one of their Adventure Paths? Sure, I'll run that. Skip to five years later and I'm half-way through running another Adventure Path and I've done several other shorter adventures besides.

    That said, I'm not the only member of our group that GMs, just the most reliable.

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